Assalamu Alaikum, bros and sisters........ As a new muslimah I've obviously got much to learn and when I came into Islam it was because the basic principles seemed to make so much more sense than Christianity....... I don't claim to be perfect and I don't claim that my thoughts are correct I simply don't understand so I ask you all not to assue I am attacking islam as I too am muslim. The priniciples relating to women just appaul me. I've been told, don't worry if you are patient you will understand......so I've been patient, I've questioned everyone I can, read every book I can find on the subject.....the last of which left me crying in anger. Below are a few examples of these Women should be obedient to their husbands For example, I love my husband dearly but in my eyes we are equals.......and whilst I respect him and listen to him.......I stop short of being 'obedient' to him. If we truley are equals how could that work? A woman should join her husband in bed as he wishes I work hard during the day and then I come home and do homely things in the evening.... but is a muslim women if my husband calls me to bed I should go to him. And sometimes I'm just not in the mood. A muslim woman should not go out of the house without her husband's permission Our dog does not go out of the house wihtout my husbands permission. A woman should cover all her body bar hands and face because she is entirely awrah. I may be wrong (please feel free to correct me if I am) but I have been told the arabic translation of awrah is 'sexual organs'-the very idea that a woman's hair or arms may be equated to her private parts I find quite insulting. A woman should not refuse her husbands request to take additional wives I would like to ask any brothers reading this how they would feel should their wife have 1,2,or 3 other husbands. A woman must not pray when she has her menses? Is she really dirty because of something natural she has been durdened with I am told islam is 'perfect' and that Allah is fair in all things. If this is true (I'm i'm not cliaming it isn't) why does it appear that the woman are mere objects or obedience and pleasure for men? The woman a puppet and the man the puppeteer?