Family problem .....

[zelim123]

assalamu Alaikum,

i have almost everyday problems with my dad he has a dicease
Which lets him stress alot. He treats me sometimes like a kid in front
Of other Family members which kinda makes me low while i am 19 years old.
But sometimes i can have a good talk with him like about Islam and other stuff.
I never say something against him (astophirlah i did but mostly not) even when
He is wrong at that time couse he goes even more crazy when i for example
Suggest him to something other way couse he sees it like i am trying to be better
Then him.

i don't know how to handle this but InshaAllah he will change ...

 

[Aapa]

Assalaam walaikum,

What is the nature of his disease?

 

[zelim123]

they call it the disease of Bechterew but it a sort of Reuma.
We moved to this country cuz there was war in ours and some family
Still live there and he does stress much cuz of that too but i don't get the point
Why he goes mad on me so fast ..

 

[Hard Rock Moslem]

Just be patient with him, Allah will reward you. You do not know for how long he will live, maybe until tomorrow, day after or day after or maybe until next year. Better you serve him in the way will pleased Allah.

 

[strive-may-i]

You will always be his son. There are times where he will think of you as a kid, and there will Almighty Willing, come a time in future, very soon, and he will feel proud looking at you, his grown up mature son. This is the transition phase

Yes you will get better with time, you have to work for it. Patience and perseverance is key. As you make better judgements and decisions, while still remaining humble about it, he will accept you more and more. When we remain humble, we tend to learn and absorb more. We benefit more, there is less friction. Dont see this as whether your ego or his ego wins. Be humble. Be Humble. Be Humble. It always works...

May you turn out to be his wise son, he can be proud of... Ameen

Pray for me too..

 

[queenislam]

they call it the disease of Bechterew but it a sort of .
We moved to this country cuz there was war in ours and some family
Still live there and he does stress much cuz of that too but i don't get the point
Why he goes mad on me so fast ..

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:salam2:

You have said that he have a disease.
Then that what had influence him to get angry over something for no reason, for people who suffer some illness is natural.
He didn't mean it.
It's in him.

As a close relation example you should be more aware and supportive over the side effect of his illness.
Avoid to be on the sensitive side but be more patient and extending assistance and good understanding on his position.
Afterall he is your father.
so take it easy on him.

~May Allah swt help and guide you~Amin!

Take care!
~Wassalam .

 

[zelim123]

Wa alaikum Assalam,

Thank you all may Allah bless you !
I think being patient is the most righteous thing i can do in my situation.
And inshaAllah he will realiise and change his way of treating me like a kid
sometimes or shouting about the most pathetic thing.