waalaikum salaam,
i dont understand it either, this person (man/woman) doesnt love Allah azzawajal or Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam, doesnt know the sweetness of waking up for fajr or praying qiyam or fasting ramadhan for the sake of Allah, doesnt love or feel for the Ummah... its beyond me how a person can want to spend their lives or emotions on such a person. Some can try to justify it as love but shouldnt we love, hate, do, live for the sake of Allah azzawajal only?