A Muslim's Character and Behaviour

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NurKamilah

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How we treat others good? The practical way in doing it.

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Alhamdulillah Alllah has given me the knowledge to impart in me love towards others.

Ive known the dangers of the tongue. Ive known the hadiths and the Quran warning us of backbitings, defamings and etc. Truely enough that it is easier said than done. Sometimes we are simply unaware and of course with the awareness we will repent.

How to keep it permanent in our hearts to love others and not judge others and ill treat them no matter how bad they occured to us?

Ive experienced this new possibility by having this new understanding of others or humankind to be precise. Humans are born pure and unsinful...as we grow we sinned and mostly it is because we thought the environment that causes us to be what we are and makes us behave how we behaved.

With this understanding I have learnt to confront my past and letting the past go. The dramas humankinds created is simply because of the things we choose to believe in our heads as a result from our own conclusions, our own opinions and our own perceptions and judgements. All it takes is to ask to enquire on the things that is not known to us. This is to avoid bad judgements and in return irrational actions and behaviours caused by uncontrolled emotions.

Example I've experienced: I saw my boss looking so angry towards me. I did not judge her and did not want to assume that she is a bad person for being angry with my mistakes etc. So I asked,"It occurs to me that you look angry towards me. Are you disappointed with me?"

I waited and listened to her and we had a heart to heart discussion simply to avoid misunderstandings and unecessary hatred.

So my dear Muslim sisters and brothers..All it takes is to try to listen and understand their perception. Right or wrong is not for us to judge. We listen simply to understand their opinions and we can also share our own opinions.

War happens because of hatred and anger and also because we always want to be right and force others to see what we see. It's never easy to force..but all it takes is a good discussion to understand and exchange views and insyaAllah there will be acceptance.
 
naaad

naaad

mu'minah
Jazak ALLAH khair! very beneficial indeed....it made me rethink about my conflicts with someone. InshAllah will try to do what it takes to be good alwayz..

brother Al Shabab, i would like to forward it to my family and friends to read this..that is only if u agreee....
 
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Asiya-sparkles

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Al Shabab said:
A Muslim's Character and Behaviour​

Islam is a true religion because it teaches a person everything including how to act and behave, how to sit and talk and how to care and share.

A Muslim is sure of himself both in this world and in the Akhirah (the Hereafter). He/she is always striving towards "Falaah" (success, prosperity) and freedom from anxiety and is not troubled with doubts and conflicts.

A Muslim family eats its meals together with Bismillah-ir Rahman-ir-Rahim and ends its meals together with Al-Hamdulillah. Everyone recites the Qur'an and prays at the appropriate times.

Most importantly the children respect their elders and listen to their parents.
Muslims should be good role models and should set a good example to the non-believers so that when they look at a Muslim's character and behaviour and see how great it is, they would want to be Muslims too. Muslims have to project the right image especially when they're a minority in countries such as UK, Canada and U.S.A.

They should be honest, truthful, trustworthy, modest, patient, tolerant, punctual, kind, generous, forgiving, brave and hard working. They should be good to people even if those people are not good to them. Allah has said in The Qur'an "Tolerate patiently what they (the unbeliever) say and part from them in a polite manner" (73:10).

Muslims should also practice forgiving people because Allah is always forgiving them. They should use the Noble Prophet Muhammad's :saw: example when the people of Taif threw stones at him and he forgave them.

Tawheed or belief in the Oneness of Allah helps the Muslim character a lot. Anyone who believes in Tawhid, surrenders himself/herself completely to the Will of Allah and becomes a true servant of Allah. Tawheed gives a person a lot of respect and confidence because he/she knows that Allah has Power over everything and he/she is in His loving care. It also makes a person humble and modest.

The Prophet :saw: has said "Modesty is part of faith" (Bukhari and Muslim). The person is never arrogant or rude because he/she knows that everything on earth belongs to Allah and he/she knows that everything one has is from Allah, so there's no reason to be proud and boastful.

Allah says in the Glorious Qur'an that Musa ('alayhissalam) advised his people: "...Seek help from Allah and be patient, the earth belongs to Allah. Anyone He wishes from among His servants shall inherit it..." (7:128).

The most important effect on the Muslim's character from Tawheed is that it makes a person to obey and observe Allah's Commands. The person knows that Allah is always watching him/her and one can't escape Allah's watchful eye even for a single moment. Tawheed produces strong determination, patience and perseverance.

Believing in Allah makes a person brave and courageous. He/she will not be afraid of death because the person knows that it is no one but Allah who will cause death at the appointed time.

So, unless the person disobeyed Allah's Commands he/she has nothing to worry about and can go on doing his or her duty without any fear.

You can think of this as a boat. A boat has a rudder, which guides the boat's movement. When the rudder is under control, the boat moves forward proudly over the waves, but if the rudder does not control the boat, it is tossed by every wave in the sea. It is the same thing with a person. When one surrenders oneself to Allah, one can face the problems of life without any fear. But if one does not surrender to Allah alone, one has to obey false gods like the fear of danger or the fear of hunger. Allah has said in the Noble Qur'an: "If Allah helps you, then none can overcome you and if He forsakes you, then who is there to help you after Him? And the believers should rely only on Allah" (3:160)

Luqman (alaihisallam) has been mentioned in the Qur'an as an intelligent and wise man. He told his son: "O my son! Do not associate anyone with Allah. Truly, polytheism is a tremendous wrong" (31:13). He also said: "O my son! Establish Salah and command the right and forbid the evil and bear patiently whatever may befall you, for this is firmness (of purpose) in (the conduct of) affairs. Do not turn your face away in disgust from people, nor walk arrogantly in the land. Surely, Allah does not love any arrogant boaster. Be moderate in your pace and lower your voice. Truly the harshest of all voices is the voice of the ass" (31:17, 18, 19).

Muslims should read The Noble Qur'an and Hadeeths about a Muslim's character and behaviour so that they could improve. Everyone makes mistakes but that does not mean that we can't improve ourselves. We should learn from our mistakes and improve. Muslims should help other Muslims by encouragement and not by exploiting their mistakes.

Also Another way of preserving the Muslims Character is if a Muslim should think of himself as a mirror for his brother.

“A believer is a mirror to his brother. A believer is a brother of a believer: he protects him against any danger and guards him from behind.”
(Related by Al Bukhari in Al Adab Al Mufrad and by Abu Dawood.)

Also If we were to reflect and contemplate on this short hadeeth how huge in meanings and benefits it has.

Like one looks at the mirror and notices blemishes etc.. iis the same way we are to treat our fellow Muslim brother/sister. We correct them in order for them to be upon Falaa (success) as we would do for our own selves to be be.

As in another Hadeeth the Prophet said: '' None of You truly believes until you wish for your brother what you wish for yourself.''

But How do we see Muslims behaving today.
  • Laughing at others
  • Defaming others
  • Insulting others with nicknames
  • Indulging in suspicion of others
  • Spying on others
  • Backbiting others
These all have been forbidden in Islam. Allah has Forbidden such acts. All can be summed up in 2 ayat's: (Surah al-Hijarat:11/12)

11.O you who believe! Let not a group scoff at another group, it may be that the latter are better than the former; nor let (some) women scoff at other women, it may be that the latter are better than the former, nor defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. How bad is it, to insult one's brother after having Faith [i.e. to call your Muslim brother (a faithful believer) as: "O sinner", or "O wicked", etc.]. And whosoever does not repent, then such are indeed Zâlimûn (wrong-doers, etc.).

12. O you who believe! Avoid much suspicions, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting)[] . And fear Allâh. Verily, Allâh is the One Who accepts repentance, Most Merciful.

We can continue making a list of benefits of these ayats and seems self-evident in a way, we all know that this such behaiviour is wrong defaming others, insulting others with nicknames, suspicion,Spying, backbiting others on and on and on...

But, actually avoiding them is a lot easier said than done.

How often do we put others down, talk about them behind their backs, or darkly suspect their motives or what they are really up to? A lot more often than we realize, in many cases.

This type of behavior is compared here to cannibalism (eating the flesh of one's dead brother). Just as we are repulsed by the idea of cannibalism, we should be repulsed by mistreating our brothers and sisters in these ways.

Thinking about it in this way may motivate us to take it more seriously and work harder to avoid it insha Allah.

Abu Hurairah (Rady Allahu Anhu) narrates that the Noble Prophet Muhammad said: "Let him who believes in Allah and the Last day, either speak good or keep silent, and let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day be generous to his neighbour, and let him who believes in Allah and the Last Day be generous to his guest (Bukhari and Muslim).

In another Hadith, Abu Hurairah narrates that the Noble Prophet Muhammad :saw: said: "Do not envy one another; do not inflate prices to one another; do not hate one another, do not turn away from one another; and do not undercut one another, but be brothers, O slaves of Allah. A Muslim is the brother of a Muslim: he neither oppresses him nor disgraces him, he neither lies to him nor does he hold him in contempt. Piety and righteousness is here - and he pointed to his breast three times. It is evil enough for a man to hold his brother Muslim in contempt. The whole of a Muslim for another Muslim is inviolable; his blood, his property, and his honour (Muslim).

Also If we were to refelct and on ponder on these two Ayats:

"So have taqwaa (fear and obedience) of Allaah and reconcile the differences between yourselves." [Soorah al-Anfaal 8:1].

"Indeed the Believers are but brothers. Therefore reconcile the differences between your brothers, and fear Allaah so that you may receive mercy." [Soorah al-Hujuraat 49:10].

"So this is a knot which Allaah has bound the Believers together with, such that whenever a person is found possessing Eemaan (faith) in Allaah, His Angels, His Books, His Messengers and the Last Bay - whether in the eastern or western part of the world - then such a person becomes the brother of the Believers.

This brotherhood obligates that the Believers should love for that person that which they love for themselves, and hate for that person that which they hate for themselves. Therefore, the Prophet :saw: said - whilst ordering the brotherhood of eemaan (faith): "Do not envy one another. Do not inflate prices upon one another. Do not hate one another. Do not forsake one another. Do not under-cut one another. But be worshippers of Allaah and brothers.

The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim; he neither oppresses him, nor humiliates him, nor lies to him, nor holds him in contempt. And piety is right here - and he pointed to his chest three times.

It is enough evil for a person to hold his brother Muslim in contempt. The whole of a Muslim for another Muslim is sacred; his blood, his property and his honour."
[ Related by Muslim (no.2564), from Abu Hurayrah radiallaahu 'anhu]

And he :saw: said: "The Believer to the Believer is like a solid structure, one part supporting the other." And he interlaced his fingers to demonstrate this.
[Related by al-Bukhaaree (no.481) and Muslim (no.2585), from Abu Hurayrah radiallaahu 'anhu.
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Thus Allaah and His Messenger :saw: ordered that the rights of the Believers be fulfilled by each other, and that those matters which will bring about harmony, love and togetherness be carried out. All of this is to be done in order to further the rights that they have over one another.

So from such tights is that when fighting occurs between them - thereby causing their hearts to separate and to have hatred and to cut-off from each other - then the Believers should bring about reconciliation between their brothers and do that which will remove the enmity.

Then Allaah ordered taqwaa in general and made the bestowal of His Mercy the consequence of their having Taqwaa and their fulfilling the rights of the Believers.

So He said: "And have taqwaa of Allaah in order that you may receive mercy." Thus, if Allaah's Mercy is attained, then the good of this world and the Hereafter will also be attained." {Tayseerul-Kareemur-Rahmaan (7/133-134) of Shaykh as-Sa'dee.]

'Aaishah radiallaahu 'anhaa used to say, that when people abandoned acting upon this Aayah (verse): "When two parties of the Believers fight each other, then make reconciliation between them." [Soorah al-Hujuraat 49:9].

So when the Muslims began fighting each other, it was obligatory to reconcile them, as Allaah - the Most High - ordered. However, when they did not do this, then fitnah (trials and tribulations) spread, as did ignorance, and this is what caused the differences to continue.
[Related by Ibn Abil-'lzz in Sharhul-'Aqeedatit-Tahaawiyyah (2/777). Al-Bayhaqee related something similar to this in his Sunanul-Kubraa (8/172).]

Allaah's Messenger :saw: said: "Shall I not inform you of something that is greeter in degree than (optional) fasting, charity and Prayer?" They said: Indeed inform us. So he said: "It is reconciling the people. For indeed causing corruption between them is the shaver!"
[Saheeh: Related by at-Tirmidhee (no.2640) and Abu Daawood (no.4919), from Abud-Dardaa radiallaahu 'anhu. It was authentitated by al-Albaanee in Ghaayatul-Maraam (no.414).]

And he :saw: explained this shaving in another saying: "The disease of the people before you has overcome you, namely envy and hatred and it is the shaver. I do not say that it shaves-off the heir. Rather, it shaves-off the religion!" [Hasan: Related by at-Tirmidhee (no.2641), from az-Zubayr ibn al-'Awwaam radiallaahu 'anhu. It was authenticated by al-Albaanee in Saheeh Sunan at-Tirmidhee (no.2038).]

The more we help others, the better we will become as well because we mature through helping others. Islam shows how an ideal Muslim's character should be and we should act upon that so that we might save ourselves from Hell-fire and attain Paradise. Insha-Allah this is some advice firstly for myself and all those who read this insha-Allah

Wassalamu'Alaykum Wa rahmatullah

Your Brother in islam Abu Abdillah
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Assalam alaikom wa rahmat Allah, this seems like something every muslim should have stamped in their heart!

Wonderful advice.
Jazak alak khairun wa barak Allah feekom, may Allah preserve our Islam and make us of the pious. Ameen.
 
saifkhan

saifkhan

abd-Allah
Salam alaikum

Alhamdulillah....
we are the best of the human kind,varily we are the best...and the good news is we know that,Allah SWT has declared,what else certificate we need....Alhamdulillah

Jazakallahu Khair for sharign
indeed a good reminder,mashaa'Allah
Wassalamu alaikum
 
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