Salaam,
BismillAllah, Ar-Rahman, Ir-Raheem,
It has come to my attention that many women who revert and marry Muslim men are having great difficulty in understanding polygamy. Let me start with the premise Allah has permitted polygamy. It is right given to a man to prevent him from committing adultery. A man may seek the consent of his wife before he marries. This is the honorable. It is also stated that if he can not be fair to his wife he should not marry another. Marriage in Islam is not about lust. Marriage is the backbone of community.
Marriage is 50% of faith.
Recently, I have read several blogs of reverts who are very upset about the issue of polygamy and are revealing their feelings on the internet. These women are shattered, jealous, heartbroken, lonely, and feel that their world has collapsed. They feel they have been wronged.
I will not be popular after many read this. Popularity is not my aim.
It seems that many women revert to marry a Muslim man. That is the major problem. One should only revert to save your soul. You revert to Islam for the sake of the love and fear of Allah subahana talla. You do not revert for the convince of marrying. Many who are not born Muslims enter a relationship with a western ideology of what marriage is. The preconceived notions of soul mate, everlasting love; you are my one and only are etched in their minds. As time passes and the marriage does not satisfy the needs of the wife she becomes disillusioned with the Muslim husband and blames Islam. He has not fulfilled her needs because he is a Muslim.
If he marries another the woman whines. She whines. She still remains ignorant of the fact that it is permitted. The ego takes over reason. Marriage is for the sake of religion. The perspectives that I have encountered on the blogs are selfish. My question thus becomes did you not educate yourself to Islam? These women have time to reveal their feelings and how they are “done wrong” to millions of readers. I say to these sisters:
You have food, you have shelter, you have money, your needs are fulfilled. Why not give back to the world. You have time to whine. Why not volunteer with an Islamic organization. There are many, many needs.
We Muslims need to hold classes before reverts marry Muslim men. The context of polygamy needs to be explained in detail as part of a system to propagate Islam. The beauty of the rational for polygamy needs to be addressed in detail. The wives of the Holy Prophet (swas) served as our role models. They were multinationals. Imagine the generosity of their natures when he (swas) married a young virgin. They did not whine. One even gave up her nights with her husband to please him. His presence was enough love for her. Sisters for the love of Islam let us drop our western false concepts and remain true to our faith.
We have wars being waged, children being tortured and sexually abused by soldiers, Muslim virgins being executed, women being widowed, orphans eating out of garbage heaps. Forgive me but quit your whining.
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BismillAllah, Ar-Rahman, Ir-Raheem,
It has come to my attention that many women who revert and marry Muslim men are having great difficulty in understanding polygamy. Let me start with the premise Allah has permitted polygamy. It is right given to a man to prevent him from committing adultery. A man may seek the consent of his wife before he marries. This is the honorable. It is also stated that if he can not be fair to his wife he should not marry another. Marriage in Islam is not about lust. Marriage is the backbone of community.
Marriage is 50% of faith.
Recently, I have read several blogs of reverts who are very upset about the issue of polygamy and are revealing their feelings on the internet. These women are shattered, jealous, heartbroken, lonely, and feel that their world has collapsed. They feel they have been wronged.
I will not be popular after many read this. Popularity is not my aim.
It seems that many women revert to marry a Muslim man. That is the major problem. One should only revert to save your soul. You revert to Islam for the sake of the love and fear of Allah subahana talla. You do not revert for the convince of marrying. Many who are not born Muslims enter a relationship with a western ideology of what marriage is. The preconceived notions of soul mate, everlasting love; you are my one and only are etched in their minds. As time passes and the marriage does not satisfy the needs of the wife she becomes disillusioned with the Muslim husband and blames Islam. He has not fulfilled her needs because he is a Muslim.
If he marries another the woman whines. She whines. She still remains ignorant of the fact that it is permitted. The ego takes over reason. Marriage is for the sake of religion. The perspectives that I have encountered on the blogs are selfish. My question thus becomes did you not educate yourself to Islam? These women have time to reveal their feelings and how they are “done wrong” to millions of readers. I say to these sisters:
You have food, you have shelter, you have money, your needs are fulfilled. Why not give back to the world. You have time to whine. Why not volunteer with an Islamic organization. There are many, many needs.
We Muslims need to hold classes before reverts marry Muslim men. The context of polygamy needs to be explained in detail as part of a system to propagate Islam. The beauty of the rational for polygamy needs to be addressed in detail. The wives of the Holy Prophet (swas) served as our role models. They were multinationals. Imagine the generosity of their natures when he (swas) married a young virgin. They did not whine. One even gave up her nights with her husband to please him. His presence was enough love for her. Sisters for the love of Islam let us drop our western false concepts and remain true to our faith.
We have wars being waged, children being tortured and sexually abused by soldiers, Muslim virgins being executed, women being widowed, orphans eating out of garbage heaps. Forgive me but quit your whining.
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