Desi weddings by Br Noman Ali Khan

[kashif_nazeer]

:salam2:

I heard a hadith that says Prophet said,"Make Nikah(marriage act) so easy that zina(adultery) becomes difficult."Nowadays we see the opposite,especially in subcontinent.Marriage is so much blown up that many youths have retorted to adultery.May Allah protect us from it .Ameen
Here is a video by brother Noman Ali Khan talking about weddings.


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[saifkhan]

as-salam 'alaikum warahamtu-llah

First of all, Jazakum Allahu khair for sharing the vdo.
subhan Allah, the hadeeth , we know, but we don't act upon it.
thats why rasul sallah Allahu 'alaihi wa sallam said that everyone will read Quran and study hadeeth but there won't be any implementation. because without implementing knowledge, reading a book or reading a Quran, is just the same, just you'll get ajr for every letter and that the mercy of Allah azza wa jal.

if we gonna study Quran and hadeeth without understanding and implementing it, we'll get ajr may be or may not be, but we'll never be able to get hidayah, and which is needed.

may Allah save us from the fitnah of al-yahood aw an-nasarah, as they have abandoned their books and fitted their desires in their books

wassalam

 

[kashif_nazeer]

as-salam 'alaikum warahamtu-llah

First of all, Jazakum Allahu khair for sharing the vdo.
subhan Allah, the hadeeth , we know, but we don't act upon it.
thats why rasul sallah Allahu 'alaihi wa sallam said that everyone will read Quran and study hadeeth but there won't be any implementation. because without implementing knowledge, reading a book or reading a Quran, is just the same, just you'll get ajr for every letter and that the mercy of Allah azza wa jal.

if we gonna study Quran and hadeeth without understanding and implementing it, we'll get ajr may be or may not be, but we'll never be able to get hidayah, and which is needed.

may Allah save us from the fitnah of al-yahood aw an-nasarah, as they have abandoned their books and fitted their desires in their books

wassalam

Wa alaykumassalaam warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu,
Wa iyyaka,Barakallah feek
True brother saif.Qur'an is a guidance and ,that is the aim of it,to guide the mankind towards truth.Application is more important,because we can gain knowledge and become like donkeys who just carry a load on their back and benefit not from it,just like yahood o nasarah ,as you have pointed out.That is what is causing the decadence of our society and all the problems that we are facing.This is one of the main causes.We choose our desires over the word of Allah.
Ameen to your duas.
May Allah guide us.Ameen.

 

[Aroosak]

You totally beat me to it ! I was gonna post this but then I forgot lol
great reminder indeed, since you see nowadays Muslims taking years to just plan a wedding. Why do that when we are not guaranteed an hour in this world? SubhanAllah a wedding in a Masjid where you can gather people for salah and feed people of the community should be the best of weddings. Gain some knowledge and hassanat and save the money for Hajj .... what better way to start a new life that full of those blessings!

 

[Seeking Allah's Mercy]

Asalamaoalaikom wa rahmatullahi wa baraaktuhu,

Jazakallah khair!

 

[complex_man]

it is big problem here. when a man who is good and pious is ready and likes some one and wants to marry , the girl is not ready as she wants to become something in her career and time of marriage for her has not yet come even if she is above twenties. for girls , finding good boys are difficult here.

 

[ShahnazZ]

Looking forward to watching this one!

And I do believe I'll sit my parents down for this as well. (My father scoffs at the idea of desis having "simple" weddings )

 

[strive-may-i]

Marriage feast to marriage beast!

Alas, the consummating feast turned into an all consuming beast!!!

 

[strive-may-i]

Well if that was harsh truth ... here is some soothing references for using wisely..

Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Prophet said: "The worst food is the food of a wedding feast to which the rich are invited and the poor are left out. If anyone rejects an invitation, he has rebelled against Allaah and His Messenger.” [Muslim, Ibn Maajah and At-Tabaraani]
Ibn Mas’ood also said: “If only the rich are invited and the poor are left out, we have been ordered not to respond to such an invitation.”

The Prophet said: “O ‘Aa’ishah, was there no entertainment? The Ansaar are (people who) enjoy entertainment.” [Al-Bukhaari] [Entertainment as in amusement, joy, happy, delighting moments.... ]

So marriage is one occassion of bringing glad tidings. Its a simple occasion, at start of a new journey , that aids in fulfilling life's mission in Almightys path. Its a way of showing gratitude and publicizing, who is married to whom. The onus is on the husband. It should create an atmosphere for transition. There should be an atmosphere of happiness and joy that aids the Gal and guy in accepting each other as Man n wife. ... is what I know about it

But ...the excesses [the pomp, the burden etc ] we all know does the opposite.... irony!

 

[Parvaiz]

:salam2:
Reason behind this stands absolutely the foremost were the movies where they got the concepts secondly according to their thinking by Islam they mean Salah and Salah only, rest life is free to live .You celebrate like hindus,you hang out,you party all night,you smoke,you drink alcohol do anything you like as long as you pray Salah your free.They forgot to read the hadith which states "Anyone who follows any other qoum ,on the day of judgement they will be risen from them.Another hadith which i guess suits the current situation .

“You will certainly follow the ways of those who came before you, span by span, cubit by cubit, until even if they were to enter a lizard’s hole, you would follow them.” We said, “O Messenger of Allah, (do you mean) the Jews and Christians?” He said, “Who else?

The hadith relates to customs etc.

 

[kashif_nazeer]

You totally beat me to it ! I was gonna post this but then I forgot lol
great reminder indeed, since you see nowadays Muslims taking years to just plan a wedding. Why do that when we are not guaranteed an hour in this world? SubhanAllah a wedding in a Masjid where you can gather people for salah and feed people of the community should be the best of weddings. Gain some knowledge and hassanat and save the money for Hajj .... what better way to start a new life that full of those blessings!

lol subhanAllah.True,weddings should be as simple as possible and not an overwhlemingly stressful affair.Sadly,not many understand the virtue and importance of getting married and most importantly the reason has been forgotten.It's almost all about showing off.

Asalamaoalaikom wa rahmatullahi wa baraaktuhu,

Jazakallah khair!

Wa alaykumassalaam warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu,
Barakallah feeki!

it is big problem here. when a man who is good and pious is ready and likes some one and wants to marry , the girl is not ready as she wants to become something in her career and time of marriage for her has not yet come even if she is above twenties. for girls , finding good boys are difficult here.

Well brother,this is one of the major problems.Everyone wants to get married when they are well established.They keep delaying marriage.We for got Allah is Ar Razzaq and He will provide for His slaves.Delaying of marriage is a major problem.

Looking forward to watching this one!

And I do believe I'll sit my parents down for this as well. (My father scoffs at the idea of desis having "simple" weddings )

InshaAllah.Heh many of our parents think alike.In fact according to sunnah weddings should be as simple as possible.Sadly now its all pomp and show.

Alas, the consummating feast turned into an all consuming beast!!!

Lol!

Well if that was harsh truth ... here is some soothing references for using wisely..

Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Prophet said: "The worst food is the food of a wedding feast to which the rich are invited and the poor are left out. If anyone rejects an invitation, he has rebelled against Allaah and His Messenger.” [Muslim, Ibn Maajah and At-Tabaraani]
Ibn Mas’ood also said: “If only the rich are invited and the poor are left out, we have been ordered not to respond to such an invitation.”

The Prophet said: “O ‘Aa’ishah, was there no entertainment? The Ansaar are (people who) enjoy entertainment.” [Al-Bukhaari] [Entertainment as in amusement, joy, happy, delighting moments.... ]

So marriage is one occassion of bringing glad tidings. Its a simple occasion, at start of a new journey , that aids in fulfilling life's mission in Almightys path. Its a way of showing gratitude and publicizing, who is married to whom. The onus is on the husband. It should create an atmosphere for transition. There should be an atmosphere of happiness and joy that aids the Gal and guy in accepting each other as Man n wife. ... is what I know about it

But ...the excesses [the pomp, the burden etc ] we all know does the opposite.... irony!

for sharing the hadith.Yes,indeed it is a blessed event(marriage).The gratitude is shown to Allah.Sadly it has given way to excessive wealth being invested.Leading to stress and anxiety among families,plus start of new lives in debts.This is not a gala thing.

:salam2:
Reason behind this stands absolutely the foremost were the movies where they got the concepts secondly according to their thinking by Islam they mean Salah and Salah only, rest life is free to live .You celebrate like hindus,you hang out,you party all night,you smoke,you drink alcohol do anything you like as long as you pray Salah your free.They forgot to read the hadith which states "Anyone who follows any other qoum ,on the day of judgement they will be risen from them.Another hadith which i guess suits the current situation .

“You will certainly follow the ways of those who came before you, span by span, cubit by cubit, until even if they were to enter a lizard’s hole, you would follow them.” We said, “O Messenger of Allah, (do you mean) the Jews and Christians?” He said, “Who else?

The hadith relates to customs etc.

That's true brother,a lot of external influences have corrupted our practices.Astaghfirullah!What you are saying is true,the kuffar way is being followed and that has lead to our doom.All ,people care about nowadays is showing off,just like the kuffar.The more pomp and show ,the better!The essence of the event of marriage is destroyed by such actions.It does bring little joy and a whole lot of credit card debt related anxiety and stress disorders.Plus if the event was good,no one remembers it beyond a few years,except the couple and maybe their parents.

May Allah protect us from such vanity and excess.Ameen.