Hopetogoparadis
Junior Member
Assalam alakum
Well, i am not sure how to start.
I understood that making parents content is really important. I saw many hadith point out importance of parents content. I even saw a hadith regarding this matter, when a man's parent wanted him to divorce his wife and Prophet sallahu alayhi wasalam said, parents are the doors to Paradise, if you want let it be open (maybe you heard this hadith, i dont know what are exact words)
I also see fatwas for different situations but i am honestly confused and i dont wanna do something that i will regret in my future life, so i really want your sincere, wise advices which can lead me to good inshallah.
First of all, dont get these like i am complaining about my parents, i dont want to complain about them because they did so much for me, i know... But for this specific issue, we just dont match with them
According to what they say;
1- First i should finish my university education (maybe 3 years later inshallah) to think about marriage
They want a girl who is
2 -Modern (not with burqa at all, she should dress like modern day women, but she can wear hijab too)
3- Who got good high (university) education, maybe doctor etc.
4-Who is from our country so that she and her family can get along with my parents and cultures will be similar to each other(wont mention about which country its)
But, for me;
I honestly dont wanna wait till i graduate because its fitnah, you know. I wanna get married as soon as possible inshallah, with help of Allah. But whoever the girl might be,as long as she is not super rich and fullfill all my parents wish, they will not let me get married for now. And also for other criterias, if i really try to fullfill all of my parents wishes, then either i have to wait untill i find that ''super'' Muslimah which makes my parent very happy and also who i like as well.
Soo... Can you tell me what should i do ?
If my parents dont change their mind (Allah knows what can really happen, but i just assume) i can not get married for next 3 years probably. Then i will either wait for super girl to come, who fullfill my parents wish. And if she doesnt come, i have to wait more but honestly, it can be more fitnah for me if i wait longer. So just to fullfill my parents wish i might need to delay marriage, but what about me ? my life ?
P.S There is already someone who i met, alhamdolillah i liked her personality and her family. But as i wrote above, maybe she cant fullfill all of my parents wishes.
Sometimes i think that maybe i am too much into dunnya because i think about these things a lot. But i dont know what to do
Well, i am not sure how to start.
I understood that making parents content is really important. I saw many hadith point out importance of parents content. I even saw a hadith regarding this matter, when a man's parent wanted him to divorce his wife and Prophet sallahu alayhi wasalam said, parents are the doors to Paradise, if you want let it be open (maybe you heard this hadith, i dont know what are exact words)
I also see fatwas for different situations but i am honestly confused and i dont wanna do something that i will regret in my future life, so i really want your sincere, wise advices which can lead me to good inshallah.
First of all, dont get these like i am complaining about my parents, i dont want to complain about them because they did so much for me, i know... But for this specific issue, we just dont match with them
According to what they say;
1- First i should finish my university education (maybe 3 years later inshallah) to think about marriage
They want a girl who is
2 -Modern (not with burqa at all, she should dress like modern day women, but she can wear hijab too)
3- Who got good high (university) education, maybe doctor etc.
4-Who is from our country so that she and her family can get along with my parents and cultures will be similar to each other(wont mention about which country its)
But, for me;
I honestly dont wanna wait till i graduate because its fitnah, you know. I wanna get married as soon as possible inshallah, with help of Allah. But whoever the girl might be,as long as she is not super rich and fullfill all my parents wish, they will not let me get married for now. And also for other criterias, if i really try to fullfill all of my parents wishes, then either i have to wait untill i find that ''super'' Muslimah which makes my parent very happy and also who i like as well.
Soo... Can you tell me what should i do ?
If my parents dont change their mind (Allah knows what can really happen, but i just assume) i can not get married for next 3 years probably. Then i will either wait for super girl to come, who fullfill my parents wish. And if she doesnt come, i have to wait more but honestly, it can be more fitnah for me if i wait longer. So just to fullfill my parents wish i might need to delay marriage, but what about me ? my life ?
P.S There is already someone who i met, alhamdolillah i liked her personality and her family. But as i wrote above, maybe she cant fullfill all of my parents wishes.
Sometimes i think that maybe i am too much into dunnya because i think about these things a lot. But i dont know what to do