Marriage abroad
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slaveofAllah88
Slave of Allah (swt)
aslam o alikum 
ur question is serious but sorry it kidna made me smile it all depends on the understanding if u were never communicating with the person who did u even meet up or reach the conclusion of marriage
usually nothing like this ppl adjust marriage is all about gaining something and losing something
inshallah everything will be ok
ur question is serious
but sorry it kidna made me smile it all depends on the understanding if u were never communicating with the person who did u even meet up or reach the conclusion of marriage usually nothing like this ppl adjust marriage is all about gaining something and losing something
inshallah
everything will be ok
naaad
mu'minah
well, if there would have been a communication problem, you would'nt have been in a serious relationship with the woman. i dont think there be much of a problem. both of u will learn from each other. Islam being the Way of Life, for both, life wouldnt be that difficult together INSHALLAH!!!
. Islam being the Way of Life, for both, life wouldnt be that difficult together INSHALLAH!!!
gazkour
Junior Member
Assalamo alikom wa rahmato Allahi wabarakato
I think it's all relative. I'm married to a moroccan and most(not all) of his friends have had bad experiences with their non-north african wives(or ex- wives I should say!). It's not an easy thing indeed, I must say;and they keep saying to my husband how 'wrong' this relationships are, but I have commited myself to prove them wrong.
Mainly , the problems I have had with my husband are not because we are from different cultures but because we both have very different temperaments and religious practicing levels(yes, yes, we're both muslims) . I also know other very happy mixed marriages, by the way. So it's both difficult and wrong to generalize.
I think it all depends on how each of the spouses is commited to Allah and to understand, accept, respect and harmonise :shake:the differences in backrounds.
Having a different 'culture' it is not a synonym of having problems of communication. Remember that people from the same country, city, culture are getting divorce every day too.
I also would like to add that it's important to talk very clearly
about these things and the expectations you both have, prior to marriage.
When there are cultural differences, it is essential to talk about them and make sure there are not dubious or mixed feelings. For example : I have always found very rude when my husband raises his voice even when talking about the weather! So, I didn't know at the beginning that in North Africa they basically don't talk...they shout!!
I just wished he had explained that to me before!:angryred: That doesn't mean that I have finally accepted the shouting though, but at least he knows I hate it, and he tries to talk in a more gentle way(sometimes).
Well, If you do a very strong istikhara, will also help heaps.
May Allah guide us all.
Assalamo alikom wa rahmato Allah wa barakato
I think it's all relative. I'm married to a moroccan and most(not all) of his friends have had bad experiences with their non-north african wives(or ex- wives I should say!). It's not an easy thing indeed, I must say;and they keep saying to my husband how 'wrong' this relationships are, but I have commited myself to prove them wrong.
Mainly , the problems I have had with my husband are not because we are from different cultures but because we both have very different temperaments and religious practicing levels(yes, yes, we're both muslims) . I also know other very happy mixed marriages, by the way. So it's both difficult and wrong to generalize.
I think it all depends on how each of the spouses is commited to Allah and to understand, accept, respect and harmonise :shake:the differences in backrounds.
Having a different 'culture' it is not a synonym of having problems of communication. Remember that people from the same country, city, culture are getting divorce every day too.
I also would like to add that it's important to talk very clearly
about these things and the expectations you both have, prior to marriage.When there are cultural differences, it is essential to talk about them and make sure there are not dubious or mixed feelings. For example : I have always found very rude when my husband raises his voice even when talking about the weather! So, I didn't know at the beginning that in North Africa they basically don't talk...they shout!!
I just wished he had explained that to me before!:angryred: That doesn't mean that I have finally accepted the shouting though, but at least he knows I hate it, and he tries to talk in a more gentle way(sometimes).Well, If you do a very strong istikhara, will also help heaps.
May Allah guide us all.
Assalamo alikom wa rahmato Allah wa barakato
IbnAdam77
Travelling towards my grave.
assalam 'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
Any proof to back your statement?
wassalam 'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
Sanaa01
Muslima
:salam2:
I don't know why you think Morocco is not a good place in my opinion Morocco is the best country but if you are talking about people of Morocco I would say that there is always good and bad people in every country so please don't generalize
palestine
Servant of Allah
Marrying from another culture is not a problem in my opinion so long as both of the people are truly sincere and act upon the deen. This way they would be able to understand and remain patient if there were to take place a conflict or the like of it. the only thing i would say is a problem is if the person is not in the same country as you are, meaning if the person is abroad. my sister is married to a man who is overseas, and she has to travel every summer to go and see him. that can create a difficulty and loneliness. however if that could be worked out, great. but Dont' reject or refuse the person becuase of their culture. she'll learn and so will you. i call it breaking the cycle of hate...because i believe that every culture is unique in it's own way and if you truly care and love the person, it should not matter what culture they are from. Wallahu A3lam. asalamu 3alaykum wara7matullahi wabarakatuhu.
palestine
Servant of Allah
PS: people will say everything and anything to keep you away from marrying someone from another culture. they just have that tendency. they speak partially the truth but not completely and wholely. they scare you to death and make you feel at the end of your wits. so do take advice from them at the same time make sure it is what YOU TRULY WANT and not for their sake.
Due to the fact that marriage is in a way..a *permanent* commitment which one hopes to make and have it last in this dunya and the akhirah..if Allah Wills!..then one needs to be *careful* and *thorough* in their *pick* for a partner..and especially if you come from an *eastern* culture you need to bear in mind that when you bring your wife..she's not married to you..she's married to *your family* as well..and if she will find some matters challenging or unacceptable then (and sorry to sound so blunt) prepare headaches too many to count in number...in our current times..there are very few people who are so wise as to accomodate to the needs or musts expected of them..and though we like to think the world has become *a small village*..well in this village there are differences at all levels..and from all perspectives..*still*..so we can't follow a simple *liking* or *wish*..we need to not only *be in touch* with reality..but *grasp* it so we can look it straight in the eye and figure out *exactly* what it's about
this is *my opinion*...and though it is written with a lot *yous*..it is a *personal* view..which nobody else is entitled to accept nor reject..as it is only *an opinion* out of many others
this is *my opinion*...and though it is written with a lot *yous*..it is a *personal* view..which nobody else is entitled to accept nor reject..as it is only *an opinion* out of many others
fada_all
Junior Member
salam alikom
im sorry to hear something bad about my country , but how dare you saying things like this brother ???????? first you go over the limits , and second this is not our topic here brother ,,,,,,,,,, i don't konw how could you generalize ideas like this only because you read something , an article in the net how dare talking impolitely about my country like this im sorry , i will not treat you the same way or insult you , not because im better than you or something like this ,but because i have my own principles that never let me treat people the same bad way they did........
i answer you here not because im afraid that person like you will spoile the beauty of my country Morrocco in the eyes of others , but give this as a prove from allah swt to us in his Holy Qur'an in he name of allah :
*ذا أتاكم فاسق بنبإٍ فتبينوا أن تصيبوا قوما بجهالة فتصبحوا على ا ما فعلتم نادمينSIZE]*
slaveofAllah88
Slave of Allah (swt)
:salam2:
NOT TRUE MAN not at all, i have some really close friend from MOROCCO really nice people, very hospitable what you have heard is wrong, they are really nice people,
Good and bad are found everywhere u just cant say 1 place
Please it would be nice if u didn't say something like that especially about such a beautiful country.
abu'muhammad
Junior Member
:salam2:
The hadith about to whom one should marry, subhanAllah!
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 27: sahih bukhari
The hadith stress importance of marrying religious woman.
The one who is religious is Allah fearing, patient ,trouble-shooter and reduces family problems. Where-ever people are living who have correct understanding of Islam & don’t do shirk or bidah, or other deviant acts than they will have same base or culture in terms of tawheed ,worship, beliefs and practices. and there are no problems of communication or mutual-understanding. They understand a marriage, its rights and obligations, subhanAllah ! The ahadiths stresses importance on looking for deen. As it en-compasses all goodness in it, and those upon it also have goodness. and will love modesty, simplicity, humility and their affairs would be simple. They will uphold sunnah, whether small or big, not looking it in status but as the way of prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wasallam).
And Allah is the all-seer. No-one has seen the unseen or what is next. After marrying to someone and keeping patience and reliance in Allah over the problems than its not in vain and the reward is with Allah. other hadith mentions them clothing for each other, subhanAllah! Allah made them care-taker, affectionate and helper for each other.
The thing is there could be difference in views among the people in different areas or countries but with deen that goes side-ways. The teaching from ahadith is neither watching arabi nor azami but first one who has deen in life, subhanAllah ! For that we first seek Allah’s mercy and his pleasure in every deed we are going to do.
The hadith about to whom one should marry, subhanAllah!
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 27: sahih bukhari
The hadith stress importance of marrying religious woman.
The one who is religious is Allah fearing, patient ,trouble-shooter and reduces family problems. Where-ever people are living who have correct understanding of Islam & don’t do shirk or bidah, or other deviant acts than they will have same base or culture in terms of tawheed ,worship, beliefs and practices. and there are no problems of communication or mutual-understanding. They understand a marriage, its rights and obligations, subhanAllah ! The ahadiths stresses importance on looking for deen. As it en-compasses all goodness in it, and those upon it also have goodness. and will love modesty, simplicity, humility and their affairs would be simple. They will uphold sunnah, whether small or big, not looking it in status but as the way of prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wasallam).
And Allah is the all-seer. No-one has seen the unseen or what is next. After marrying to someone and keeping patience and reliance in Allah over the problems than its not in vain and the reward is with Allah. other hadith mentions them clothing for each other, subhanAllah! Allah made them care-taker, affectionate and helper for each other.
The thing is there could be difference in views among the people in different areas or countries but with deen that goes side-ways. The teaching from ahadith is neither watching arabi nor azami but first one who has deen in life, subhanAllah ! For that we first seek Allah’s mercy and his pleasure in every deed we are going to do.
The land is of Allah and all are His servants on it, whether they upright,hypocrite,transgressor and innovator. generalizations equals them all. just my opinion...
Lol ..any different to hundreds of other places in the world? No.
eminbey
信得過…是我的名字
SAlam Alikom
Brother this is not a thread to call for regional racism...
so please there is no difference between a morrocan and saudian and american
allah says:"O people, we created you from the same male and female, and rendered you distinct peoples and tribes, that you may recognize one another. The best among you in the sight of GOD is the most righteous. GOD is Omniscient, Cognizant". (49:13)
the Prophet PBUH said in his last sermon:
“ All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over a black nor a black has any superiority over a white - except by piety and good action. „
—(Hadith, Sahih Bukhari, Vol. 7, Ch. 3)
