hayat_yahya
Junior Member
The First Advice
My beloved daughter!
Lead a life of contentment.
Be content even with simple food.
The dry bread and water,
which is eaten with contentment,
is better than a rich meal,
which is eaten after your persistant
complaints, forcing him to
grudgingly provide it for you.
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Second Advice
My beloved daughter!
Always listen attentively to what your
husband says. Give importance to what
he says and do as he says. In this manner,
you will soon win a place in his heart, because
it is not really a person who is beloved,
but what the person does that is most loved.
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Third Advice
My beloved daughter!
Tend your beauty carefully
so that whenever he will look
at you, he will be pleased with his
choice. Within the limits of decency,
use as much fragrance as possible,
and remember that no part of
your body or dress should
repulse him."
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Fourth Advice
My beloved daughter!
Be always attractive to him, put
Surma in your eyes, for beautiful
eyes make a person's whole being
beautiful in the eyes of the beholder.
Bath and do ablution regularly,
as this is the best perfume
and the best way to
cleanliness.
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Fifth Advice
My beloved daughter!
Prepare his meals before it is
time as hunger becomes a flame if
not satisfied. During the hours of
rest, keep it quiet and peaceful
as disturbed sleep makes a
man miserable and angry.
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Sixth Advice
My beloved daughter!
Protect his home and treasure;
let no one enter the house without
his permission and do not waste his
treasure by indulging in exhibition,
for treasure can only be tended
through good management and
the family only through good
sense.
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Seventh Advice
My beloved daughter!
Never disobey him and always
keep his secrets, for disobeying such
a honourable man would put fuel to fire
and revealing his secrets would destroy
his trust in you. And you, yourself will
not be safe from his (retaliatory)
double standards. Someone has
rightly said " To be trusted is
better than to be loved."
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Eighth Advice
My beloved daughter!
If he is grieved over something,
then do not mention to him anything
that has pleased you. Share his grief.
When he is happy, do not disclose your
hidden grief and do not complain to
your husband about his behaviour.
Be happy with him. Otherwise
you will be regarded as one
who confuses him.
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Ninth Advice
My beloved daughter!
If you wish to be respectable in his
eyes, then honour and respect him
and act according to his wishes.
Then at every stage of your life
you will find him to be your
best companion.
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Tenth Advice
My beloved daughter!
Hold fast onto this advice from me.
Sweet flowers will not blossom in your
life as long as you do not suppress your
wish for his pleasure. My dear daughter,
my darling! I bid farewell with these
words and give you in Allah's care.
May He make all steps in your life
good and preserve you from
all evil. (Ameen)
~~~~~***~~~~~
My beloved daughter!
Lead a life of contentment.
Be content even with simple food.
The dry bread and water,
which is eaten with contentment,
is better than a rich meal,
which is eaten after your persistant
complaints, forcing him to
grudgingly provide it for you.
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Second Advice
My beloved daughter!
Always listen attentively to what your
husband says. Give importance to what
he says and do as he says. In this manner,
you will soon win a place in his heart, because
it is not really a person who is beloved,
but what the person does that is most loved.
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Third Advice
My beloved daughter!
Tend your beauty carefully
so that whenever he will look
at you, he will be pleased with his
choice. Within the limits of decency,
use as much fragrance as possible,
and remember that no part of
your body or dress should
repulse him."
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Fourth Advice
My beloved daughter!
Be always attractive to him, put
Surma in your eyes, for beautiful
eyes make a person's whole being
beautiful in the eyes of the beholder.
Bath and do ablution regularly,
as this is the best perfume
and the best way to
cleanliness.
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Fifth Advice
My beloved daughter!
Prepare his meals before it is
time as hunger becomes a flame if
not satisfied. During the hours of
rest, keep it quiet and peaceful
as disturbed sleep makes a
man miserable and angry.
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Sixth Advice
My beloved daughter!
Protect his home and treasure;
let no one enter the house without
his permission and do not waste his
treasure by indulging in exhibition,
for treasure can only be tended
through good management and
the family only through good
sense.
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Seventh Advice
My beloved daughter!
Never disobey him and always
keep his secrets, for disobeying such
a honourable man would put fuel to fire
and revealing his secrets would destroy
his trust in you. And you, yourself will
not be safe from his (retaliatory)
double standards. Someone has
rightly said " To be trusted is
better than to be loved."
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Eighth Advice
My beloved daughter!
If he is grieved over something,
then do not mention to him anything
that has pleased you. Share his grief.
When he is happy, do not disclose your
hidden grief and do not complain to
your husband about his behaviour.
Be happy with him. Otherwise
you will be regarded as one
who confuses him.
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Ninth Advice
My beloved daughter!
If you wish to be respectable in his
eyes, then honour and respect him
and act according to his wishes.
Then at every stage of your life
you will find him to be your
best companion.
~~~~~***~~~~~
The Tenth Advice
My beloved daughter!
Hold fast onto this advice from me.
Sweet flowers will not blossom in your
life as long as you do not suppress your
wish for his pleasure. My dear daughter,
my darling! I bid farewell with these
words and give you in Allah's care.
May He make all steps in your life
good and preserve you from
all evil. (Ameen)
~~~~~***~~~~~
