Ghareebah
Bint Abdulkadir
Salam alaykum
just wanted to ask you ..if you ever fell out with your best friend did you ever forgive and forget?..and got back to normal with them. i am only asking this question because i fell out with my friend over a misunderstanding between me and her...we both did and said things to each other that we didnt mean but we forgave each other and laughed about it..only problem is when my family found out what i did they accused me me of being spineless and i have no pride....ok my family did see me cry but i explained to them i misunderstood the situation and things are ok now infact me and my freind are even closer than before (which was a schock to them)....but what i found out is that this fight only gave my family an excuse for me not to be friends with her because i now know that they didnt like her even before our arguement...my sister did say to me why are you going back to them? their not even from your culture (im somali shes indian)...were your family well be your friends....and anyway she is too old for you (shes ten years older than me) and she has kids and shes using you to help her with her uni work (im the one who volunteered to help her she didnt even ask)...that kind of friendship wont last. i just dont understand we had an arguement we both agreed it was baseless and aimless we laughed about it we moved on.....does that make me spineless? must i hold a grudge against her for the rest of my life for this arguement? they think i went back and sorted out my problems with her because shes controlling me and shes coniving and tricky!! subhanallah i dont know what to do and say its just eating me up inside....:tti_sister:
just wanted to ask you ..if you ever fell out with your best friend did you ever forgive and forget?..and got back to normal with them. i am only asking this question because i fell out with my friend over a misunderstanding between me and her...we both did and said things to each other that we didnt mean but we forgave each other and laughed about it..only problem is when my family found out what i did they accused me me of being spineless and i have no pride....ok my family did see me cry but i explained to them i misunderstood the situation and things are ok now infact me and my freind are even closer than before (which was a schock to them)....but what i found out is that this fight only gave my family an excuse for me not to be friends with her because i now know that they didnt like her even before our arguement...my sister did say to me why are you going back to them? their not even from your culture (im somali shes indian)...were your family well be your friends....and anyway she is too old for you (shes ten years older than me) and she has kids and shes using you to help her with her uni work (im the one who volunteered to help her she didnt even ask)...that kind of friendship wont last. i just dont understand we had an arguement we both agreed it was baseless and aimless we laughed about it we moved on.....does that make me spineless? must i hold a grudge against her for the rest of my life for this arguement? they think i went back and sorted out my problems with her because shes controlling me and shes coniving and tricky!! subhanallah i dont know what to do and say its just eating me up inside....:tti_sister:
i'm glad for you..