Frank_H_Smith
New Revert 2010
As Salamu 'Alaykum,
How many of you are able to get to an Islamic Center, Masjid, Mosque, regularly?
Does your Masjid have events, inter-faith gatherings, meals?
I would like to make a suggestion. The best thing isn't always to tell someone to do whatever makes them comfortable. For example, my wife is very timid, introverted, and fearful. If she and I were invited to a meal and none of the women in the Masjid befriended her and took her under their wing, she would stay by me (because she feels safe by me). However, being the only woman at a men's table because the Muslimah sisters told her to sit wherever she wants, would not put her at ease or make her want to return.
Islam has traditions. One of those traditions is that the men and women separate. I am neither condoning nor condemning this practice. However, as Muslims we know this. So, why not befriend and guide someone visiting. I know that my wife would be a bit nervous about being guided to a table away from me; however, she would be more comfortable as the evening progresses and she is able to chat with other women rather than sitting at a table with all men as her husband talks with the men and worries about being rude to either her or the men at his table because of divided attention.
Having pastored a church in Christianity, I was responsible for caring for my flock. So, now that I am in Islam, it is difficult for me not to give "opinions" based on my Christian education. I do apologize for giving opinions on subjects about which I know little.
My experiences have been positive in my interaction with other Muslims. The majority of Muslims whom I have met are from India and Pakistan. Both these countries have a cultural milieu which encourages hospitality. But, lately, I have been reading on the web where many new Muslims (Muslims who reverted in the last four years) have not had as positive experiences as I have had. One Muslim brother who has traveled the Muslim World for the past four years wrote honestly about how he feels. He said, "When asked how many of "my people" have I brought to Islam, I think to myself, 'Why would I want to try and convert my non-Muslim friends when I like spending time with them more that the Muslims I am meeting.'" He goes on to say how he was practically told that the Mosque at which he stopped to pray was only for Muslims. After telling "the guards" that he was a Muslim, they ask him if he was Sunni or Shiite. He figured if he answered that wrong he would again be told to leave and since it was approaching the end of prayer time, he said, "I don't care." He ended his article jokingly with something like ,"I love Islam, but the Muslims..."
I do a lot of research on the web trying to improve my knowledge, understanding, and behavior. I was initially shocked at how much anti-Islamic garbage that one has to shift through when doing search engine searches. I can type in The Companions of The Prophet (Salla Alayhu 'Alayhi Wa Sallam) and get half the links slandering The Prophet (Salla Alayhu 'Alayhi Wa Sallem ) and another quarter talking about media hyped propaganda.
And one last little gripe, if you invite a new brother to a "Family Dinner" which is going to have non-Muslims in attendance, inform him. Why? Well, it is very uncomfortable when a Muslim is told that you are a new brother who recently took his Shahada and the Muslim Brother asks how you discovered Islam, and having a big mouth, you declare that having been an ordained Christian Minister you realized that Islam's teaching are closer to the Torah and the teachings of Jesus than Christianity only to later realize that three of the men at your table are Christians.
I guess by now you can tell that although I love all of Allah's creation. I am beginning to see problems being a stranger in a strange land.
On a positive note, our Islamic Center received an award for its donation to the Red Cross!
How many of you are able to get to an Islamic Center, Masjid, Mosque, regularly?
Does your Masjid have events, inter-faith gatherings, meals?
I would like to make a suggestion. The best thing isn't always to tell someone to do whatever makes them comfortable. For example, my wife is very timid, introverted, and fearful. If she and I were invited to a meal and none of the women in the Masjid befriended her and took her under their wing, she would stay by me (because she feels safe by me). However, being the only woman at a men's table because the Muslimah sisters told her to sit wherever she wants, would not put her at ease or make her want to return.
Islam has traditions. One of those traditions is that the men and women separate. I am neither condoning nor condemning this practice. However, as Muslims we know this. So, why not befriend and guide someone visiting. I know that my wife would be a bit nervous about being guided to a table away from me; however, she would be more comfortable as the evening progresses and she is able to chat with other women rather than sitting at a table with all men as her husband talks with the men and worries about being rude to either her or the men at his table because of divided attention.
Having pastored a church in Christianity, I was responsible for caring for my flock. So, now that I am in Islam, it is difficult for me not to give "opinions" based on my Christian education. I do apologize for giving opinions on subjects about which I know little.
My experiences have been positive in my interaction with other Muslims. The majority of Muslims whom I have met are from India and Pakistan. Both these countries have a cultural milieu which encourages hospitality. But, lately, I have been reading on the web where many new Muslims (Muslims who reverted in the last four years) have not had as positive experiences as I have had. One Muslim brother who has traveled the Muslim World for the past four years wrote honestly about how he feels. He said, "When asked how many of "my people" have I brought to Islam, I think to myself, 'Why would I want to try and convert my non-Muslim friends when I like spending time with them more that the Muslims I am meeting.'" He goes on to say how he was practically told that the Mosque at which he stopped to pray was only for Muslims. After telling "the guards" that he was a Muslim, they ask him if he was Sunni or Shiite. He figured if he answered that wrong he would again be told to leave and since it was approaching the end of prayer time, he said, "I don't care." He ended his article jokingly with something like ,"I love Islam, but the Muslims..."
I do a lot of research on the web trying to improve my knowledge, understanding, and behavior. I was initially shocked at how much anti-Islamic garbage that one has to shift through when doing search engine searches. I can type in The Companions of The Prophet (Salla Alayhu 'Alayhi Wa Sallam) and get half the links slandering The Prophet (Salla Alayhu 'Alayhi Wa Sallem ) and another quarter talking about media hyped propaganda.
And one last little gripe, if you invite a new brother to a "Family Dinner" which is going to have non-Muslims in attendance, inform him. Why? Well, it is very uncomfortable when a Muslim is told that you are a new brother who recently took his Shahada and the Muslim Brother asks how you discovered Islam, and having a big mouth, you declare that having been an ordained Christian Minister you realized that Islam's teaching are closer to the Torah and the teachings of Jesus than Christianity only to later realize that three of the men at your table are Christians.
I guess by now you can tell that although I love all of Allah's creation. I am beginning to see problems being a stranger in a strange land.
On a positive note, our Islamic Center received an award for its donation to the Red Cross!