Love or wealth

[MUHAMMAD_SHAIKH]

Assalam alaikum muslim family..

I have a question...what is important in life "Wealth or Love " while you are a married couple.If you have no reasonable income from your job.Your family relation starts becoming sour.But as a husband ,he loves and cares but as a wife she prefers money.,she thinks money is priority against love.Becasue love doesnot feed your needs but what can husband do if he has little income????????????How to balance the life?Whos responsible for souring relations?

 

[TheKnowledgeSeeker]

Assalamu alaykum,

In my opinion love is more improtant in life then having then wealth cos wealth or money own't last forever and plus it doesn't bring happiness. Once you have love and faith in life Allah will help you live a great life without being wealth but when you have money well it is like that. You can balance life be find the one person Allah created for you to share your life with in life who loves you and that person will love wheather you have money or not. I guess it is the husband responsible to sour out the relationship in this point or the person who loves the person who doesn't love them. You can be the wealthiest person in life but not having love in life is not a life, being wealth is useless and you feel you are interm in this world. So main there is anthing improtant having love in life.

:tti_sister: -May Allah help us find the right person to share our lifes with in life. Ameeen!!!

 

[kayleigh]

I think love is far more important than money. You can live your whole life with money and never be happy, but if you live your whole life without love you'll never be happy. Life is about love, and while your relationship might turn sour if you're having financial problems, you'll never have a good relationship in the first place if you don't love each other.

 

[najbc]

Assalamu alaykum,

I really believe love is, more important in life than wealthy. You might be the riches man or woman and at the same time be the unhappiness person. When you value love, you will be happy through bad time and been happy is what counts the most. Love can not be bought by money. Love is something that will never get old or be finish, while wealthy dies.

 

[farhopes]

Love is the life. The whole life is based on love, but what kind of love?? that is the point.

There are four kinds of love: materialistic love, natural love, spiritual love and divine love.

According to the kind of love you experience, I can tell you what your priorities are.

The problem between any married couple may arise because they experience different kinds of love. So how can they meet? It's difficult. However with patience, tolerance and some sacrifices relationships can be saved.

 

[visionusman]

Assalamualaikum.

Hazrat Ibraheem AS went to meet the wife of his son Ismael AS. She did not know who he was. He asked her what her husband did, and she replied he earns his living by hunting. He asked whether the provisions were enough. She said not really. It is very difficult and sometimes we have food and sometimes we don't. Hazrat Ibraheem said to her when your husband returns tell him that the frame of his door was not right and he should change it. So when Hazrat Ismael AS returned he said that he could smell the fragrance of his father. His wife replied that yes an old man did come. Ismael asked what he had said. She told him about his comment on the door's frame. Ismael proceeded by divorcing his wife. He remarried and again Hazrat Ibraheem came to visit his new wife. She was also asked the same questions. However her response was that Allah is very generous and I have more than enough to thank the Lord. He provides for us more than we need. Hazrat Ibraheem told her to tell her husband that the new frame of his house's door was very good and that he should take good care of it.

The Prophet SAW also said to the women that I have seen more women in hell than men. One woman asked him why that was so. One of the reasons he mentioned (out of three) was that they are unthankfull to their husbands.

May Allah bless us all with very loving spouses. InshAllah.

 

[Aapa]

Salaam,

A wife will request money from a husband, when she loses faith in him. When a husband loves his family it matters little how much money they have. The bond of thier love overcomes much.
Money is not a subsitute for love. When a man seeks hapiness outside the home..and it happens..the wife will nag for money. It is that simple.

 

[visionusman]

Salaam,

A wife will request money from a husband, when she loses faith in him. When a husband loves his family it matters little how much money they have. The bond of thier love overcomes much.
Money is not a subsitute for love. When a man seeks hapiness outside the home..and it happens..the wife will nag for money. It is that simple.

Unfortunately it is not always that simple. Which is why Prophet Ibraheem AS asked his son to divorce his wife and also why Prophet Muhammed SAW said women would outnumber the men in hell. There is no point in generalizing such issues. We are not all the same. However Let us pray that Allah saves all from hellfire. Ameen

 

[shaheeda35]

:salam2:
Love is definitely most important. Money is just paper, and many people, especially rich people are unhappy because of it. Some of them have so many problems that they drink, do drugs, and/or commit suicide. Money cannot buy happiness, and it is so true, mashallah. You love Allah, you pray to Him and make duaa, Allah will provide for you as long as you keep your faith and trust in Him. Money causes nothing but pain. Allah knows best!

 

[Rosheen]

Hi there;

not all women nag for money or consider it to be important. My sister in law lives in a 2 bedroom house and has chosen to have a 4th child as it will bring joy. When she was pregnant she didn't even ask her husband for a new pair of plastic sandals...her feet were so swollen.

Some women are more humble than others. I was sorry for her and gave her my slippers...I could easily afford another pair. I learnt that she is a very sweetand kind natured woman and she is a good role model.

Sometimes me and my husband argue for money. But now we are really being tested we are actually stonger and don't argue. My point is if wwe can eat and pay for the roof over our heads then theres no issue.

Love wins everytime!!!

 

[Aapa]

Salaam,

I fear I made myself unclear. Let me try again.

Love overrides all. When a family loves, the burdens become bearable. When a family rememberes that Allah is the Provider..there are blessings everwhere.

Often, we forget. We subsitute money for many many other things. At times when we are tested, unless we remember we are the slaves of Allah, we allow ourselves to drift apart from eachother. At those times money becomes the focal point of the family. We only see things from the prespective of money and not Allah. The lack of money becomes the glue of the family.

Wives fear for tomorrow...husbands leave their responsibilities.

 

[amyaishazouaoui]

:salam2:


A marriage with no love is like a rainy day in the middle of winter.

A marriage with love is like a summers day with the cool breeze blowing on your face while you sit in the shade of tht big old tree in the park.

If a marriage has no love and is based on material things then there is little point in it, you will never be happy no matter how much money you have.

I would prefer to be in love and live in one room with one meal a day then not be in love and have everything....

......its not much to ask for now is it???????

 

[Muhammad_A]

Lord, yes.

100%.

Or are you asking us to guess where the quote is from?

 

[amyaishazouaoui]

:salam2:

lol, ive not laughed so much in ages!!!!!!

ermmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm maybe i will remove the "anyone"!!!!!!

:shymuslima1:

 

[Muhammad_A]

As salaamu alaykum wa ramat'Ullah wa barakhatu

Glad I could brighten your day lil sis

Wa salaam

 

[umm hussain]

Asalam alaikum warahmatullah

I would like to differ with the majority. I hope I am not going to wind some people up here but anyway as much as I agree love is more important than money but love cannot pay your bills especially not in this western society where you have to pay bills, rent, council tax etc. It would be lovely to have someone you love who can pay your bills and Inshallah be able to buy Jilbabs or shoes at least once a year. I mean really no one wants to walk around in rags with bare feet exposing the parts that are supposed to be covered in the name of Love. It would be also better and ideal to have a husband who actually works instead on relying on benefits because he is too lazy to provide for his family. The whole point of being a husband is to provide for your family and not for the state to provide on your behalf.

When we speak of money we have to realise as well how much money. I am not talking 'filthy' rich but enough to cover your basic needs,i.e food, shelter, inshallah unless you can be in love and live in some village where you do not have to worry about utility bills in the middle of no where because there isn't any electricity, running water. In those places LOVE and no money are sufficient. You can go hunting instead of shopping in the supermarket or butchers, grow your own food as well and rely on the rain to water it for you and if it is a drought year well you can just love each other till the next rainy season if you do not die of hunger till then because you have no money to travel anywhere to buy food.

Just because a person would love someone with money that does not mean one is being materialistic nor forgetting love is important but would just like to live a 'comfortable' life inshallah. There is nothing wrong with wanting someone with money in my opinion, we still have to live in this dunya and we should enjoy our share of it, there is a difference between eating to live and living to eat. I am of those who choose eat to live.

If a young man is not able to afford to get married they are recommended to fast until Allah provides for them the means. If money isn't an issue why then are they told to wait till they can afford. Marriage isn't just about being physical but providing for your wife both financially depending on your income of course and emotionally. If a husband can provide just one room with enough to eat then alhamdulillah but 1 room with 5 starving naked children not too good.LOL.....

Hope I am making sense.

 

[amyaishazouaoui]

Asalam alaikum warahmatullah

I would like to differ with the majority. I hope I am not going to wind some people up here but anyway as much as I agree love is more important than money but love cannot pay your bills especially not in this western society where you have to pay bills, rent, council tax etc. It would be lovely to have someone you love who can pay your bills and Inshallah be able to buy Jilbabs or shoes at least once a year. I mean really no one wants to walk around in rags with bare feet exposing the parts that are supposed to be covered in the name of Love. It would be also better and ideal to have a husband who actually works instead on relying on benefits because he is too lazy to provide for his family. The whole point of being a husband is to provide for your family and not for the state to provide on your behalf.

When we speak of money we have to realise as well how much money. I am not talking 'filthy' rich but enough to cover your basic needs,i.e food, shelter, inshallah unless you can be in love and live in some village where you do not have to worry about utility bills in the middle of no where because there isn't any electricity, running water. In those places LOVE and no money are sufficient. You can go hunting instead of shopping in the supermarket or butchers, grow your own food as well and rely on the rain to water it for you and if it is a drought year well you can just love each other till the next rainy season if you do not die of hunger till then because you have no money to travel anywhere to buy food.

Just because a person would love someone with money that does not mean one is being materialistic nor forgetting love is important but would just like to live a 'comfortable' life inshallah. There is nothing wrong with wanting someone with money in my opinion, we still have to live in this dunya and we should enjoy our share of it, there is a difference between eating to live and living to eat. I am of those who choose eat to live.

If a young man is not able to afford to get married they are recommended to fast until Allah provides for them the means. If money isn't an issue why then are they told to wait till they can afford. Marriage isn't just about being physical but providing for your wife both financially depending on your income of course and emotionally. If a husband can provide just one room with enough to eat then alhamdulillah but 1 room with 5 starving naked children not too good.LOL.....

Hope I am making sense.

:salam2:

I get ya sis...............

 

[visionusman]

I actually agree with the general thrust of sister umm hussain's message. Of course a man has to look after his wife and that does mean financial secuirty as well. However what should a man do if things change? Or if Allah decides to test the family's means. I still think love conquers all.

I am a hospital doctor and make good money alhamdullilah, and my income has grown over the years as well. However when I was married even though I still made reasonable money (around 45000),but it was less than what my ex wife's brothers used to make. I had to continually bear a tirade of humiliation just becuase I couldn't make as much. Do u think that is fair?