hi my friends

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T2IMAN

New Member
hello

i am a muslim but i do not know anything about Islam very well.

I'm here to learn about Islam.

but i have a important question.

i am 28 years old deaf and an American man.

My parents converted to Islam before I born.

ok,

i am very nice and respect man to everyone.
I have 2 brothers and they always together, like talking each other, hanging out etc. I want to join them, they reject me. what can i do? one day, i tired my best to go out with them but they seem unhappy. i'm really upset but am I jealous? i just wish they come and talk to me. i need to go with them, whats wrong with that? i told them they are not good to me, they told me they know and they r not bothered. i'm really hurt cos i help them anything.
i told my wife about it, she told me to leave them alone and ingore them. but i cant. What does Islam say?

thank you.

Khalid Khan
 
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Optimist

قل هو الله أحد
wa alaikoom assalam brother !!

welcome to TTI

I don't talk for "Islam" ... this takes a scholar to do, but I'd say it seems that your brothers are failing in their duties of kinship which Islam certainly place a lot of emphasis on.

But anyway ... we would be here for you if you have any questions or want to have a chat or even just "vent" ... be safe
 
arabiantxn

arabiantxn

Junior Member
As brother Optimist said your brothers have responsiblity on you and you have responsiblity on them . its unconforting to any one when your siblings don't act out their role .You have to realize not everybody is the same. listen to your wife and take comfort in knowing we all are your kins here and pls visit and stay here
yorr borther,
 
palestine

palestine

Servant of Allah
asalamu alaykum. InshaAllah i hope first of all that Allah cures your deafness. and a suggestion, bear in mind that Allah is with you inshaAllah. as for your brothers, they're not worth hanging with if they are that rude. Just be patient and inshaAllah Allah will give you people who will be proud to be around you, and inshaAllah you've got your wife. you don't have to cut kinship, you can still say salam, but if they are so disrespectful as to exclude you from their company, then just stay away from them and remember Allah. may you learn to be content with what Allah gives you. welcome to tti. do not hesitate to ask questions bro.
 
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T2IMAN

New Member
its very hard for me, i cant do that...when I and my wife visits my parent's house, my brothers r trying to impress my wife and make sure that i cant do angthing that or this.

i am getting upset, angry and stress....

what should i do? i cant just go away from them cos it would be no respect for my parents.

it is very hard to be a deaf....but

Allah always knows best.
 
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Aapa

Mirajmom
Salaam,

Brother welcome to your huge family here. You can talk to anyone here. You are blessed by parents who love you and your wife. You are blessed by a devoted wife. I have worked with hard of hearing people before. I remember one young man who was able to have an implant to restore his hearing. He would disconnect his contraption because of the noise. He enjoyed his quite.

Communication is not totally verbal. You know that. I do not know how difficult it must be for you. But if you look at the blessing you have it may be better. You may not hear the words of a song but you feel the vibrations of the rhythm. You may not hear the roar of the waves but you are in tune with the syncopation of them as they crash.

As for your brothers. I feel that the Prophet Yusef (pbuh) gives you the guidelines. He loved them no matter what. Love them for who they are even if they ignore you...you have a family of brothers here and an appa, too.
 
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liaa

Junior Member
.i don't fell wise enough to give you an advice, but i can say welcome to "turntoislam" i hope i find your answers and peace in here .
 
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Abdul Hasib

Student of Knowledge
They're older than you right brother? Yeah sometimes older brothers or sisters can be very mean; but sometiems there are ones that can be very fun.

It's horrible that they treat you bad. You said that your deaf brother? Meaning you can't hear right? Maybe they don't hang around with you because of that. But still, they should still be nicer to you because you're their little brother. A big brother should always be kind to hsi little brothers and sisters. Well, I'm the little one of my family.
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AND the most Islamic and Just For Allah person.
 
abou haytam

abou haytam

Junior Member
salam o alikom

You know brother some can see and hear but their heart are blind and deaf. Dear brother open your herat to Allah almaighty and learn about islam.

''Do they not travel through the land, so that their hearts (and mind) may thus learn wisdom and their ears may thus learn to hear? Truly it is not their eyes that are blind, but their hearts which are in their breasts. (46)'' [22-Al-hajj]

and also be thankful to allah for being deaf.

''And follow not (O man i.e., say not, or do not or witness not) that of which you have no knowledge. Verily! The hearing, and the sight, and the heart, of each of those one will be questioned (by Allâh). (36) ''[17-Al-isra]


And be patient brother :

“Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in full, without reckoning” [al-Zumar 39:10]

“And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As‑ Saabiroon (the patient)” [al-Baqarah 2:155]

The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for all of it is good, and that applies to no one except the believer. If something good happens to him he gives thanks, and that is good for him, and if something bad befalls him he bears it with patience, and that is good for him.” (Narrated by Muslim, 2999).

and please brother check this link:

http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?p=153566#post153566
 
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