Questions about Hijab

Koke

Junior Member
Salaam alaikum!

#1
I have recently started to wear hijab. I am going through this process step by step by wearing hijab just during my school day. I don't want to overwhelm myself or feel I am pushing myself too hard So I thought that doing this step first and eventually wearing hijab for longer would be a great start. What are your opinions on this?

#2
I have been choosing hijabs style that look very pleasing to me, like designed/patterned scarves and different colors. I see many hijabis do this but also wear hijab that is very thin and I can see their neck. I don't agree with this fashion, but is it acceptable? Is my style of hijab okay to wear with the designs and patterns that i think are pretty?

#3
I have been told before that Muslimah are supposed to wear plain black hijab style. Another person told me to just wear plain hijab and thick to cover everything. My fiance hates this style that people are saying I should do. If these people are right, is it still okay for me to wear beautiful hijab style for my soon to be husband when I am at public with him?

Sorry for the long post and thank you in advance!
 

queenislam

★★★I LOVE ALLAH★★★
Salaam alaikum!

#1
I have recently started to wear hijab. I am going through this process step by step by wearing hijab just during my school day. I don't want to overwhelm myself or feel I am pushing myself too hard So I thought that doing this step first and eventually wearing hijab for longer would be a great start. What are your opinions on this?

#2
I have been choosing hijabs style that look very pleasing to me, like designed/patterned scarves and different colors. I see many hijabis do this but also wear hijab that is very thin and I can see their neck. I don't agree with this fashion, but is it acceptable? Is my style of hijab okay to wear with the designs and patterns that i think are pretty?

#3
I have been told before that Muslimah are supposed to wear plain black hijab style. Another person told me to just wear plain hijab and thick to cover everything. My fiance hates this style that people are saying I should do. If these people are right, is it still okay for me to wear beautiful hijab style for my soon to be husband when I am at public with him?

Sorry for the long post and thank you in advance!

Surah An Nuur Ayat 21 - 31


:salam:
About hijab
there quote from the verses in the Holy Quran that speak of the hijab. Please see verses 30-31 in Surah 24 of the Holy Quran
:bismillah:
And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof and to wrap to headcovers and over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, their brothers' sons, their sisters' sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed.
Holy qur'an Surah An Nur 24:30-31

Dearest sister;
i understand you choose to going through the process step by step
since very new to wearing hijab not to overwhelm urself or feel like pushing too hard .
1)My opinion;
since you are already reach the age of puberty you are suppose
to know that wearing/hijab is compulsory,as command by Allah swt in the holy quran karim.
Islam is easy;
and you are matured enough knowing what is right and wrong
and can choose between what is sin and not of course at the end of the day it is still your choice.

2)we need to cover the head till the front not to revealing our breast, hijab that is in thin material that can see through definitely are out cause a woman suppose to only showing their face and hand where other details of the body should be cover,like wise too color ful like some kind of causing attention.

3)Wearing plain dark not necessary black hijab style are in but of course since your choice as you said like wise i understand many choose to making the idea like; as long they are covered and are still 'in' following Allah swt ruling of putting hijab that is necessary for muslimah what they are wearing that what their choice~Allah swt knows best.

Lastly;
Your fiance is not yet your husband, there is still restricted to what he can see.
But of course once he is your husband, wearing beautiful hijab along with islamic right, definitely you know is for your husband,
insya'allah you may not go wrong .

~May Allah swt help,protect and guide all muslims~Amin!

Allah swt knows best .

Take care,
~Wassalam :)
 

Mabsoot

Amir
Staff member

wa alaykum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Take your time in learning about Islam and growing as a Muslim. Over time things will make more sense and be easier to do, in-sha-Allah. The most important foundation for a Muslim is Tawheed. If you are not doing so already, it is a greater obligation upon you to be praying 5x in the day. So, learn more about the prayers, and try to improve your spirituality in that. When you are praying you are also wearing the hijab!


Whilst we are not sure what is meant by your fiance "hating" a style, act, he must be careful of not committing Kufr. Kufr is when someone dislikes or disagrees with something in Islam.

Please do not mind my following advice, as I am not judging any person. This is also a good time for you to reassess whether the "fiance" is the person you might actually wish to marry. Often when people revert to Islam, and were part of a relationship with a Muslim (married or not married!), gather more knowledge and find that the person was not as religious or committed as they thought. It is good to take your time in these matters and gain the opinion of trustworthy pious Muslims.

wasalam
 

um muhammad al-mahdi

لا اله الا الله محمد رسول الله
Staff member
assalamu alaykum sister,

Please do not stress too much about the colour of hijab you are wearing etc. Learn tawheed and put it in your heart, once you have done this with pure intention, all the rest will be easy inshallah!

I would follow brother Mabsoot advice re your 'fiance'.

Jazakillahu khayran!
 

Koke

Junior Member

wa alaykum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

Take your time in learning about Islam and growing as a Muslim. Over time things will make more sense and be easier to do, in-sha-Allah. The most important foundation for a Muslim is Tawheed. If you are not doing so already, it is a greater obligation upon you to be praying 5x in the day. So, learn more about the prayers, and try to improve your spirituality in that. When you are praying you are also wearing the hijab!


Whilst we are not sure what is meant by your fiance "hating" a style, act, he must be careful of not committing Kufr. Kufr is when someone dislikes or disagrees with something in Islam.

Please do not mind my following advice, as I am not judging any person. This is also a good time for you to reassess whether the "fiance" is the person you might actually wish to marry. Often when people revert to Islam, and were part of a relationship with a Muslim (married or not married!), gather more knowledge and find that the person was not as religious or committed as they thought. It is good to take your time in these matters and gain the opinion of trustworthy pious Muslims.

wasalam


Thank you brother for your concern! I have spoken with my fiance about the comments against him and he made the comment that he thinks I am causing a misunderstanding! The black hijab style I was meaning was Niqab (I didn't have the word in my mind at the time!). He stated that he greatly dislikes the niqab and that style of veiling because it veils the face. Now about wearing beautiful headscarf hijab styles; this is why i posed this question to all of you because as being a new convert to Islam there are still some gray areas for me. My fiance was also wondering if there was a direct mandate on how hijab should be, color glamorous-ness, etc. Because like any husband he would like to see my beauty and he was wondering if he would be violating any islamic mandate if he bought me beautiful scarves that are much more elaborate than the plain colors i try to wear, after we marry!

Him and I are both trying to become good Muslims, and even though he was born a muslim there is things he isn't 100% about. So we turn to you, brothers and sisters for your guidance and support! Thank you!
 

Hajjerr

He is Dhul-Jalali Wal-Ikram
Salam aleikum sister
I will share a cute image about some facts on hijab.
All are important and esp. 5

5_facts_about_hijab_by_rosesakurajo83-d5vaazv.jpg


The Hijaab shouldn’t attract attention
The dress should not be such that it attracts men’s attention to the woman’s beauty.
Allaah clearly states “not to display their beauty (zeenah).”
If we learn the true purpose of hijab, we can judge the limits of wearing it, inshallah.
 

Koke

Junior Member
Salam aleikum sister
I will share a cute image about some facts on hijab.
All are important and esp. 5

5_facts_about_hijab_by_rosesakurajo83-d5vaazv.jpg


The Hijaab shouldn’t attract attention
The dress should not be such that it attracts men’s attention to the woman’s beauty.
Allaah clearly states “not to display their beauty (zeenah).”
If we learn the true purpose of hijab, we can judge the limits of wearing it, inshallah.

Thank you for this cute comic strip it is helpful!! I didnt know that skinny jeans wouldn't be okay so thank you for the help!
But, I wonder, since clothes shouldn't resemble the opposite gender what can people who live in places where women clothing is so revealing do? I like to wear men's long sleeve shirts to cover myself since they are loose, while female ones are so tight and chest exposing.
 

Aida1

Junior Member
#1) I've been going through the same thing you are. Only recently am I wearing 'fulltime' hijab. I also had a 'passage' period to let myself and my environment get used to it. I personally think not overwhelming yourself is a very good idea. When you go too far too fast (when you're not used to it), you might fall back after a while. Better you get used to it first so you are confident and strong enough not to fall back to not wearing it at all (especially if you are somewhere where there aren't many other practicing muslims). As long as you are changing yourself for the good, I see no harm, for you are supposed to better yourself.

#2 & 3) The most important thing is that your hijab is loose, covering and not see through. If you like patterns and colours, depending on where you are, I personally don't think is wrong from what I've read about it. The thing is not to stand out too much so that everyone is looking at you when you walk down the street. In my experience where I am, being very white and 'Dutch' looking, I even stand out less wearing colorful hijab than I do wearing all black. People (men also) look less at me when I'm wearing colors.

- I hope my experiences as described above are helpful to you :hijabi:
 
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