What are the main issues that muslim women face nowadays.Whose to blame islam or customs made by the patriarchal society.Should men and women put on eqaul footing in all fields.Why good muslim women who turn to 40 or less are still single.Whose fault is and what are the causes .Does the rate of divorce which is on the increase put them off , Is it the lack of righteous men or merly the materialistic view that is the costly life that makes women afraid of marriage.Do you think that women have more opportunity to work rather than men?
A look at how we deal with the issue of Women in Islam
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podolski11
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the answer to ur question is DEMOCRACY....thats the answer to all ur questions
ShyHijabi
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Salaam,
Islam is the first religion to create equality among the sexes, this does not mean we are the SAME but rather our worth is equal. Islam is the first religion to make work among women permissible as well as protect whatever money she makes from her work. (Kadijah's wealth was a very important factor in the spread of Islam and Rasool often pointed this out)
But I see, hear and read utter nonsense spoken and written by Muslims concerning women. I've read some believe that we should not have a higher education than our husband's, that we should only be taught basic reading anf arithmetic, and the foolishness goes on and on. Female brains are very diffferent than male brains, we learn differently but one sex is not superior to the other in intelligence. Once some misogynistic fellows wrap their brains around that fac then we can move forward.
As far as one being favored over the other, it depends. I know a woman will be favored over a male in childcare job and nursing...even if the male is more skilled. However I am rotating in surgery right now and can tell you the males have favoritism over the females..even if we are more skilled, have more knowledge, and work longer hours. It's unfair but there are still so many stereotypes to overcome. If there is a situation where one sex is favored over the other no matter who works harder and better, then problem lies in the system...not the sexes.
I've worked loading trucks (lifting 70 pounds over my head), as a manager of a bussiness, and other things people think are "male" jobs. I worked hard and every one of my co-workers appreciated my hard work. Why do some women avoid marriage? I am sure each has her own unique reason, you can't generalize across the board on such a specific question. Usually if one restricts themselves to only males of specific ethnic origins/clans/villages/careers...then she is going to be single for a long time. If women (and her family)focused more on deen then I think we wouldn't have this problem.
Islam is the first religion to create equality among the sexes, this does not mean we are the SAME but rather our worth is equal. Islam is the first religion to make work among women permissible as well as protect whatever money she makes from her work. (Kadijah's wealth was a very important factor in the spread of Islam and Rasool often pointed this out)
But I see, hear and read utter nonsense spoken and written by Muslims concerning women. I've read some believe that we should not have a higher education than our husband's, that we should only be taught basic reading anf arithmetic, and the foolishness goes on and on. Female brains are very diffferent than male brains, we learn differently but one sex is not superior to the other in intelligence. Once some misogynistic fellows wrap their brains around that fac then we can move forward.
As far as one being favored over the other, it depends. I know a woman will be favored over a male in childcare job and nursing...even if the male is more skilled. However I am rotating in surgery right now and can tell you the males have favoritism over the females..even if we are more skilled, have more knowledge, and work longer hours. It's unfair but there are still so many stereotypes to overcome. If there is a situation where one sex is favored over the other no matter who works harder and better, then problem lies in the system...not the sexes.
I've worked loading trucks (lifting 70 pounds over my head), as a manager of a bussiness, and other things people think are "male" jobs. I worked hard and every one of my co-workers appreciated my hard work. Why do some women avoid marriage? I am sure each has her own unique reason, you can't generalize across the board on such a specific question. Usually if one restricts themselves to only males of specific ethnic origins/clans/villages/careers...then she is going to be single for a long time. If women (and her family)focused more on deen then I think we wouldn't have this problem.
Asja
Pearl of Islaam
Assalamu allaicum wa raahmatullah wa baarakatuhu
I think the main problem is in Muslims themselves and the problems that are existing in thier own approach to Islaam and to Allah Almighty Word and Guidance. It is real pity and sadness to hear that women of 40 years did not get married yet,although her wish and legal right like a human is to get married. And than the question is why?? It can be for serival reasons,like for example poverty in some Muslim countries where many Muslims are not well educated or they are not having good jobs so they can not maintain future family,neither they can afford to them selves to get marry. More problem is that some good Muslimah or Muslim man can go astray as Allah subhan we teal has created women for man so that they can find peace and safety beweetn them and complete half of thier deen. Or more problem is that some Muslim man wish to marry more than one wife (without any good reason) and some Muslimahs can not accept it which is also thier right. Allah subhan we teal sais:"Allah will not change the condition of one nation,untill they change it by themselves",so the most responsabilty is in Muslims themselves and thier own understanding of Islaam,Holy Quran and Sunnah teachings. Allahu Aleem.
There are more certain and very serious problems which I would like to mention InhsAllah,like for example in Siriya by statistic notes there are many cases where Muslim man of 40 years is getting mary with a young girl of 20 years or else,and all other sisters who are having more years are staying alone and without legal husband,or they are forced to get marry for even older Muslim man Astagfirullah which none of this is right like our ResullAllah saalahu alayhe wa saalam has warned us. This is completey abusing of Muslim women,her wishes,dreams, as Muslim women should get marry for a young Muslim man too,as her life with a old man can distroy her life and make her unhappy all her life,but what is the most worst is that it can lead to distruction of the whole nation.
There are also some Muslim man who are talking about women with a numbers Astagfirullah,like "I will marry a sister of 20-23 years,but I will not marry other because they are older" Astagfiruullah. This brother has forget on modesty and piety towerd Allah,and he has forget that he should look for pious and good Muslimah like his wife,and not to threat women like objects Astaagfirullah or like numbers.This is really making me so angry SubhanAllah.
There is also the Low in Saudia Arabia where is driving cars forbidden to Muslim women without any right and good reasons. That part of thier low which is really going against rights is neither part of Quran,neither is part of Sunnah Astaagfirullah. This is endicator of one more degradation of Muslim women.
Our beloved ResulAlah s. a. w. s has warned us on extremissm as he said" Do not over react in your faith,as over reacting has destroyed those before you"
The more problem is that there are some Muslim brothers who are watching(staring) at your face although they see that you are wearing proper hijaab :shymuslima1:Alhamdulillah,but still they keep on watching that you have wish to wear niqab althugh you feel that your hijaab is enough for you Alhamdulillah and that there is no necceserry for that.
Allah Almighty has created man diffrente than women and although Muslim man and women have the equel rights in Islaam,mostly they can not be in the same fileds,althugh Muslim women can be good wife,mother and in the same time employed women.
All this is one more endicator that today Muslim society is far away how it should be,and how it was in the time of Prophet Mohammed s.a.w.s and early Muslims. I think that Muslim women should work harder on accomplishing of thier rights that are already written on paper,but they are not complety realised in daily life.
May Allah guide us all and purify our hearts. Ameen summa ameen
Isra
aka Tree2008
Wa alaikome salam....
I agree with most of what sister ShyHijabi has said in her post and it is true on the scale of "career's in the business world" but as far as "jobs" go where you dont need to have a higher education or you are amoung the "working class hero's" I feel in some respect the playing field is not equal. Some jobs such as care-giver or child care provider (such as sister ShyHijabi mentioned) do target women specifically for obvious reasons. I have seen this with my own eyes.
Although the rule of thumb is that both sexes are not to be treated differently in regards to the work force I dont believe this is the actual practice of most employers and typically because of the sterotype mentioned again by sister ShyHijabi. There will always be the notion that women are more suited for certain type of work and men are more suited for a certain type of work. This is the norm and until that line of thinking has changed by society as a whole we will continue to have this same predicament.
My opinion on why some Muslim woman are unmarried and over the age of 40 is possibly caused by the fact that many are revert sisters such as myself who find themselves suddenly Muslim and single. The lack of Muslim brothers willing to marry a mature woman who possibly cannot even offer them children in the marriage and the fact that a Muslim woman is only able to marry a Muslim man could be part of the cause for this problem. Its definately not the easiest thing in the world to find a Muslim man in a non-Muslim country and having just reverted so naturally there is a lack of communication with other Muslims or at least a limited line of communication available. If this is the case tell me what are other options if any that a pious Muslim sister can have? Internet? Speaking with members of the opposite sex is haram and that includes marriage websites I think. And some revert sisters might not feel comfortable airing the fact that they are looking for a husband so its not that easy to go to the local Mosque and casually mention to an Imam whom you have NEVER spoken to........"say Im on the lookout for a husband if you might know of anyone". So yeah I think you can see that might not be the best of solutions. In my opinion it is all in Allah's hands and may he make the way easier for all of our pious brothers and sisters in finding each other.............Ameen! :tti_sister:
I agree with most of what sister ShyHijabi has said in her post and it is true on the scale of "career's in the business world" but as far as "jobs" go where you dont need to have a higher education or you are amoung the "working class hero's" I feel in some respect the playing field is not equal. Some jobs such as care-giver or child care provider (such as sister ShyHijabi mentioned) do target women specifically for obvious reasons. I have seen this with my own eyes.
Although the rule of thumb is that both sexes are not to be treated differently in regards to the work force I dont believe this is the actual practice of most employers and typically because of the sterotype mentioned again by sister ShyHijabi. There will always be the notion that women are more suited for certain type of work and men are more suited for a certain type of work. This is the norm and until that line of thinking has changed by society as a whole we will continue to have this same predicament.
My opinion on why some Muslim woman are unmarried and over the age of 40 is possibly caused by the fact that many are revert sisters such as myself who find themselves suddenly Muslim and single. The lack of Muslim brothers willing to marry a mature woman who possibly cannot even offer them children in the marriage and the fact that a Muslim woman is only able to marry a Muslim man could be part of the cause for this problem. Its definately not the easiest thing in the world to find a Muslim man in a non-Muslim country and having just reverted so naturally there is a lack of communication with other Muslims or at least a limited line of communication available. If this is the case tell me what are other options if any that a pious Muslim sister can have? Internet? Speaking with members of the opposite sex is haram and that includes marriage websites I think. And some revert sisters might not feel comfortable airing the fact that they are looking for a husband so its not that easy to go to the local Mosque and casually mention to an Imam whom you have NEVER spoken to........"say Im on the lookout for a husband if you might know of anyone". So yeah I think you can see that might not be the best of solutions. In my opinion it is all in Allah's hands and may he make the way easier for all of our pious brothers and sisters in finding each other.............Ameen! :tti_sister: