important message for all brothers

[Kakorot]

:salam2:

I personally know some women who went through abuse from their husbands, and yes i believe that the majority of the sisters/brothers who are making their points of domestic violence on this thread are speaking of their experiences.

There are many reverts on tti so they may not really know what its like since they only point out what Islam says how men are supposed to treat their wives. Of course, we all know that, even the men who ill-treat their wives know themselves that its against Islam, but they don't care.
My point is that yes, Islam tells men how to treat their wives but some Muslim men these days don't practice it, do they? no,they don't. And even if they have to beat their wives lightly, how likely is that? they most likely transgress the limits set by Allaah.

So there is no point of offending other muslims and calling them 'Modern Muslim' wallaah if someone said that to me, then I would of been so offended. At the end of the day, brother sheerpak is talking from experience while some of you have no experinece but are quick to make judgements.

Hope I didn't upset anyone, :shymuslima1: its just that i feel really hurt because of what close people around me are going through. And the way some men treat their wives is just wrong.

Like I saw a video in the past of the taliban beating women just because she showed some of her hand. Erm..why are they staring at her then, so what if she's covered they should still lower their gaze. I felt so sorry for that sister. And then they make Islam look bad. But of course not all men are like that.

 

[fada_all]

I personally believe there is no love ,and there is no man who is faithful ,or love his wife ..Men always need more ,no matter how good their wife is ,or how beautiful she is ,its never enough..

i totally agree with u sister this is my point of view that i want to say ,u sum up it here thanks.....

 

[slaveofAllah88]

:salam2:
I have to agree with sister Channa it all depends on the experience, not everyone is going to have the same opinion as me and my sister LoveofAllah . and She is right i know that ive suppose to respect my parents and be nice and polite but i can never do that for my father, I have no respect for him what so ever i try my best, I ask for forgiveness but the things he do makes me so mad sometimes, I never speak up to him just cause of islam but otherwise I feel really awkward referring to him as my father.

 

[rtbour]

Salaam,


There is no need for an apology. In the US the phrase give space can mean to allow another person privacy.
Often in a heated argument between husband and wife they are in the same room or area. This intensifies the argument. Sometimes if one person leaves the room..the discussion diminishes. There is no counterattack. It takes two to make a battle.
If in the middle of an argument one partner lowers their gaze it can end an argument. Many times when the police are called for a domestic situation they will drive the husband around the block until he regains his composure. Space is just that. Leave each other alone. Walk away. Go for a drive. Imagine how many disputes would be settled if the wife would reach for the Quran and recite it.

We are so trained to blame the husbands..often it is the wife who edges him on. Do not remain in the same area. Do not add fuel to the fire. And above all learn to forgive each other. Most fights are over NOTHING. It is the ego and not the servant of Allah subhana talla that engages in an argument.

Forgive me if I sound like a know it all. I have worked in the field and have seen it all. So many women blame their husbands and they do not count the blessing that they have a husband. A husband is a gift from Allah subhana talla. And a gift must be cherished. Likewise a wife is a gift, and she too must be cherished. That is the way of Islam. All else is the way of the duyna.

Thank you for writing this- it made me realize that I do that stuff to my husband sometimes- nagging and not giving him space when he needs it. I know what you're saying is true because I do that to my husband and it just makes a bad situation worse.

 

[Asja]

I personally believe there is no love ,and there is no man who is faithful ,or love his wife ..Men always need more ,no matter how good their wife is ,or how beautiful she is ,its never enough..

Assalamu Allaicomu

This is not TRUTH Alhmadulillah,and Alhamdulillah I do not agree because fopr the truth beliver is more than ENOUGH his Lord,his good and pious wife and his family and to this stage can only come the one who loves Allah the most and who stict to Holy Quran and Sunnah.

May Allah guide us all.

 

[stiks]

salam aleikum

I personally believe there is no love ,and there is no man who is faithful ,or love his wife ..Men always need more ,no matter how good their wife is ,or how beautiful she is ,its never enough..

waaleikum salam

And this, ladies and gentlemen, is the crux of the matter. Men will never be satisfied with what they've got.

 

[slaveofAllah88]

Assalamu Allaicomu

This is not TRUTH Alhmadulillah,and Alhamdulillah I do not agree because fopr the truth beliver is more than ENOUGH his Lord,his good and pious wife and his family and to this stage can only come the one who loves Allah the most and who stict to Holy Quran and Sunnah.

May Allah guide us all.

:salam2:
i agree with sister Asja but i really think the definition of love comes down to every individual

 

[slaveofAllah88]

And this, ladies and gentlemen, is the crux of the matter. Men will never be satisfied with what they've got.

:salam2:
Its not just men sister, actually it goes for humankind they are never satisfied with what they got

 

[stiks]

:salam2:
Its not just men sister, actually it goes for humankind they are never satisfied with what they got

Not so, women generally (not every woman mind you) are satisfied with their husbands. But men, oh no, a wife here, a wife there, a look at this one, may be a little more at that one.... get the drift?

 

[Asja]

Not so, women generally (not every woman mind you) are satisfied with their husbands. But men, oh no, a wife here, a wife there, a look at this one, may be a little more at that one.... get the drift?

Assalamu Allaicomu

This is not TRUTH Alhmadulillah,and Alhamdulillah I do not agree because for the truth beliver is more than ENOUGH his Lord,his good and pious wife and his family and to this stage can only come the one who loves Allah the most and who stict to Holy Quran and Sunnah.


May Allah guide us all.

 

[slaveofAllah88]

Assalamu Allaicomu

This is not TRUTH Alhmadulillah,and Alhamdulillah I do not agree because for the truth beliver is more than ENOUGH his Lord,his good and pious wife and his family and to this stage can only come the one who loves Allah the most and who stict to Holy Quran and Sunnah.


May Allah guide us all.

:salam2:
lol i would have to agree with sister Asja again she is right some people are satisifed cuz they are pious and they workship none but Allah and put their trust in Allah

while some people are never satisfied with anything and are always looking here and there for something which they think is better, also it goes for men and women. Men yea it cud imply for looking at other girls but women i hear women going all the time, oh i need this I need that , I want to marry a guy who has alot of money, like i dont want to get too deep into conversation

may Allah (swt) bless us all

 

[Asja]

:salam2:
lol i would have to agree with sister Asja again she is right some people are satisifed cuz they are pious and they workship none but Allah and put their trust in Allah

while some people are never satisfied with anything and are always looking here and there for something which they think is better, also it goes for men and women. Men yea it cud imply for looking at other girls but women i hear women going all the time, oh i need this I need that , I want to marry a guy who has alot of money, like i dont want to get too deep into conversation

may Allah (swt) bless us all

:salam2:

Thank you dear brother.

Mashallah dear brother,and I also agree with your opinion and your previous posts.May Allah reword you for your modesty and faith,Ameen.

May Allah bless you

 

[Abu Hannah]

:salam2: I have to thank Mirajmom for shedding light on the flipside of this issue. There are plenty of cases of women abusing their husbands verbally and emotionally, and very few have empaty for this situation. The effects of verbal abuse can be just as destructive and dangerous as physical. In general, people need to keep in mind that that abuse against the husband is also widespread and give due consideration to this as much as we champion the cause of women.