I agree with you and all, but word on the street is they're trying to make her a mod. I'd suck up now if I were you. She'll have the power to excommunicate you.
On a serious note, I don't appreciate when people say things like "ask Allah for help". Although Allah is Omnipotent and Has the Ability to grant whatever He wishes, sometimes it's best we assume that we can accomplish goals on our own, and just ask Allah to guide us through it. Imagine teaching your kids the concept of "Allah will give you what you desire." What if your kid grows up waiting for Allah to give him or her what they asked for, and never receiving it? They might reject Allah afterwards, because you implanted in their heads the logic of "Allah gives, therefore He exists or therefore He Loves you."
I know a woman who became an atheist because she can't have kids, and imams and Muslims keep telling her to just pray for kids and Allah will give. Its immature of her to do so, but couldn't those imams and family put in a way where there's no guarantee in hope?
I'm not saying one shouldn't depend on Allah. I'm saying that one should strive to accomplish whatever goals they wish to achieve with the attitude of doing it for Allah.
You want to meet a good husband? Go out and look for one with an attitude like, "Oh Allah! I'm going to find a good muslim husband who will help me make and raise children to be devout Muslims with your grace."
There is a balance in the Qur'an. Allah wants us to call on him, remember him, and dua is part of it.
"And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me - indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me. So let them respond to Me [by obedience] and believe in Me that they may be [rightly] guided." 2.186
And of course we have to put our effort into it. We cannot pray for something without making an effort to get it.
"To Him [alone] is the supplication of truth. And those they call upon besides Him do not respond to them with a thing, except as one who stretches his hands toward water [from afar, calling it] to reach his mouth, but it will not reach it [thus]. And the supplication of the disbelievers is not but in error [i.e. futility]."13.14
Then there's that ayat about change a favor unless they themselves change (8.53)
And one of the most important part of being a Muslim is to surrender (2.112). Accept Allah's will even though it is not what we want. It may be that what we want may not be what is good for us (2.216).
In the case of not having a child, of course there is fault in believing that everyone can have babies, the balance is to remember of Allah's will and accept it. What about our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings upon him) who was not given a son?
What if a person prayed 5 times a day, prayed for a devout Muslim as a husband, then got a philandering husband? Accept Allah's will, divorce the husband, then move on. Life is full of trials, Children and wealth included.
Speaking of limited knowledge, and I seek refuge in Allah.
