MubarekMuslimah
Junior Member
Assalaamu alaikum my dear brothers and sister
Does anyone have any tips for surviving Christmas ( and Boxing Day!) with non-muslim family ( i.e Mum and Dad)??
This will be my 3rd Xmas time since reverting alhamdulillah. And each year I find it more stressful since I guess my iman has become stronger (alhamdulillah) so I am more and more aware of the haraam elements of this time of year.
But when its your family doing this and they expect you to be with them, to tell them you will not be would cause MASSIVE upset and upheaval - it can be very stressful.
I do not celebrate Christmas with them, I just spend time with them and they know I don't celebrate Christmas but I still have to be there - should I be there?
I don't wish them happy christmas, I don't put my presents for them under the tree, I don;t do anything Christmassy - at all with them but I am still there in that environment, having to bite my tongue to maintain good relations......like this year I am wearing Hijaab for the first Christmas (just put it on this year alhamdulillah) and thats not exactly going down well right now - let alone with me upsetting things even more....I don't want them to come to hate Islam or Muslims or my husband ( they clearly 'blame' my reversion on him :astag: ) I want them to learn about Islam insha'allah.....
its just soooooooooo hard, I am dreading it... It causes me a real upset in my soul if you know what I mean - my love for Allah swt and his way and my knowing what is right and wrong vs my love for my parents and not wanting to upset them or damage relations with me or towards Islam as a whole.....Allah swt will always 'win' insha'allah but it still causes me pain and stress.....
any tips on how to survive???
Jazak'allah khair
Salaams
Does anyone have any tips for surviving Christmas ( and Boxing Day!) with non-muslim family ( i.e Mum and Dad)??
This will be my 3rd Xmas time since reverting alhamdulillah. And each year I find it more stressful since I guess my iman has become stronger (alhamdulillah) so I am more and more aware of the haraam elements of this time of year.
But when its your family doing this and they expect you to be with them, to tell them you will not be would cause MASSIVE upset and upheaval - it can be very stressful.
I do not celebrate Christmas with them, I just spend time with them and they know I don't celebrate Christmas but I still have to be there - should I be there?
I don't wish them happy christmas, I don't put my presents for them under the tree, I don;t do anything Christmassy - at all with them but I am still there in that environment, having to bite my tongue to maintain good relations......like this year I am wearing Hijaab for the first Christmas (just put it on this year alhamdulillah) and thats not exactly going down well right now - let alone with me upsetting things even more....I don't want them to come to hate Islam or Muslims or my husband ( they clearly 'blame' my reversion on him :astag: ) I want them to learn about Islam insha'allah.....
its just soooooooooo hard, I am dreading it... It causes me a real upset in my soul if you know what I mean - my love for Allah swt and his way and my knowing what is right and wrong vs my love for my parents and not wanting to upset them or damage relations with me or towards Islam as a whole.....Allah swt will always 'win' insha'allah but it still causes me pain and stress.....
any tips on how to survive???
Jazak'allah khair
Salaams