How?

[Libinette]

:salam2:

I need to know if you get punished if you don't tell a muslim person that what they are doing is wrong when you know they are but they dont necessarily know they are?

For example, few months ago, few women were coming to the mosque wearing trousers, no one told them that's not right, but now, too many are actually coming in trousers sometimes with no proper hijab to the mosque.

So how do you and explain to them in the most polite way, (especially if they are older). I belive It is our responsability to help each other, but sometimes, when you tell them, they just take the wrong end of the stick so if you'd give me some tips inshallah i'd be grateful.
Jazakallah Kheiran

 

[Jihan]

sometimes i have hard time with that too. what i used do was go into a deep conversation and get to know them and then slip something about hijab, but the last time i did that it didn't turn out so good. i said to her you know you would look so much better if you tied your hijab in front of your neck instead of behind, she got upset. i guess we were not too deep in th conversation ( or too deep:lol cus that usually works.

 

[Libinette]

Anyone else, this thread is soo old, but i still need some tips guys...

 

[lions_den1]

Enjoining good and forbidding evil

:salam2:

There is an obligation is in Islam called "Enjoing good and forbidding evil"- that is to remind the believers to to thier obligations (making sure you do it your self too!) and warning or advicing muslims if they are commiting a haram.

The messenger of Allah siad "If one of you sees and evil let him forbid it with his hands (ie physically) and if he can not, (then) forbid it with his tongue (speak out against it), and if he can not (then), then he (must) hate it in his heart- beyond this there is no eman" (Bukhari)

(ie. How can a person claim to believe in Allah (swt) and the Last Day but when he sees a person commiting haram infront of him- he does not prevent that person (when he has capability to do so) and nor does he hate the sin!!!- turning a blind eye towards it)

 

[Libinette]

Yes, brother i am concious of the facts you pointed out, but my question was: how do you go to these people and make sure they don't take it too personaly... you know what i mean? Usually people don't like others to tell them that they're doing something wrong...

 

[ditta]

Asalaamu'Alykum,

^ Well the best way to phrase it maybe by saying, " Allah (S.W.T) commands the woman to cover [24:31], therefore they should get the hint after quoting the verse or saying The Prophet (S.A.W) said..... so we must respect the Sunnah of the Prophet (S.A.W) and adhere by it. Not like saying, " look sister you Hijab is all wrong, why are you wearing trousers for e.t.c. Its best to quote an Ayah from Qur'an or Hadith which normally is quite explicit regarding the matter. So that should get the message across without them getting upset at you. If they do, you have nothing to worry about, because they are getting upset at something which Allah (S.W.T) has made obligatory or the Prophet (S.A.W) has said. Your just the messenger

Insh'Allah i made sense. Personally thats what i do.

I dont know if i have just repeated what brother lion has said, although when telling someone they are doing something wrong i quote them an Ayah or Hadith. They have no reason to take it the wrong way, because its commanded by Allah (S.W.T).

I dont really know if there is any other way around it. Insh'Allah someone will post something that will be beneficial.

EDIT: Approaching them in a nice manner and being courteous would be ideal. Giving Salam, introducing yourself. I think i know what you mean, as someone may think you are just looking out for the Haram. (< is that what you mean)

Alhamdulilah

Wasalam

 

[massi]

I think a good way it's begin to advice about assalate " the prayer" and you say with polite" if you don't wear your hidjab correctly the prayer will be false"
because" cover your body in salat is a base in salate and if you don't make a true way in your prayer as our profet has learn us I'm afraid about your worship" . and our profet "sw" say : how many people prayer and fasting but
it's nothing it's just tired and hungry" because they don't fllow the sunna and make mistake in theirs worship و الله اعلم

 

[IslamIsLight]

salam aleikum sister
whats wrong with the trousers ,pants?
some people are new to islam ,and they take it step by step to learn everything,with clothing hijab and so on...
U know I been scared off from the mosque by some muslims ,with their attitudes ,I was afraid to go to the mosque,because of muslims looking at me weired way coz of the way I was dressed.......And I was really offended.It reminded me when I was going to a church,with all its rules, and everybody start stearing at u and then judjing u coz u wear pants and they wear a skirt,they consider themselves more religious.We shouldnt be focused on these thigs ,instead make conversation with them first ,get to know the person...
I think u should think before u tell it to a person ,because some people are not ready to take such an advise,espessialy if its new muslim.......We all make mistakes,and we all learning...
Better to focus on ourselves and be a good example and the way they dressed its between them and Allah....

waaleikum salam

 

[carpy321]

salam aleikum sister
whats wrong with the trousers ,pants?
some people are new to islam ,and they take it step by step to learn everything,with clothing hijab and so on...
U know I been scared off from the mosque by some muslims ,with their attitudes ,I was afraid to go to the mosque,because of muslims looking at me weired way coz of the way I was dressed.......And I was really offended.It reminded me when I was going to a church,with all its rules, and everybody start stearing at u and then judjing u coz u wear pants and they wear a skirt,they consider themselves more religious.We shouldnt be focused on these thigs ,instead make conversation with them first ,get to know the person...
I think u should think before u tell it to a person ,because some people are not ready to take such an advise,espessialy if its new muslim.......We all make mistakes,and we all learning...
Better to focus on ourselves and be a good example and the way they dressed its between them and Allah....

waaleikum salam

:salam2:
i agree completely!! i myself is a brother so i do not wear hijab but, a lot of people scared me off from mosque looking at how i dressed and commenting adn things!

 

[Noor to shine]

:salam2: for all
I think that the indirect advice is more acceptible , .....for example let one sister ask about how higab should be and another one answer ........or may be a nice book about higab can be given to all the ladies in the mosque, or a lesson is given by the Imam.....

 

[massi]

you must give advice to any muslim and it must be with polite. but you are not in judment or punish if any one don't accept your advice. you giv the advice with politly and let them and go on your way.

 

[Moadeeb]

Al salam 3alaikom

I think that there is nothing wrong with trousers as long as they are not tight. I know that the Islamic code of dress for women has to be not transparent, not descriptive(tight) and not revealing except the hands and face. If whoever is wearing trousers doesn't violate any of these rules why not wear trousers?

 

[Southrn_Muslimah]

:salam2:

I personally do not tell a person little things like nail polish, make up, etc...If a lady's hair or neck is showing I will politely say "Oh sister you hijab is falling off." I will say that "I hate when that happens when I do not properly pin it."

I wear jeans, slacks, and skirts...Some people can take advice very well, but some are like new born babies..you do not want them to be scared too easily. The most important thing to do is make sure the basics are down. We may be telling a person they need to wear a skirt etc..., but have they got their prayers down? Are we being involved enough with the reverts? Like taking them to get coffee and or asking them what they need help with.

It took me a year to get my prayers down because some people thought the rules of etiquette were more important.

A person has to do it for the sake of Allah (SWT). I ran away from Islam for a few months because people were throwing (not literally) small rules at me. It became overwhelming. May Allah forgive me for those few months.

Anyways I am going to stop rambling.

 

[sajjuaiah]

:salam2:

I need to know if you get punished if you don't tell a muslim person that what they are doing is wrong when you know they are but they dont necessarily know they are?

For example, few months ago, few women were coming to the mosque wearing trousers, no one told them that's not right, but now, too many are actually coming in trousers sometimes with no proper hijab to the mosque.

So how do you and explain to them in the most polite way, (especially if they are older). I belive It is our responsability to help each other, but sometimes, when you tell them, they just take the wrong end of the stick so if you'd give me some tips inshallah i'd be grateful.
Jazakallah Kheiran

As-salaam Alaikum,

I think the best way is to tell the IMAM of Masjid to have a small lecture on proper wearing (Hijab).

That will be best.

Allah knows best.

Jazakmullah Hu-Khairan


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[Southrn_Muslimah]

As-salaam Alaikum,

I think the best way is to tell the IMAM of Masjid to have a small lecture on proper wearing (Hijab).

That will be best.

Allah knows best.

Jazakmullah Hu-Khairan


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:salam2:

I forgot to say that in my post. I do agree with the Imam giving a lecture on it. That is how I learned many things