mehwish_101
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I hope you are all fine, i have a great problem at my hands. One of my really close friends(a girl ofcourse) may be divorced soon because of problems she is having with her married life. She was married 2 1/2 years ago to a guy who came here on her spouse visa. He is a nice man, does whatever he can to provide for the 2 of them. The problem is my friend has been very mean to her husband lately. She keeps him inline by putting pressure on him in every possible way. Doesn't give hime time as she works part time(just to stay away from home, this i know). She is very good with us friends but as i said, she does everything she can to keep her husband in line. She is rude to him, always pinching in matters of little or no value, creating an atmosphere of restlesness. She never does any housework or cooking and her husband has to take care of that as well as his job.
All these years her husband has tried to make her realize that she is stepping on his toes and not giving him his rights as the leader of the family and is mistreating him but she never bothered until recently when she packed up her things and went to her parents after a heated argument waiting for her husband to come a apologize regardless of whose mistake it was as she has done many times previously, only this time she has recieved a letter from her husband's lawyer informing her that her husband is going to divorce her. The men in the family have tried to advise her husband to give up such intentions and try to make this work but he is not listening to anyone saying that he has been mistreated long enough and he is leaving her for good as Islam gave him this right to divorce a rebellious wife after he has tried his level best to make it work.
I am in a dilemma, what should i tell her? Should i say that she should not have mistreated her husband and given him his islamic right of final say even when he was dependent on her for his immigration status and should have been obedient as is the order of Allah (swt) or to accept the situation as she would laugh and tell me how she keeps her husband in line and i should do the same and don't act like a slave of my husband. I take pride in being good and soft to my husband and hurry to please him, he doesn't earn much but i am grateful to him as he is my ameer, my husband and by the way, my husband was on my dependent visa when he came here, he doesn't need it now but i know, inshallah he won't leave me for for mountain of gold.
I feel very sorry for her because her husband is not the least interested in her anymore.
What can we do to soften her husband's heart towards her again..
ws
I hope you are all fine, i have a great problem at my hands. One of my really close friends(a girl ofcourse) may be divorced soon because of problems she is having with her married life. She was married 2 1/2 years ago to a guy who came here on her spouse visa. He is a nice man, does whatever he can to provide for the 2 of them. The problem is my friend has been very mean to her husband lately. She keeps him inline by putting pressure on him in every possible way. Doesn't give hime time as she works part time(just to stay away from home, this i know). She is very good with us friends but as i said, she does everything she can to keep her husband in line. She is rude to him, always pinching in matters of little or no value, creating an atmosphere of restlesness. She never does any housework or cooking and her husband has to take care of that as well as his job.
All these years her husband has tried to make her realize that she is stepping on his toes and not giving him his rights as the leader of the family and is mistreating him but she never bothered until recently when she packed up her things and went to her parents after a heated argument waiting for her husband to come a apologize regardless of whose mistake it was as she has done many times previously, only this time she has recieved a letter from her husband's lawyer informing her that her husband is going to divorce her. The men in the family have tried to advise her husband to give up such intentions and try to make this work but he is not listening to anyone saying that he has been mistreated long enough and he is leaving her for good as Islam gave him this right to divorce a rebellious wife after he has tried his level best to make it work.
I am in a dilemma, what should i tell her? Should i say that she should not have mistreated her husband and given him his islamic right of final say even when he was dependent on her for his immigration status and should have been obedient as is the order of Allah (swt) or to accept the situation as she would laugh and tell me how she keeps her husband in line and i should do the same and don't act like a slave of my husband. I take pride in being good and soft to my husband and hurry to please him, he doesn't earn much but i am grateful to him as he is my ameer, my husband and by the way, my husband was on my dependent visa when he came here, he doesn't need it now but i know, inshallah he won't leave me for for mountain of gold.
I feel very sorry for her because her husband is not the least interested in her anymore.
What can we do to soften her husband's heart towards her again..
ws