what to do?

[saima abdullah]

asalam oalykum wr wb
dear sisters and respected brothers i pray to Allah to increase our emaaan
i am having a problem i need your suggestion ..
m going trough a painful time i dont know i feel i have unlearn everything and every effort i do to make things better go negative m trying to do my utmost but no one is understanding me (m sorry i cant mention situation but there is something very serious) ..now at this point i start losing my temperament, m really feeling my self odd want to quit somewhere but i have no choice i even cant remain silent ...believe me i have done each and every effort to my extant but nothing is going my way i had a bitter quarrel with my mom today now loaded with guilt i feel what ever effort i did with my self is washed plz tell me what should i do?

 

[omahmed]

Wa Alaikum Al Salaam

Take a shower right now, then pray 2 rakaas, then raise your hands to Allah and pray from your heart for His guidance and mercy - speak from your heart and cry and cry to Him.
Go wash your face, then make a cup of tea for your mother - just take it to her and hug her and tell her you love her. Then try to have a nap. Wake up before Fajr and pray as many rakaas as you can, and also raise your hands up and ask Allah's help. Pray more and keep saying, Allah, I am content with what You have written for me, please make me content in my heart with it. Do this a lot for the next few days.
I'm sure there will be lots of input from brothers and sisters who can give you better advice and duas. I just felt you were in pain and wanted to let you know that you're not alone right this minute.
I am so sorry that you're going through this difficult time - insha'Allah it is just a tough test for you, and hopefully you'll get through it stronger. Don't feel guilty - we all make mistakes every day, the important thing is to realise we did something wrong and ask Allah for forgiveness, and of course, anyone we hurt in the process. Then we begin again, better and stronger. Insha'Allah - things will get better for you - just let out all your pain and fear and guilt to Allah with your hands held up - Allah hears all our pleas for help and will make things easier for you, insha'Allah.
Insha'Allah - a little bit of darkness, then it will be light again.

Salaam, my little sister Saima.

 

[saima abdullah]

jasakAllah khair borther .....may Allah give you best rewards on these kind words......i know its a test i m badly failed in this test .....it is bringing me shame again and again .....now shatian is pinching me you cant get better..........everytime i say this to Allah that i am content with you but dont know how again it get worst again....... m not a little girl m mature girl but at this point everyone is trying to treat me as illiterate bad girl...........for 2 or 3 weeks now its up to my limits ....i dont know Allah is angry with me ..

 

[a_stranger]

:salam2:
Dear sister say Astagfur Allah with all your heart (many times 70 or more), when you feel that things is going to be worse you should remian silent till you calm down, never speek when you are angry. Then go and tell your mother you are sorry (within your heart say I am doing that for you Allah) . for sure things will be better InshaAllah.

 

[saima abdullah]

jasakAllah sister i did sorry my mom and brother's (omahmad) tip did worked alhumdulillah ....

 

[ahmed_indian]

:salam2:,

you are sad over your action....inshallah, you will be forgiven. dont worry.

in one hadith....a believer when he commits sin, it seems to him that he is sitting under mountain and it will fall over him.

also when good deeds please you and bad deeds displease you.......you are a believer.

 

[MusLiMah_Kubra]

:salam2: wa rahmatul lahi w abarkatuhu

dearest sis saima,

Am sorry to know what u are goin through, Mashaallah omahmed's advice is a lot of help..said it all...

everyone goes through such a time where we find no door of solution, but hold on dear sis Allah never lets the efforts of His true slaves to go vain..His Help is always near..[Verily the help of Allah Is (always) near! (Quran 2: 214)]. Its just a test from Him.
have patience my dear sis..i know its easy to say but difficult to exercise it..but remember Inshaallah u wil be rewarded....

Have a strong conviction in ur heart that Allah swt is sufficient for u...read & understand more of Quran -it surely provides u much needed calm & peace..& ofcourse as Omahmed said - Verily the heart finds peace in Salah..so pray as much as u can.,Inshaallah

Small duas for u so that things get easier & better for u, Inshaallah:

1.Allahumma laa sahla 'illa maa ja'altahu sahlan wa 'Anta taj'alul-hazna iza shi'ta sahlan

(OAllah, there is no ease other than what You make easy. If You please You ease sorrow.) [Ibn-Hibban in his Sahih no.2427]

2.Ya Hayyu yaa Qayyoomu birahmatika 'astagheethu 'aslih li shanee kullahu walaa takilnee ilaa nafsee tarfata 'aynin.
(O Ever-Living One, O Eternal One, by Your mercy I call on You to set right all my affairs. Do not place me in charge of my soul even for the blinking of an eye (i.e. moment))

~repeat the duas as much as u can but with strong conviction..Inshaallah everything falls in place for u.

I understand its obvious we lose temper when things are not in our favour,but dont wory my dear sis, everything will be inshaallah fine soon..just hang on for a while..everything has its end..jus keep kool..

Allah swt make things easier for u, relieve u of ur stress, help u tackle all ur problems & always keep u blessed & happy AMEEN :tti_sister:

We all remember u in our duas Inshaallah

P.S: omahmed is ur ukhti(sister) not akhi..lol

 

[IHearIslam]

Assalaamu alikum,

well, my brothers and sisters said it all well, I cannot add to those replies.....masha'Allaah

but I just wanted to say, hang in there......I ask Allaah to ease your situation dear sister,

*a very tight hug* !!!
uhubuki fillaah !! <3
take care and stay strong!
May Allaah bless and purify your soul! ameeen

 

[queenislam]

~May Allah swt shower blesses upon all muslim~Amin!

Assalaamu alikum,

well, my brothers and sisters said it all well, I cannot add to those replies.....masha'Allaah

but I just wanted to say, hang in there......I ask Allaah to ease your situation dear sister,

*a very tight hug* !!!
uhubuki fillaah !! <3
take care and stay strong!
May Allaah bless and purify your soul! ameeen

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:salam2:

:ma:
Agree with you sister.

And you put on a fine words too~Alhamdulillah!

~May Allah swt reward all of you~Amin!

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asalam oalykum wr wb
dear sisters and respected brothers i pray to Allah to increase our emaaan
i am having a problem i need your suggestion ..
m going trough a painful time i dont know i feel i have unlearn everything and every effort i do to make things better go negative m trying to do my utmost but no one is understanding me (m sorry i cant mention situation but there is something very serious) ..now at this point i start losing my temperament, m really feeling my self odd want to quit somewhere but i have no choice i even cant remain silent ...believe me i have done each and every effort to my extant but nothing is going my way i had a bitter quarrel with my mom today now loaded with guilt i feel what ever effort i did with my self is washed plz tell me what should i do?

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And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives but give glad tidings to As-Sâbirin (the patient ones, etc.). Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: “Truly! To Allâh swt we belong and truly, to Allah swt we shall return.They are those on whom are the Salawât (i.e. blessings, etc.) (i.e. who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their Lord, and (they are those who) receive Allah swt Mercy, and it is they who are the guided-ones. (Al-Baqarah 2:155-157)

:salam2:

Dear sister Saima,
Don't be guilty sister Saima,
you are alright here your contribution are of good qualitites,
and to me you have grown up to be a good mature young lady.

Did not place any wrong judgement,
Leave it to Allah swt!
did it ever occur to you that Allah swt is also testing your mother too?
So never under estimate yourself.Make many Istighfar and ask Allah swt for protection and reward you patience over any matter!

~Alhamdulillah!You have sort the problem with your mother and in future if she srike and scold you from her reasoning again,
please help her to overcome the matter and solve the problem happily like woman to woman talk!

But ofcourse as her child if the matter did not concern anything wrong and injustice and against Islam, give way to her,
letting her win did not mean you are wrong~Just calm her down.

Some Woman at certain age encounter some changes!
So don't let her be too upset over some small matter and angry all day~Treasure her when ever there is time in the world~:ma:

A mother is one of the most precious gift from Allah swt!So treasure her!
Alhamdulillah!
~May Allah swt shower blesses upon all muslim~Amin!

Thank you,
Take Care!

~Wassalam

 

[omahmed]

Salaam Sister Saima,

Yes, I am a sister, lol (Jazzaki Allah Khair, Muslima Kubra).
Om Ahmed means Ahmed's mother in Arabic.

I didn't mean any disrespect to you when I called you my little sister - if you're one year younger than me -I'm 44 - then you're my little sister, deal?

I truly hope you feel better soon - have faith in Allah, insha'Allah, He will make things better for you.

Salaam.

 

[Asja]

Assalamu allaicum wa raahmatullah wa barakatuhu beloved sister Saima.

Dear sister, I could not completely understand all your words and worries, but as I could understand that you give a loot of efforts for everythung mashallah. I think dear sister, when we try to do everything perfect and without any mistake, we get dissopinted for some things because we can not do everything without any mistake even if are trying to be the best in everything and do more good deeds for the sake of Allah. Mashallah, your heart is soft dear sister,and you get worry easily. Inshallah you can recite duas and ask Allah to help you to remove sadness from your heart and help you to resolve all your worries and problems.

And Inshallah talk with your beloved mother too,and ask her to forgive you, because if we think that we hurt someone with our words, it is better to ask for forgivness imidately,and saying your feeling and worries it brings peace in your heart.

May Allah help you in everything my sister.

Oh Allah, you are the Most Mercyfull and there is not better Helper than You.ameen summa ameen

May Allah bless you

Wa Allaicumu saalam wa raahmatullah wa baarkatuhu

 

[saima abdullah]

jasakAllah kahir to all of you .....and my beloved sister omahmed sister your words really worked alhumdulillah things are getting better alhumdulillah alhumdulillah in a single day ..........i was trying from three weeks but it didnt worked and last night i just wanted to pull that out ........i asked for suggestion and my sweet sister your first advice worked m really happy.. i am really sorry for my random expression .............lol it really put burden on you but worry's first target is my expression i lose my words when i get worried ......and sisters thanks for your moral support momin is never alone inshaAllah
May Allah make us from those He love ....

 

[omahmed]

Al Hamdulillah! Subhan Allah - I know that feeling of relief after praying my heart out to Allah! I'm so, so glad you feel better, and I hope you managed to make things good with your mother. Insha'Allah things will get even easier for you. I love the feeling here that we're among our brothers and sisters and we can ask for their help and advice - Subhan Allah - alhamdulillah for Islam.

Salaam

 

[Men of Allah]

Aslmualaikum wr..wrb.
:ma:
I Just Wanna Suggest, try not too feel guilty, O my sista.! , When the atmosphere of the world with diverse Problems believers feel narrow chest, when it should he convince himself that he was heading Allah sincerely. Be assured when the atmosphere will turn into happy, calm and believe in Allah help. These are the laws that will never change and will never be replaced.

Do not Grieving Over Failure, Because You Still Have Much Pleasure ..

Think about it: how many blessings and grace of God that is in you. Then thanks to Him for all that, and realize that you really have been indulging in his administration.

Allah says, {And if ye would count the favors of Allah, surely you will not be able to count them.} (Surah Ibrahim: 34)

{And, perfect for you His favors outwardly and inwardly} (Qur'an, Luqman: 20)

{And, what are the blessings that exist in you, then come only from Allah.} (Qur'an, An-Nahl: 53)

God confirms what a great pleasure that He gave to His servants, as follows,

{Did not we have given him two eyes, tongue and two lips, And We have shown him the two roads.} (Surat Al-Balad: 8-10)

There are many pleasures that continue to flow: good life, good health, good hearing, good vision, good hands and both feet, good water and air, and delicious food. And the most noble of all that is delicious rabbaniyah guidance, the Islamic religion.

Do you want your eyes be purchased for one million dollars? Do you want to sell both your ears with the price of one million dollars? Do you want your legs be purchased price of one million dollars? Do you want both your hands are purchased with the price of one million dollars? Do you want to sell your heart with the price of one million dollars? How many treasures are there in your hands but you do not perform 'gratitude ..

What makes you feel so Sad>.?

 

[saima abdullah]

jasakAllah khair brother (men of Allah must be a brother.. ) i really loved your reminder alhumdulillah alhumdulillah
it gave me a big smile
subhanAllah the problem is totally solved ..........i withdrew from my stand ...whatever problem i had was just because of my deeen ..but the resolution was near to win win situation ...lol

but now i am claim that coz i have excuse before Allah that i tried to my best but i cant change things alone .........May Allah forgive us All ..
jasakAllah khair all of you for your backing mashaAllah
may Allah give you all.......what you need most ameeen

wsalam

 

[Seeking Allah's Mercy]

:salam2:wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu....

well firstly i'm so sorry i didn't post earlier when you required itit's coz i didn't knew what to say since i was in somewhat similar(but not big inshallah)situation.

i'll just say:"may Allah help you out dear sister and may things at home become sweet and sound".

also *hugs*...they say "A hug a day keeps all the gloomies away"

read this sweet sister


The Ayah in the Qur'an which brings the most relief is in Surat Az-Zumar:

[قُلْ يعِبَادِىَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُواْ عَلَى أَنفُسِهِمْ لاَ تَقْنَطُواْ مِن رَّحْمَةِ اللَّهِ]
(Say: "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves! Despair not of the mercy of Allah.'')

And the clearest Ayah in the Qur'an about reliance on Allah is:

[وَمَن يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَل لَّهُ مَخْرَجاًوَيَرْزُقْهُ مِنْ حَيْثُ لاَ يَحْتَسِبُ]
(And whosoever has Taqwa of Allah, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine) (65:2-3).'