Is it wrong to talk less?

[ahmed_indian]

:salam2:,

if someone dont like to talk much but others think that he is angry or not on good-terms with them, wht to advice in this situation?

 

[~Ali_]

Walaikumasalam - I was thinking this myself today... it gets really annoying when people start to say "is something wrong?"

 

[Meekaal]

Talking

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله

I know the case that you are talking about. It is probably better to show good character and respond to people nicely but not necessary start the talk. The Prophet (salla Allaahu 'alayhy wa sallam) said:

مَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ فَلْيَقُلْ خَيْرًا أَوْ لِيَصْمُتْ

"Whoever believes in Allaah and the Last Day let him either say something good or keep silent." (Muttafaq 'alayhy)

Based on this, if we keep talking just to please the others, we can fall into vain talk and I really believe we would be going against this Hadeeth. It may be hard to implement directly but we can advance towards it gradually by the help of Allaah.

 

[allah is with me]

muhammad s.a.w loved those people who used to speak less...
just give smile, and avoid talking more..
they will come to know that yo are not angry, and if still they ask , or get upset thinking that you dont more to them. then say them that.' muhammad (.s.a.w) loved those who used to speak less.'.then they will understand ....indeed

 

[Muslimah16]

:salam2:

When you meet me in person im actually a very quiet person!
An because im doing Islamic studies, people think im acting snobbish when i dont talk to them! hehe I am actually very very very very quiet until i get to know someone properly that i just go on and on and on and on and on *blushes*

But i like to talk less normally, although on TTI it may not seem so LOL :shymuslima1:

Brother, just dont worry to much about what these people think about you, cos it really dont matter! Smile frequently at them and just dont give them the i-am-so-not-bothered-to-talk-to-you vibe

Take care

Wassalaam

 

[kiki18]

i've had the same problem, but now my friends know that i'm just a quiet person.
and yes it is good to smile so they don't think u are angry, it worked for me

salam

 

[aroojimran]

:salam2:,

if someone dont like to talk much but others think that he is angry or not on good-terms with them, wht to advice in this situation?

:salam2:

Brother your question which has been well answered reminded me of another related question..How if a person doesnt laugh too much??

I have seen people making fun of others who do not laugh too much..Infact lately i have been a witness to such a case..Three people were siting together,two of them lost in watching a movie..Upon every comedic scene they would laugh so loud taht the third person would feel out of place..and they would chide him for being a boring person...

How abt this??
?
?

 

[fada_all]

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله

I know the case that you are talking about. It is probably better to show good character and respond to people nicely but not necessary start the talk. The Prophet (salla Allaahu 'alayhy wa sallam) said:

مَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ فَلْيَقُلْ خَيْرًا أَوْ لِيَصْمُتْ

"Whoever believes in Allaah and the Last Day let him either say something good or keep silent." (Muttafaq 'alayhy)

Based on this, if we keep talking just to please the others, we can fall into vain talk and I really believe we would be going against this Hadeeth. It may be hard to implement directly but we can advance towards it gradually by the help of Allaah.

salam alikum

good answer mash allah dear akhi may allah grant you al jannah

 

[BrotherInIslam7]

:salam2:

Brother your question which has been well answered reminded me of another related question..How if a person doesnt laugh too much??

I have seen people making fun of others who do not laugh too much..Infact lately i have been a witness to such a case..Three people were siting together,two of them lost in watching a movie..Upon every comedic scene they would laugh so loud taht the third person would feel out of place..and they would chide him for being a boring person...

How abt this??
?
?

:salam2:

First of all, they all shouldn't have been watching movies..

Secondly, this looks very 'high school-ish'. I mean just because someone is a bit reserved or formal (or however you put it), they call the person 'boring'. Friends should be a bit more tolerant and be ready to understand that people are different and have different personalities.

I would suggest that the third person, just laugh aside the 'boring' tag and be ready to respond with his/her own brand of humor. He/She should be self-confident and hopefully Insha'Allah not get bogged down by such comments.

 

[icadams]

There is an old saying that the foolish man speaks while the wise man listens. The advice by other brothers and sisters here is excellent. Smile more, people will not think less of you, but listen more than you speak, you will learn more. And when you do speak, speak with authority and knowledge, not with foolishness and frivolity.

 

[ahmed_indian]

jazaak Allah khair all of you who gave their encouraging advices. may Allah help you all.

so one think i learnt is 'Smile More'. but sometimes when you smile a lot, ppl ask - "seems very happy today, any Good News?".

what to do then?

 

[IbnAdam77]

assalam 'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

Truly to say, I was a very talkative person among my friends years ago. That bad habit is changing since I began to search towards al-Haqq (Truth). There are many people among my friends who disliked the change in me and some of them questioned a lot. I just tried to give them the best answers I can, and no more such questions arised after that. Soon after that, the picture changed completely. Alhamdhulillah!

In nature, I am actually not a very talkative person with non-family and non-friends, but a friendly one. If one of you spend even a little business time with me, then he will realise it. Alhamdhulillah for what He has given me.

You may not believe if I tell this. But to tell the truth, I better matches with elders than the same aged people and young aged people, in talks. I still do not know what is the exact reason for that. Am I the only one with this situation?

To the last question of brother Ahmed, although we may think this is something very small, it is not. Therefore in the early days of change, people will ask lots and lots of hows and whys. You just need to continue your way with politeness and care. InshaAllah you will see everything changes soon.

wassalam 'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

 

[BinteShafi]

assalam 'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

You may not believe if I tell this. But to tell the truth, I better matches with elders than the same aged people and young aged people, in talks. I still do not know what is the exact reason for that. Am I the only one with this situation?

wassalam 'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

Brother I fall exactly in the same category. My 90% friends are much older than me.....Alhamdolillah. My husband has started disliking my this habit...he says you have encirled yourself with "Retired Aunties".... I hope I will convince him that they are my friends not aunties.

Wa alaikum salam wrwb

 

[IbnAdam77]

Brother I fall exactly in the same category. My 90% friends are much older than me.....Alhamdolillah. My husband has started disliking my this habit...he says you have encirled yourself with "Retired Aunties".... I hope I will convince him that they are my friends not aunties.

Wa alaikum salam wrwb

assalam 'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

Haha I wonder what my future wife will tell me then. LOL. Any ways, I cannot leave this because it brought so much good in my life.

I shall explain these things before we marry.

Happy to know that you are in my category.

wassalam 'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

 

[allah is with me]

jazaak Allah khair all of you who gave their encouraging advices. may Allah help you all.

so one think i learnt is 'Smile More'. but sometimes when you smile a lot, ppl ask - "seems very happy today, any Good News?".

what to do then?

really bro! many of them say this when we smile a lot and speak less..and if we smile less and speak less then they ask '. why what happened. any problem.'?..ahh! i have tried this many times , but they ask me several questions so, when i smile more and talk less , and when they ask me '.seems very happy. any good news.?..
then i say them .' yeah , there is a good news, you know what .i came to know from the hadith that' muhammad s.a.w loved those people who would speak less and would smile more.' isn't it a good news?....
we give charity when we smile ..so let us smile more and talk less, we get reward for this, coz this is sunnah...
so start smiling today and talk less , muhammad s.a.w will love you'.........
then they will also know the knowledge and know the reason behind why your smiling so much and talking less....
isn't this better..i do this when ever some one asks me..
i guess this will work .inshallah

 

[ahmed_indian]

Alhamdolillah. My husband has started disliking my this habit...he says you have encirled yourself with "Retired Aunties".... I hope I will convince him that they are my friends not aunties.

retired aunties?? its truly funny sister

Haha I wonder what my future wife will tell me then. LOL. Any ways, I cannot leave this because it brought so much good in my life.

I shall explain these things before we marry.

dont worry brother, inshallah u'll get ur dream-girl.

i came to know from the hadith that' muhammad s.a.w loved those people who would speak less and would smile more.' isn't it a good news?....
we give charity when we smile ..so let us smile more and talk less, we get reward for this, coz this is sunnah...
so start smiling today and talk less , muhammad s.a.w will love you'.........
then they will also know the knowledge and know the reason behind why your smiling so much and talking less....
isn't this better..i do this when ever some one asks me..
i guess this will work .inshallah

jazaak Allah khair sister, i hope it works.

but one more problem: if i'll say that i talk little and smile more due to Hadith, i might get the reply: "dont show-off. u want ppl's praise so that ppl say how pious you are."

 

[allah is with me]

but one more problem: if i'll say that i talk little and smile more due to Hadith, i might get the reply: "dont show-off. u want ppl's praise so that ppl say how pious you are.

aww ! that's weird dude.....
why will some one say this...
, if they say this, then it is better not to meet them so much..
but try your level best....:shymuslima1:

 

[BrotherInIslam7]

jazaak Allah khair all of you who gave their encouraging advices. may Allah help you all.

so one think i learnt is 'Smile More'. but sometimes when you smile a lot, ppl ask - "seems very happy today, any Good News?".

what to do then?

:salam2:

Akhi.. Try this answer

The good news is that I am still am a Muslim Alhumdulillah and Allah swt continues to shover his mercy and blessing upon me. All praise to Allah swt.

Further explain to them that even every breath you take is also a blessing from Allah the Almighty. Or in anyother way that you like.

Insha'Allah it will make your friends reflect and maybe make them smile.