Manner of Advising

afrarzk

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Manner of Advising



The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “O Umar! You are a strong person. Do not jostle through the crowds to reach the black stone lest you injure the weak. If you find an opening, then touch it, otherwise simply face it and utter Tahleel and Takbeer (laa ilaaha illallaah and Allaahu akbar).” [Musnad Ahmad]

On one occasion the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi was a sallam) noticed that Umar (radi Allahu anhu) was making Tawaf around the Kaabah and as he wished to touch the black stone, he jostled through the crowds and kissed it. Umar (radi Allahu anhu) was very muscular and strong and on his way to the black stone he could have harmed someone. The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) wanted to advise him in this regard, so in order to mentally prepare him for advice he started by saying, “O Umar, you are a strong person.” Umar (radi Allahu anhu) became pleased upon hearing this. The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) then said, “Do not jostle through the crowds to reach the black stone.”

There was once a king who saw in a dream that all his teeth had fallen out. He called a dream-interpreter, told him what he had seen, and asked him to interpret it.

When the interpreter heard the dream his complexion changed and he began to repeat, “Allah’s refuge is sought! Allah’s refuge is sought!” The king became worried and asked, “What is the interpretation of my dream?” The interpreter said, “After many years pass, your wife and children will die and you will be all alone in your kingdom!”

The king screamed, became furious, and began to hurl abuses and insults. He then ordered that the interpreter be imprisoned and called for another interpreter. He again related to him what he had seen in his dream and asked him for the interpretation.

The dream interpreter smiled and said, “Glad tidings dear king!” The king said, “What is the interpretation of the dream?” The interpreter said, “It means that you will live for very long – so long that you will be the last of your family to die, and you will remain a king your entire life.”

The king became very pleased, showered him with gifts, and remained content with him whilst angry with the first dream-interpreter. In reality, both interpretations were the same, the difference was in the way in which the interpretation was conveyed.

A man’s flesh is not fit for eating nor is his skin fit for clothing – there is nothing in him except the sweetness of his tongue.
 

Hard Rock Moslem

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Thanks for sharing. Very beneficial. I was told that some people are giving and taking bribe in order to touch the black stone especially during haj period. What on earth is this? I'm not prepared to believe but I've to because the person told me is someone lead hajj people every year.
 

Abu-Talha

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Sister, may I ask, what is the relation between jostling in the crowd for black stone and the king's dream?


it has to do with the method of reaching things, to reach a point or to achive something, without hurting other, nor in physical way, nor in emotional way, Omar radiyAllahu anhu was advice but the Prophet Alayhi salam with words that didnt hurt Omar, he was advice in that way that he will not be hurt with that advice, that he will not fell insulted with that advice

it is the same with the case with king, the second one explain to him the dream in the way that king will not fell sad, in the way that he would accept the dream without stress and wories

this has do with dawah mostly and when we advice, using hikmah-wisdom, scholars said hikhah is- using the corect word (or action), in the corect time and corect place, this is wisdom, olso in advice wich we give-to find the best words and the best way to explain to the person the issue, without hurting him or puting him a burden, its hikmah
 

afrarzk

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Assalam Alaikum wa rahmathullah

Well brother, this hadiths shows the importance of manners one should have for advising his fellow brothers and not just about jostling in the crowd.

Here our beloved prophet(saw) points out the mistake of Umar(r.a) after pleasing him by his kind words. So the lesson we learn from this is that we shouldnot hurt others by advising them rather should approach by pleasing them which may lead the person to take the advice in the right sense.

The kings story also emphasis on the manners of advising others and the way how to bring out the true facts.

i hope its clear for you now. :)

fee amaanillah
 

afrarzk

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it has to do with the method of reaching things, to reach a point or to achive something, without hurting other, nor in physical way, nor in emotional way, Omar radiyAllahu anhu was advice but the Prophet Alayhi salam with words that didnt hurt Omar, he was advice in that way that he will not be hurt with that advice, that he will not fell insulted with that advice

it is the same with the case with king, the second one explain to him the dream in the way that king will not fell sad, in the way that he would accept the dream without stress and wories

this has do with dawah mostly and when we advice, using hikmah-wisdom, scholars said hikhah is- using the corect word (or action), in the corect time and corect place, this is wisdom, olso in advice wich we give-to find the best words and the best way to explain to the person the issue, without hurting him or puting him a burden, its hikmah


ooooops i didnt see your reply. That was sufficient to the question of brother hard rock muslim.......

but anywayz jazzakallah khairan for your reply
 
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