Wa alaikum salam,
I think what is holding him back is the fact that Islam has many rules and he does not want to follow. Examples...eating pork, fasting Ramadan, praying 5 times a day, and more. Wa salam
:salam2: Congratualtions sister Julie on your reversion to Islam.
May Allah (SWT) help you and guide you and solve your problem.
Tell your husband that it is not expected from him to start all the requirements of being a Muslim from the day one. No. He can slowly take steps in this direction too. Allah is very merciful.
There is a saying from Aisha (RA) the wife of our beloved Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) that if the Ayahs (verses) to prohibit alcohol were the first one then people would not have followed it because they were very used to drink it. If the first verse was not to do the adultry and fornication then people would have not accepted it because they were very much involved in that thing. So Allah (SWT) in his infinite mercy first softened the hearts of the believers and when their emaan became strong then the restrictions came and the streets of Medina were flowing with wine and alcohol and everyone threw alcohol out on the street.
Allah has created him (your husband) and he knows what he is capable of. If he is sincere and honest then he can take this very important step and then take other steps one at a time.
But if you stay with him too long (which you may already have) then you will be answerable to Allah. :astag:
You also need to ask this question to yourself that "How much more will I stay with him if he doen't take shahadah? "
A haraam relationship is a haraam relationship... period. Just like adultry and fornication and all other kinds of haraam sexual relationships, living as a wife with a non-muslim man is HARAAM for a muslim woman. Whatever happened has happened but from now on you need to get serious and explain the situation to him and tell him that if he likes Islam then he can take shahadah and then slowly take steps towards following its requirements. When his heart become soft and Jannah and Jahunam become clearer to him he will himself leave all the forbidden things by himself.
If he doesn't revert and you still continue to live with him, then you need to ask why you became Muslim when you cannot obey the commands of Allah. Life is a test and you need to pass these tests in order to enter Jannah.
I pray to Allah that he make things easy for my very sweet and beautiful and wonderful sister Julie. Ameen !