:salam2: dear brothers and sisters i'm concerned. ok this brother who is muslim, was born muslim and still is muslim says that wearing the hijab isn't necessary and that shaking a woman's hand is no harm/problem. He said to me: don't judge people because they don't wear hijab. firstly i'm not judging anyone...i just want them to enter paradise as i want to. i say things to other muslims because i care for them. he kept asking stupid questions like "why don't you shake my hand"? and he knows why and why not. he's combining culture with religion. he says he's family woman don't wear hijab, that they grew up like that. but just because they grew up like that don't mean that he gotta deny religion. at one point he said that it was revealed for the woman of that day and not of the modern woman. subhanallah. and what's more embarrassing there were non muslims sitting with us. and they agree with HIS POINT OF VIEW. he's sending out to them the wrong info.i can't believe that a muslim would say or do this. you see, culture has become a disease! a complete disease! a'udu billah! anyways his waiting an email from me, so what should i say or how should i say what you think is most important that i should say. Asalamu alaykum.
assalamo 3alaikom
my sister that brother is in very dangerous state because he talk about things are obligatory in Islam with its evidence ...so it can be no muslim (Kafir):astag:
read this fatwa please :
Should we adopt a gradual approach when applying the rulings (of sharee’ah)?
Question:
What is the difference between the gradual approach in the forbidding of alcohol, and the command of jihaad, whereby we are required to abide by the final ruling on alcohol (i.e., total prohibition) but are told to do of jihaad only as much as we are able?
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
After the religion was perfected and the rulings of sharee’ah took their final shape by the time the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) died, the rulings of Islam are to accepted in their entirety and it is not permissible to take a gradual approach in applying the rulings – unlike the case at the beginning of Islam. In the case of alcohol, for example, every Muslim is obliged to believe that it is haraam to drink it. Whoever believes otherwise – when he is aware of the prohibition – is a murtadd (apostate), because he is denying something which is well known to be forbidden in Islam, from the evidence of sharee’ah, and by scholarly consensus.
With regard to the commandments of sharee’ah, the extent to which one is obliged to do them is connected to the extent of one's ability to do them. One is not obliged to do that which one is not able to do or that which will cause one undue difficulty or harm. Everyone will be held accountable according to his own circumstances. Whether or not jihaad is obligatory on an individual or on the ummah as a whole depends on the situation. We cannot say that this is the matter of a gradual approach in legislation (sharee’ah). Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“So keep your duty to Allaah and fear Him as much as you can” [al-Taghaabun 64:16]
And it was reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whatever I have commanded you to do, do as much of it as you can, and whatever I have forbidden you, avoid it.”
Fataawaa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 12/238-239
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