A REASON WHY SHE DOESN'T WEAR HIJAB

[IHearIslam]

Brother mohamedmaksudul,

what you say is correct....but like sister kayleigh mentioned there is a difference between BELEIVING and DOING. Many sisters do believe in the verses of the Qur'an that talk about Hijab-but they dont wear it because they're not ready yet or dont have the strength (whatever the reason is) for them we ask Allaah to give them the strength to do that which pleases Him. amee
it's not our position to say that they're disbelievers or whatnot. May Allaah forgive us...we always have to check and see what the condition is, then and only then can we come to conclusion.
Many of us are unaware of why such and such sister is not covering up, yet we might be too quick to judge. I ask Allaah to forgive us,

I truly hope you understand the point I am trying to make here insha'Allaah..

 

[JenGiove]

Trying2Learn,

While I do not wear a head covering, have you thought about wearing a Pashmina....those you CAN get here...There are also several Islamic centers near by (I live in Maryland) who I imagine would have resources for you...possably local ones instead of online.

 

[arzafar]

asalam o alykum wr wb
in todayz world there are two main confusing things in muslims about islam,
hijab and jihad.
these are the points that make one strange in others while other rituals are agreed upon by all (with differences in their methods of observing)...muslims however even-if they dont offer salah but they believe that its obligatory...
but these two obligations are been made confused because the level of sacrifice in both is great, you have to leave too many things to fulfill these obligations,
since we became habituals of ease by the course of time, so we have paved some escape roads from these ...
and as mentioned above hijab is not only a covering.....
its hiyya and covering both ...both are equally important:shymuslima1:
may Allah bestow me and my muslim sisters spirit the right way wear hijab and modesty...
:salam2:

i would have included a beard as well you know.

However, jihad is incomparable to the other two. physical jihad is the perfection of faith and one of the greatest of all acts. when a man is convinced about the certainty of islaam, he is compelled to sacrifice his wealth, family and other worldly desires in Allah's cause. the fact that many Muslim are unconvinced about hijaab or beard when both are clear cut obligations, it is no wonder that Muslims themselves fear mentioning the word 'jihaad' as if it's some kind of a bad word. it is in fact obligatory.

the reason fro such denial, clearly is weakness of faith and love for the world.
:salam2:

 

[JenGiove]

May I suggest asking the Sister why she chooses (or is choosing today...maybe its a rare thing that she is w/o Hijab) to not wear the head covering....In that way, you gently open the door for teaching AND you are not being judgmental.

I have to agree with kayleigh about women being believers vs. non believers. Sometimes, it is easier to teach the truth about something when a person is not just looking at the outside. For those of us with children, how many times have we had to disguise foul tasting medicine with other foods just to get what was good for our children into their systems? Allow Creator to move the person to wear Hijab or not after that, but first the message needs to be heard with an open heart.

Kayleigh, I speak now with great respect and most likely out of turn, since I am not a Muslim, but one thing I have noticed here about women is the manner in which they speak. Their tone of voice. A gentle voice, even one that is conveying anger or frustration is still heard as gentle and the speaker is, while upset, is still showing respect. I understand your feelings well, maybe not in regards to wearing Hijab but as a non-Muslim American I've had a difficult time curbing my tongue, and its defensive tone, while discussions that I have found either untrue or downright hateful went on around me. I've been spoken to about it and Inshallah, I will learn greater patience. Sometimes I was in the right to defend my point and sometimes it would have been better to have remained silent but I know I have already learned several lessons from those whom I originally disliked intensely.

Remember the old saying, you can attract more flies with honey than with vinegar.

 

[MohammedMaksudul]

Not doing something and not believing it's even in the Qur'an are two different things. I'm sure there's plenty of things in the Qur'an you've ignored or gone against throughout your life, just as everyone else has. If being perfect was a condition to being Muslim, then there wouldn't be any Muslims.

Not wearing hijab does not automatically make you a non-Muslim. Period. My original comment on the topic was directed at a post the OP made questioning who the real kaffir is if a woman goes out without hijab, which is just ridiculous.

Brother mohamedmaksudul,

what you say is correct....but like sister kayleigh mentioned there is a difference between BELEIVING and DOING. Many sisters do believe in the verses of the Qur'an that talk about Hijab-but they dont wear it because they're not ready yet or dont have the strength (whatever the reason is) for them we ask Allaah to give them the strength to do that which pleases Him. amee
it's not our position to say that they're disbelievers or whatnot. May Allaah forgive us...we always have to check and see what the condition is, then and only then can we come to conclusion.
Many of us are unaware of why such and such sister is not covering up, yet we might be too quick to judge. I ask Allaah to forgive us,

I truly hope you understand the point I am trying to make here insha'Allaah..

i would have included a beard as well you know.

However, jihad is incomparable to the other two. physical jihad is the perfection of faith and one of the greatest of all acts. when a man is convinced about the certainty of islaam, he is compelled to sacrifice his wealth, family and other worldly desires in Allah's cause. the fact that many Muslim are unconvinced about hijaab or beard when both are clear cut obligations, it is no wonder that Muslims themselves fear mentioning the word 'jihaad' as if it's some kind of a bad word. it is in fact obligatory.

the reason fro such denial, clearly is weakness of faith and love for the world.
:salam2:

:salam2:

Sister kayleigh, I am sorry again if you have misunderstood me and felt offended. Sister, all I tried was to emphasis the importance of Hijab which is obligatory and not rule out a kaafir based on only this. I am not a native english speaker and it might just be that I am not good with my wordings, hence I am often misunderstood. I just tried to point out that modesty is not an optional thing in Islam that you either do it or you don't and you have nothing on you. It is infact a very big and important part of the Muslim life. That said sister, sorry again for offending. Yes indeed, there has been points in life in which I got to know about something and then still wasn't able to do it out of weakness of Eeman. But I always prayed to Allah (SWT) to strengthen me and forgive me. And eventually I got over a lot of those problems, which is still a ongoing process. May Allah forgive me if I have said anything wrong.

Sister AmatuAllah4lyf, I understood that but if you study more you will see that in Islam our actions justify our intentions and vice versa. While yes, just because I am not doing something does not really justify that I don't believe it. What I tried to mean was that we are taking on a very big responsibility on us, when we claim to be Muslims. Now after taking on such a thing on us, we should be very much careful about our actions as they have a profound effect on the society. Yes, there should be softness in correcting others but sometimes its a bit of harshness that is necessary to get us back in to our senses. Probably, it was my shortcoming that I was unable to express what I thought in words. I hope everyone here will ignore these shortcomings of mine and try to perceive what I wanted to say. Even then I am always open to be corrected as yes as sister Kayleigh has said, you can not be perfect. This is very true indeed as if it was the case and there was no bad and mistakes in us, we would have been greeted by Angels. May Allah forgive us for our shortcomings and Guide us on the true straight path of Allah.

I testify that what brother arzafar has said is the truth. We have a lot of misconceptions about these topics, so we should study more about them. There are unanimous agreement on of both Hijab and Beard being obligatory. Still we shun them away by excuse of "no compulsion in religion" and "optional sunnah". While out of weakness we deny that the physical form of Jihad is the greater form of Jihad.

May Allah (SWT) guide us.

Again, sorry for if I have hurt or offended any of you. Clearly, my intention was only to convey my knowledge.

 

[MohammedMaksudul]

May I suggest asking the Sister why she chooses (or is choosing today...maybe its a rare thing that she is w/o Hijab) to not wear the head covering....In that way, you gently open the door for teaching AND you are not being judgmental.

I have to agree with kayleigh about women being believers vs. non believers. Sometimes, it is easier to teach the truth about something when a person is not just looking at the outside. For those of us with children, how many times have we had to disguise foul tasting medicine with other foods just to get what was good for our children into their systems? Allow Creator to move the person to wear Hijab or not after that, but first the message needs to be heard with an open heart.

Kayleigh, I speak now with great respect and most likely out of turn, since I am not a Muslim, but one thing I have noticed here about women is the manner in which they speak. Their tone of voice. A gentle voice, even one that is conveying anger or frustration is still heard as gentle and the speaker is, while upset, is still showing respect. I understand your feelings well, maybe not in regards to wearing Hijab but as a non-Muslim American I've had a difficult time curbing my tongue, and its defensive tone, while discussions that I have found either untrue or downright hateful went on around me. I've been spoken to about it and Inshallah, I will learn greater patience. Sometimes I was in the right to defend my point and sometimes it would have been better to have remained silent but I know I have already learned several lessons from those whom I originally disliked intensely.

Remember the old saying, you can attract more flies with honey than with vinegar.

:salam2:

Nice post!!!

 

[hayat84]

:salam2:
from my point of view brother Arzafar told the truth.there is another point I wish to say,and it's that many non-hijabed women tried to "teach"me the way to Islam,but when I entered into it,I discovered that hijab was obligatory,and now that I know it,it would be my desire to say to muslims non hijabed women,that before giving a teaching they at first should emprove their Iman.But I assure you that if the next time I'll see that woman wearing hijab;i'll refer to you:shake: