palestine
Servant of Allah
Asalamu alaikum - at first, i thought to myself - this may not be a good topic to bring up. especially since i'm just going to share my view on marriage. Marriage is an important role for many, and also an obligation on those who can find a partner and who are able to wed. However, i feel lost when i see so many couples divorcing, disrespecting, and destroying each others homes. There are so many things i think that i cannot even describe in words as i would like to. I too, would like to get married someday -but then i think twice about it. and so there are times like tonight where i feel as though i will never get married or that i don't want to get married. i am a person that wants to follow islam exactly as it is. But everyone around me in my community discourages me from marrying outside of my culture. it's a constant battle with my community. it seems that if you bring up any culture other than your own, that you are a criminal. for this, i am often discouraged from getting married at all. i don't want to have to marry someone from my culture, just because my people say so, or because my family says so. i want to find someone whom i can be happy with, no matter what culture they are from. but knowing that there is the possibility of my options being limited scares the heck out of me. and i just thought "well if i can't marry anyone outside of my culture - what's the point?", not that i'm looking out side of my culture on purpose - but i want to marry whomever is good in deen and not judge them by their culture. and i know so often things such as, language barrier, different customs, etc are mentioned to put you off from marrying outside the culture - but i believe and truly believe that so long as the person you marry is good in deen - that, that will be resolved by the Grace of Allah. i'm not really asking anyone anything here right now - i just posted this so that those who want to share something may do so regarding these thoughts and ideas that have come to my mind, if they are similar to theirs, or whatever you feel like. take care.
sincerely,
a sister.
sincerely,
a sister.