PeArLL
-Quiet Member-
If I may add something here:
I come from a free-mingling society, and honestly, I never really fit into any of that mingling. I've always been a bit phobic of women and have never related to them very well. I remember when I was a teenager that I used to wish for an arranged marriage, because then at least I would be guaranteed somebody.
Anyway, I'm now an adult well into my 30's, and have never really thought about marriage until recently. Just yesterday I had a discussion with a brother from my local masjid who advised me to marry as soon as I was able. Now this is something that I am considering, but I do have my concerns, of course.
Not being from a Muslim family, I worry about how my own family is going to react when I tell them that I want to marry a Muslim girl. My primary concern is that they will blame her for "taking their son away", and I don't want her to resent me because of that. I worry about how to tell them about my conversion and also that I want to marry a Muslim girl.
This is why I have remained single for a long time. I can't really find a good way to reconcile any of this.
:salam2:
Brother... I know it's hard... but you believe in speaking one's mind... just tell them that you are a Muslim now and you have accepted Islam ALHUMDULILLAH... You have to tell them someday, so why not now? And, tell them that it would not affect your relation with them... Because in Islam there is alot of respect for parents.... Even if you marry a good Muslim girl, it would not affect, because a good Muslim girl would encourage her husband to be kind to his parents... And, she will not resent you...as long as you show her that you are a good Muslim husband who cares for her....
Asmaa’ bint Abu Bakr was the Prophet’s sister-in-law. She was the daughter of his closest companion and the sister of Aisha, his wife. Her mother, however, did not become a Muslim for quite a long time. Asmaa’ states: “My mother came to me during the time of the Prophet (Pbuh), hoping to get something from me. I asked the Prophet (Pbuh) whether I should be kind to her. He answered: “Yes,” (Related by Al-Bukhari, Muslim and others).