I have a bad father...dont you agree

[Islam!!yay]

My dad told my mom that she doesnt look atttractive anymore....he told her i dont desire you , and he said a whole lot more......and that made my mom heart brokened she was crying from the inside and she was goiing to cry from outside


Now i know that we cant talk against our fathers but i feel like hurting him the same he hurt my mother....i love my mother ....I hope allah will punish

Can a muslim husband say something like that to his wife?

 

[Allahu_Hassbi]

Hey likewise here too.My dads the same like yours however he wudn't say dat she is not attactive he wud just say things dat wud really really make her hurt & cry.Things dat u won't bear listening.

Now i know that we cant talk against our fathers but i feel like hurting him the same he hurt my mother....i love my mother ....I hope allah will punish

Can a muslim husband say something like that to his wife?

Its natural for u to feel like this i also felt the same.The only thing i can do is only pray 4 guidance for my dad and ask my mom to be always be patient.I don't think husbands should be that rude after all wives are humans too.

I hope someone can provide us with some info on how husbands shud treat their wives.
:salam2:

 

[alkathiri]

I don't think husbands should be that rude after all wives are humans too.

Never sis and bro.

The Prophet said: "I urge you to treat women well" - Sahih Al bukhari


Prophet Muhammad. (P) said:
The best of you is the best to his family and I am the best among you to my family.
The most perfect believers are the best in conduct and best of you are those who are best to their wives. (Ibn-Hanbal, No. 7396)
Behold, many women came to Muhammad's wives complaining against their husbands (because they beat them) - - those (husbands) are not the best of you

For more: http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=2351

 

[Jannah03]

the best among men are those who are good to their wives...i hope you catch my drift

 

[nyerekareem]

the best among men are those who are good to their wives...i hope you catch my drift

:salam2:
well, said. i would also like to add this question: how can anyone have the audacity to be so mean spirited to their wives? there are men such as myself that are hungry for wives. in the good way of course. that we would do anything for them. we want to complete our deen and be good husbands inshAllah. so it bothers me personally as a good man, to see or hear about men treating their wives this way.

 

[the only truth]

subhanallah..honestly its sooo nice to hear brothers say things like that these days...hpe u treat ur wife with utmost care and respect and may Allah reward you..

 

[the only truth]

Why is it that many brothers are practicing, they pray and give charity...but they fail to fulfill their duties at home...and ecspeccially their duty to their wives...i mean its really sad!!!:astag:

 

[ripefig]

Maybe

:salam2:

Maybe your father is not bad, he may say and do bad things, but he may just need guidance. I think if he knew how you felt he might feel ashamed and change his ways. Sometimes things happen between adults and relationships go sour as a result. Unfortunately children are caught up in the middle and they don't know what is going on in the background. It might be very difficult for many fathers to explain some feelings to his children. I am in NO WAY condoning what your father said because this is forbidden in Islam, however, all I am saying that he should not be judged harshly without making him aware of his duty as a Muslim to his wife and family. I would recommend buying him a book about the duty of a husband to his wife and the same should be given to your mother. May Allah most high guide us all.

 

[muharram23]

Why is it that many brothers are practicing, they pray and give charity...but they fail to fulfill their duties at home...and ecspeccially their duty to their wives...i mean its really sad!!!:astag:

that's a good question, we husbands most of the time forget that our wives are included in charity, and included in doing good towards. Our family has priority over others in doing good. May Allah s.v.a improve us. Ameen


Assalamu alayukum

 

[muharram23]

My dad told my mom that she doesnt look atttractive anymore....he told her i dont desire you , and he said a whole lot more......and that made my mom heart brokened she was crying from the inside and she was goiing to cry from outside


Now i know that we cant talk against our fathers but i feel like hurting him the same he hurt my mother....i love my mother ....I hope allah will punish

Can a muslim husband say something like that to his wife?

Sister/brother

salamu alaykum

plizz never ask Allah s.v.a to punish ur dad or anyone else. Instead, ask Allah s.v.a to improve ur dad and make him better in religion. Indeed, Allah s..v.a can do that easily. There maybe a reason why he said that. Im sorry but i don't know ur dad nor ur condition, but u should talk to ur dead and ask him why he said that. Remind him that if in islam he says things like "i divorce you" to his wife 3 times, he is indeed divorcing his wife and his wife becomes illegal for him. Also, sometimes women are lacking their obligations, such as looking pritty, clean, and obedient to their husbands as long as the husband doesn't go against quran and sunnah. Sometimes a man or woman can be under sihr (magic) where someone who hates their marriage, makes a sihr so that either the husband dislikes his wife and sees her in ugly state (when she is actually not) or the woman sees her husband and unnattractive (when he is not). You should consult a imam in ur area and try to find a best solution. This might be shoch for you, but sometimes as it is a practice of resulullah to marry more than one wife. Sometimes one wife is not enough to satisfy the desires of a man. Allah s.va says "marry of the women, who seem good to you, two or three or four; and if ye fear that ye cannot do justice (to so many) then one (only) or (the captives) that your right hands possess. Thus it is more likely that ye will not do injustice (4:3). Allah s..va starts with saying plural first, meaning more than 1 wife and then at last, he mentions 1. He s.v.a could have started with 1,2,3, or 4. Almost all sahaba had more than one women plus "that ur right hand posseses"(4:3) meaning the slave girls. Hopefully, you won't be offended but this is something that many scholars have said as well, but also it is the sunnah of ALlah and sunnah of resulullah s..vs. And who knows better than ALlah s.v.a then his resulll s.v.s. And ALlah knows best.

Assalamu alaykum

 

[B.H.]

Doesn't the Quran say that husbands and wives are like clothing to each other?

 

[mohsofi_abdullah]

Salam all,

I learned from an ustaz recently, that all those messages that came thru the mouth of Muhammad S.A.W., were according to situations and and the people behind an issue.
So, basically, all messages are not meant to be on sexual basis, but should be accepted as general, actually...
For all the people, and in every situation applicable.
For the people of Noah A.S., it was mentioned that men had sexual intercouse with men because the leaders were comprised of men... though, the issue was driven by all races and sexes.

Therefore, the women do have to remember that, they too need not slack off from their duties, to enable men to do theirs, and vice versa, of course.

For muslims to be talking about the other sex not doing their jobs, or the other races not obliging to their standards, it's a proof that racism or double standards, really. We can't really take action based on one-sided phenomenon, but more towards fairplay.

Wassalam