Assalamualaikum,
I used to get annoyed. But perhaps theres something in them that Allaah loves? Who knows?
The thought that there may be something in them that Allaah loves and something inside me that is severely disliked by Allaah actually scares me. So I still love these sisters for the sake of Allaah and whenever we talk I tell them to make du'aa for me and I do so in return for them.
I also forward them articles about freemixing, hijab, because what if ..they just don't know these rules
Once Ive sent them stuff my conscience feels clearer because I did my job, I told them according to what I knew, and no we shouldn't remain silent and accept whats wrong because we have to command the good and forbid the evil inshaAllaah, but whats required is tact.
Recently I was told one of these girls was saying how she cant get on with me as much as she would like because of all 'those rules', but, when it comes to socialising though, Im not compromising anything ..we can meet somewhere
safe (the prayer room
) if we must, nowhere else outside lecture! haha
And another one of these sisters has actually turned out to be a really close friend of mine now, since last september its been a transformation subhanAllaah
she still has her previous friends but tries her best to bring them to Jummuah every week.
Patience, and remember the example of the Sahabah, those who were most firm in their oppostion to the message turned out to be the some of the most steadfast in their belief afterwards.
wasalam