I....Dont know what to do after so long

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Shamim56

Muslim Brother
Assalamualakum brothers and sisters

Today i was on msn and my closest cousin started an argument with me and after i knew he wanted to argue i kept trying to get out like "Forget i said anything about family" but he kept on going insulting me. He is a dear cousin i had talked to him for a very long time on the phone for about 6-7 years

The problem is he's always serious about this stupid stuff. And this was the fourth time it happened and he is always the one that argue's with me and then goes away like he doesnt know me and i end up trying my best saying sorry when clearly it wasnt my fault. I dont see him at any parties we can only talk through phone and msn

So today i just had it you know , just gave up because its always me trying to rebuild a nice relative relationship and he keeps breaking it. Surprised he would sacrafice everything over a dumb conversation.


What would you guys do personally im fed up, should i continue my life as if he never existed? (he is a very bad sinner and i always try to get him out of things that are very bad he wants to do and he argues with me about that stupid stuff and family)

I just dont know what to do anymore

Jazakallah Khairan
 
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Shamim56

Muslim Brother
By the way hes really arrogant (believes he knows the right thing) so it takes a ton of effort just to get to talk to him again this is whyi posted.
 
ahmed_indian

ahmed_indian

to Allah we belong
if he is really regreting his mistakes...he is all welcome.

but as u said that he is arrogant and sinnner, better to give him advice about Allah and Last Day and be away frm him.

of course, dont break the relationship for the sake of Allah but avoid to mix with ppl who take Islam lightly.

and Allah knows best
 
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ksa 2008

New Member
asalamualiakum brother,, i can understand how u feel bout teh way ur cousin had the conversation with u,, but if we look back according to islam,(please correct me if i am wrong)Allah (swt) said that dont break ur relationship with ur relatives,, the one who does so cant enter jannah! so no matter what we cant totally break off all our ties with our relatives!we all face such circumstances in our lives , its true,,,but teh best thing to do is to maintain a healthy relationship far away from all sorts of arguements,whenever u find tis takin u to it,,try to chang e ur topic,,if u fail to convince him,,then better be away from him from all controversial matters,,things that adds fuel to the firee is always wise to bypass it,, when two people r undergoing arguement,,shaitan is the third among them,,,,, jazakallah khairun,,
 
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Shamim56

Muslim Brother
Assalamuakaum im back thanks for the response everyone :)

Im getting quite confused. One says stay away from him if hes a sinner and is being arrogant and the other is saying keep a healthy relationship.

Well in the first place, i do keep it in a healthy relationship its just that he suddenly starts to argue what am i suppose to do if i accidently say a word like "Family" he will start arguing with me when he knows he is wrong and starts to curse his other friends in the room that are saying to calm down.

Thats is what i tried doing, changing the topic along with my friend but he just keeps on going and i keep telling him we already discussed this but he ignores.

Jazakallah khairan everyone

Still not sure what to do yet, wait for him to see if he comes back to me saying sorry which i doubt cause hes arrogant and i just continue my life or do i go to him

He barely even listens to me on Islam and he doesnt apply anything and even talks about the most Haram things during Ramadan (intercourse) but of course my friends and i we try to change the subject
 
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slave_of_Allah

Junior Member
I have very little time, but all i will say is to keep going for the sake of Allah, and you will be rewaarded.

Think about Prophet Muhmammad ( pecae and blessings be uponhim) and how much he was tortured, but subhana'Allah He didn't let anything stop him. Follow by example.

Allah hears and knows all things. Take advantage of the situation, and become closer to Allah, for indeed He loves you very much!!
 
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The_truth

Well-Known Member
Asalaamu alaikum wr wb, i hope you are in the best health this Ramadhan. Firstly in this blessed month we should refrain from going on Msn and T.v, radio etc. If only we knew how precious each second is we would NOT waste a single second in idle talk. Its best to keep away from social websites like Facebook, Bebo, Hi5 and twitter. They are a deception and a complete waste of time and a channel for possible fitna and evil to take place. Especially in this month we should devote it TOTALLY to Ibaadah to the almighty because EVERYTHING good action is multiplied so why should we not make the best use of it?

Allah is the one who guides for all we can do is inform. Because your cousin does not really take you very seriously any dawah you give may fall on deaths ear meaning it may go in and come out again. What i would suggest is that you LIMIT the amount of times you speak with him and whenever you do speak with him tell him about a certain aspect of Islam then send him the file that he can download so he can read it for himself. Then say whatever you have to say etc and then sign out. If he starts talking about haraam tell him Islam's position on it and the punishment for it and be firm that you do not want to hear it. If he continues then sign out and also if you can tell that he is going to start an argument, just sign out straight away! But what i would say is that don't waste your time going on Msn and waste your time on the phone. Say whatever has to be said and limit it rather than spending hours. Time is important and we really need to make the best of every precious second we have because we don't know when our last second will come!

If you have anything else you want to ask then please don't hesitate. Please remember me in your duas to and i just want to leave you with some VERY beneficial and USEFUL links to make the best of Ramadan:

VERY Rewarding Nafl Salaahs we can Pray Everyday this Ramadan!

http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=60167

Simple Good deeds for All of us to do everyday this Ramadhan

http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=54226

10 Steps to Increasing our Iman(Faith) this Ramadhan

http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=47335
 
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