Husband best friends with sjaitaan HELP!!!

[Imad]

Assalamoelaikoem warahmatullahiu wbarakatuh Hafs,

Like i said before you didn't read my posts carefully. Many times i directed her to scholars.

And i'am not from the shia or any sect.

The telephone numbers are the numbers of big scholars. One of the number given is the number of Sheich abd el aziez el -Asheich he is the mufti of Saudie Arabie.

He gave the Ghutba of Arafat at the time of Haj (last Year and also some previous Hajs). Millions of muslims know him. Do you think he is Shia or from any sect?

I can easy say bad things to you, because of what you have written. But insha Allah i will forgive you.

And also i see were reading your previous posts. I see you are against Salafis ( klick on this " against Salafis" )

Why?

Like I said before my sister Faiza is: Ask the scholars

Vraag geleerden mijn zusters. Het zijn bekende geleerde die bekend staan om hun kennis. Het is zeker niet zo dat ik behoor tot een bepaalde sekte. En Allah subhanhu wat3ala wil dat wij geleerden raadplegen zeggende: "Faselu ahle thikri in kontom la ta3lamoen"

In ieder geval ik laat het hierbij en vraag hierbij Allah subhanhu wat3ala om je man te leiden naar het rechte pad.

Wassalmoelaikoem warahmatullahi wbarakatuh,

Imad

 

[alkathiri]

Calm down

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh..to both hafz n imad

Bro imad , i think the link u gave above is unnecessary... I think u r following ur nafs...Can the both of u pls calm down....

I applaud both of u for trying hard to help our sister...:mashallah:

May god reward both of u..and ur family.with success in duniya and akhira...

 

[zarah]

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh..to both hafz n imad

Bro imad , i think the link u gave above is unnecessary... I think u r following ur nafs...Can the both of u pls calm down....

I applaud both of u for trying hard to help our sister...:mashallah:

May god reward both of u..and ur family.with success in duniya and akhira...

:salam2:

Well said bro!

 

[virtualeye]

AsslaamuAlaikum,

It is not necessary to slap at the face of any person who disagrees you. The post which you are try to exploit was perhaps sent you in person, right? did you ask Hafz's permissoin before opening it?

Secondly, Sheikh Ibn Baaz (May Allah have mercy on him) was not a Prophet with revelation. Any Muslim has the same right of disagreement as the Imam Shafi and Abu Hanifah had disagreement. When those people of higher knowledge did not blame each other and gave respect to each other then how can you be so ferocious on your Muslim Brother/Sister?

The disagreement and critique is the blessings of Allah that helps us get the right knowledge, but we are not here to make the other person's face red with slaps.


Ofcourse it is absolutely unnecessary to advise a sister about divorce. You have to think her as your own sister. Ofcouse you would not like your sister be divorced, would you? So better way is to find out some good way. We are not here to give fatwa of divorce but to give suggestions for resolving the promlem as a catalist.

The approaches of Hafz and You both are different but Nobody here is with evil intention.

At one side a Muslim thinks to cut sharp any relation which is not according to the teachings of Islam. On the other hand, another Muslim thinks that the situation might get worse as the sister is pregnant and might get in the situation much worse. Both of you are trying to save, right?

Ofcourse every other Muslim is not so irresponsible that his wife is pregnant and he keeps on drinking and spreading his filth. What will be the impact of drunk father on the child?
On the other hand, we need to take into account as what is the general attitude of the husband towards his wife? If he is polite then he can be forced to leave drinking, if he is harsh then one can think of putting the weight into the side of divorce.

And Allah knows the best and I know negligible.

WasslaamuAlaikum,
VE

Assalamoelaikoem warahmatullahiu wbarakatuh Hafs,

Like i said before you didn't read my posts carefully. Many times i directed her to scholars.

And i'am not from the shia or any sect.

The telephone numbers are the numbers of big scholars. One of the number given is the number of Sheich abd el aziez el -Asheich he is the mufti of Saudie Arabie.

He gave the Ghutba of Arafat at the time of Haj (last Year and also some previous Hajs). Millions of muslims know him. Do you think he is Shia or from any sect?

I can easy say bad things to you, because of what you have written. But insha Allah i will forgive you.

And also i see were reading your previous posts. I see you are against Salafis ( klick on this " against Salafis" )

Why?

Like I said before my sister Faiza is: Ask the scholars

Vraag geleerden mijn zusters. Het zijn bekende geleerde die bekend staan om hun kennis. Het is zeker niet zo dat ik behoor tot een bepaalde sekte. En Allah subhanhu wat3ala wil dat wij geleerden raadplegen zeggende: "Faselu ahle thikri in kontom la ta3lamoen"

In ieder geval ik laat het hierbij en vraag hierbij Allah subhanhu wat3ala om je man te leiden naar het rechte pad.

Wassalmoelaikoem warahmatullahi wbarakatuh,

Imad

 

[Imad]

Assalmoelaikoem warahmatullahi wabaraktuh,

Thank you for your reactions , but i think it's better to think deeply before you say something about what i have done or have said.

I thank you for your advice, but advice has to be based upon understanding of what the other has said or done.

Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh..to both hafz n imad

Bro imad , i think the link u gave above is unnecessary... I think u r following ur nafs...Can the both of u pls calm down....

I applaud both of u for trying hard to help our sister...

May god reward both of u..and ur family.with success in duniya and akhira...

Thank you brother for your Dua. But i don't understand why you think i'am following my nafs. The link i gave, brother hafz thinks the middle way is not Salafia ( see the Quote )

Quote from his post:

They are not bareilawi . They dont teach you to pray at graves but they are not salafi either.Remember the middle way I think you will find it is them.

I in turn got the feeling he thinks salafia is a sect, that's why he said something about sects in his post.

Quote

You don't know who you are speaking to or what sect they belong to they could even be Christiam missionaries , shia's, etc Then they refer you to phone no.

Who is one who has refered to phone numbers? I'am the one.

So my Question to him was, why is he against salafia?

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Why?

If he gives answer, insha Allah i will discus this matter with him. And also there is enough information which talks about salafia on this forum. Insha Allah if he answers i can provide him with information.

But now i want to know from you brother Alkathiri, why you think i'am following my nafs? after i have informed you about my intention. because you didn't knew my intention. And our prophet said: " Inama el-a3malo biniyaat"

The same with you brother virtualeye,

It is not necessary to slap at the face of any person who disagrees you. The post which you are try to exploit was perhaps sent you in person, right? did you ask Hafz's permissoin before opening it?

No it's not send to me in person. You can find this post in this forum. So i don't exploit anything, nor do i have to ask permission for opening it. I think you have to ask me permission to adress this Questions to me ( LOL)

Secondly, Sheikh Ibn Baaz (May Allah have mercy on him) was not a Prophet with revelation. Any Muslim has the same right of disagreement as the Imam Shafi and Abu Hanifah had disagreement. When those people of higher knowledge did not blame each other and gave respect to each other then how can you be so ferocious on your Muslim Brother/Sister?

Who said something about prophet? And also it was not about the disagreement i'am talking about. I'am talking about the following sentence

They are not bareilawi . They dont teach you to pray at graves but they are not salafi either.Remember the middle way I think you will find it is them.

So i think you have to read everything before you conclude something.

Ofcourse it is absolutely unnecessary to advise a sister about divorce. You have to think her as your own sister. Ofcouse you would not like your sister be divorced, would you? So better way is to find out some good way. We are not here to give fatwa of divorce but to give suggestions for resolving the promlem as a catalist.

Do you know my advice would be the same for this sister as for my sister if she was in this situation. I would advice my sister if she was in this situation to divorce her husband if he don't want to stop with drinking alcohol and do his prayer. So i didn't say divorce him immediately. I you have read my posts you would see.

And also i directed her to scholars like i said before., but you are closing your eyes for this fact. That's the problem with you folks

but we are not here to make the other person's face red with slaps.

Lol

The approaches of Hafz and You both are different but Nobody here is with evil intention.

Jazakallahu gairan. But you are directing only me and you are using words like Exploiting? Like i said before i think you have to think deeply and read carefully what people have written. But alhamdullilah you think i don't have evil intention.

:salam2:

Warahmatullahi wbarakatuh,

Imad

 

[Imad]

Assalmoelaikoem warahmatullahi wbarakatuh.,

I think the sister has her answer, she has to ask scholars. She can tell her situation carefully and insha Allah she will get the right answer.

That's what i have to say. From now i will not answer any of your reactions.

brother hafz if you want to know something about Salafia, you are welcome. Give me a PM if you want, because i don't think you know what salafia means.

Wassalmoelaikoem warahmatullahi wabrakatuh,

Imad

 

[hafz]

Give it a rest Imad !
I don't think you grasp a lot of what I say, I speak from real life experiences having met more people and seen more then most people would in a life time.
Alhumdulillah by the grace of Allah s.w.t I have also helped save many marriages.
Including my own sisters whose husband was a brilliant , intelligent good hearted person but alcoholic and not practising.My own sister made him out to be an ogre which he wasnt!
But he changed .She was ment to be practising but had very nasty nagging personality.He was putting up with a lot.
He did get hadayat but because he was a genuine person.As for the kids the mother had trained them from a young age to despise the father's bad habits.None of them became drunks but are all practising.
I have seen alot of cases like this and contrary to what you lot are saying .when the mother trains the kids and teaches them their father's behaviour is wrong and to pray so he will change, the kids grow up firmer in their beliefs, the tests start earlier but the kids are stronger.
Their kids don't watch tv not even at other people's houses.but my friends kids both parents have always been practising will watch the moment they get a chance and will do a whole load of other things, they know are wrong.The difficulties at home actually make these kids stronger muslims as long as the mother teaches them properly.
Imad I have been searching through Islam for many years I have belonged to many groups and sects.I have seen the rights and wrongs of alot of them.
Oh and I am a sister not brother!
one real experience teaches you more wisdom then a thousand books