Assalaam walaikum,
Sweet sister..no offense..we are all trying to help.
Hijab..I don't know where to begin. As easy as it is to wear once you do it..getting there is like flying to the moon. I can only speak about living in the US. Women are sexual objects. Women dress at work and are encouraged to show the curves and legs and decollette. Even professional women. The tailored suits are cut very tight...etc. There are unspoken guidelines for heels and color of stockings. The friday casual consists of tight jeans..the figure of a woman is in your face. Sometimes..you do not want to see. In the summertime the shorts are short. The t-shirts are sleeveless. This is for women my age!!!
Now comes the hijabi. She is all covered up. You see hands. You see shoes. She sticks out like a sore thumb. A robber has a good chance of stealing because everyone is looking at the hijabi. She has flowing robes and scarves. The hijabi captivates the attention of people. This is difficult for someone who does not have a lot of support. You are new to the faith. You are having difficulty with your family. Those who grew up with you think you have joined a cult. And the sister who is new has yet another decision to make to make her stand out even more.
We have to be gentle with our sisters who are thinking about hijab. Many are not married and do not have the protection of the husband. Hope this sheds some light into my thinking.
my love,
your aapa
i get your point apaa and my sisters' condition
trust me nothing saddens me like the fact that we born muslims are not performing our responsibilty by extend support ot our new families(reverts)!!it's pretty shameful to read what sis shyhijaabi went thru,what brother danyal is going through or how the world attacks my extended family in faith,with us just watching from the sidelines
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but that shouldn't stop us .should have us sinking to shadows now should it!!i want my revert sisters to understand the importance of hijaab.they should take it slowly and start wearing it when ready........but understanding is the first step....then you start thinking!!.........then give due importance......talking about it flollows it and .....the thing looks appealing and then you do it/wear it or act it
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inshallah they can have it when they are ready
no pressure!!!there is no point doing so......highlighting it's importance!!yes,that shouldn't hurt
btw when i talk i talk to everybody ingeneral without discrimimnation to reverts and born muslims.......these days everyone is pretty much in the same boat when it comes to frail faith
............so sorry to those who felt like i was attacking them.i got sisters around me with muslimbackground they don't go for hijaab my rant goes straight for them too
