Intermingling of the sexes II (part 2)

IbnAhmad

Junior Member
:salam2:

Assalamualaykum readers.

In this post I will be continuing with my previous topic regarding the intermingling of non-mehram men and women that takes place in person as well as on the internet.

I was specifically targetting the 'chatting' that is taking place in todays age that has become the norm. We no longer consider it to be an evil but instead it seems to be encouraged.

However, there is a type of communication in Islam that is permitted. This is the contact between a non-mehram man and woman who communicate for the sake of Islam. But please note only in extreme cases of necessity. Those whose sole purpose is to gain knowledge for the betterment of their own imaan, as well as the entire ummah.
Truly, this can be seen taking place at the time of the Prophet (saw) and his blessed companions. The Mother of the Believers hazrat Aishah (ra) has related many hadiths to inform the ummah of the blessed ways of our Prophet(saw) These hadiths were asked by the noble companions of the Prophet (saw) upon which hazrat Aisha use to reply behind a screen in the most modest manner. Yes, indeed this is a perfect example that clearly shows such communication is permitted in Islam.

However, I ask you, what has become of us today? We use this very excuse of propagating Islam and instead misuse it to suit our desires. Yes, once in a while an Islamic issue may crop up but other times? Other times, readers we are involved in deep conversations be it MSN or any other way, we are involved in many hours of zina. What is the need in speaking to a non-mehram about personal issues, about petty issues which are simply not necessary.

Ofcorse one may say 'my intentions are pure' truly I do not doubt that for one moment. However, all would agree that Shaytan makes it a duty upon himself to convert these intentions to please him. Muslims are urged 'Believing men and women keep your gazes down' This shows that despite having pure intentions one can easily fall into the trap of shaytan, therefore even the slightest bit of temptation is prohibitted from the start. Before any thing even takes place. Id like to apply this same aspect to internet chatting. Readers do not even go near unnecessary chatting between non-mehrams on the internet for this is the path leading to zina. We are mere mortals, we can not always control our desires, it may begin as an 'islamic issue' but result in zina.

I would like to conclude by saying that yes you may find the views outlined in my entries very extreme. However as is often said 'the truth is bitter' An ill person has to undergo severe treatment and drink bad tasting medicine as a cure. Similarly this post is being put before you regardless of how bitter it sounds. I apologise for anything said that may have caused offence.

Jazakallah for reading
 

tru follower

New Member
so what you are saying is that we cannot in any way or form communicate with the opposite sex unless it relates to islam? You cant have conversations even if they dont relate to sex? Can you talk to the opposite sex if they are muslim? thanx for your information.
 

ShahnazZ

Striving2BeAStranger
What about if its for purposes of marriage? Like if the brother intends on marrying the sister and has made his intention known to her and her family. Are the two permitted to communicate via phone?
 

a_stranger

Junior Member
:salam2:
Brothers and sisters we have two inner enemies our ownselves and Shaytan ......we have to be very strict with them........ as much we win our battle with those enemies we come closer to Allah swt ...... never trust your inner temptation but follow the guigance of the prophet salla Allah alaihi wa sallam.
 

lostlilly07

striving 4 Firadous
can someone please answer my question? thank you

I know it is hard...that is why Islam advises up to marry or fast.....untill then find some good brothers to talk too. or you could just talk to non-muslim women but i am not advising you to do the latter.

peace
 

AlQurtubi

Banned
We have made marriage difficult ourselves. It should be 10 mins job and thats it. You can then talk to him/her for ages (untill you get bored .. lol )

Our respect and glory lies in following the orders of ALLAH in the way of Nabi(SAW).

I have started reading a book on islamic marriage and its really interesting to know the importance of Nikah and hadiths regarding not doing it when you CAN. I wish i would have got the translation of it.
 

slave_of_Allah

Junior Member
Assalamu alikum Abu Hurairah

Masha'Allah brother you have raised very good points. All of which made me think about the state of this ummah, it is very depressing. Insha'Allah others will read your post, and it will make them think. Masha'Allah yours words are very powerful. Jazka'Allah for speaking the truth, it needed to be said, and i am very grateful that you toke your time out to write this. I pray Allah keeps you on the straight path, has mercy on your soul and fills your heart with happiness. Aameen.

Wa'alaikum asalaam.
 
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