dianek
Junior Member
Asalaam Aleikum,
OK....here I am with my 3 smaller children and all they do is cry and fight and I am at the end of my rope.....I can't even speak nicely to them anymore today......I just want them to be quiet and go to bed! I can't explain it but sometimes I get so overcome with RAGE.......God forgive me.....but today when driving them home from the sitters.....they were screaming and hitting each other and ignoring me....I had this terrible thought of just driving into a tree to make them be quiet.......WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME!!!!!!!!! I love them I do, but sometimes this ANGER and this feeling of helplessness overcomes me. They ignore me and it infuriates me to be so dismissed by them. I AM THE PARENT....but to hear them you would think it is the other way around......
They actually said to me "If you don't take us to McD's for a cookie and milkshake we'll tell Baba to push your head into the wall...." WHY? WHY are they like this? Sometimes, individually they can be so sweet and loving but they act as though they have leverage over me. And they have seen things between their father and I and refer to them as in the above quote......
What can I do to edge of this RAGE and step back without depending on "happy pills"..........Allah please forgive me and give me patience and teach me demand respect from my children. Thanks for listening..
OK....here I am with my 3 smaller children and all they do is cry and fight and I am at the end of my rope.....I can't even speak nicely to them anymore today......I just want them to be quiet and go to bed! I can't explain it but sometimes I get so overcome with RAGE.......God forgive me.....but today when driving them home from the sitters.....they were screaming and hitting each other and ignoring me....I had this terrible thought of just driving into a tree to make them be quiet.......WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME!!!!!!!!! I love them I do, but sometimes this ANGER and this feeling of helplessness overcomes me. They ignore me and it infuriates me to be so dismissed by them. I AM THE PARENT....but to hear them you would think it is the other way around......
They actually said to me "If you don't take us to McD's for a cookie and milkshake we'll tell Baba to push your head into the wall...." WHY? WHY are they like this? Sometimes, individually they can be so sweet and loving but they act as though they have leverage over me. And they have seen things between their father and I and refer to them as in the above quote......
What can I do to edge of this RAGE and step back without depending on "happy pills"..........Allah please forgive me and give me patience and teach me demand respect from my children. Thanks for listening..