What to do when there is love no more, seems to say love was an accident, lets find another vehicle and bump, to make love accident!!!
This thread is about a marriage, where in mid life, partners feel the old magic of love missing in their marriage. So does it makes sense to find whats missing in another marriage. So the valued asset of the marriage is love , somewhere in middle of lifes grind, the partners loosened their mutual grip on it, and with time lost it. When something is missing one should put effort in finding whats lost and bringing back the most valued asset. same applies to marriage, I humbly feel. Blaming the other will take the focus away from the love thats missing and put focus on the newly created blame.
Divorce at drop of hat is wrong, its like shooting the goose that laid good eggs, without treating it first. A human mind seeking immediate solution could do it, in the heat of the moment. And hence many a customs try to avoid the question. Quran makes it clear, Prophets rulings in such matter and Shariah, give us clear directions on how to go about it. Counselling is definitely first step, before divorce. The relation-ship called marriage sometimes needs a tug boat, and hand holding from outside to survive rough weather. So much effort years , good memories, a family all would go in vain.
Its very important to be rational here, Love can make one blind, and jump to conclusion, take extreme risks. Thats harmful. When there is lack of love, or what they call the spark of love in marriage, it can make one long for those magical old times. And again the solution seeking mind, would want to look elsewhere. And a desperate mind, could do a desperate act. It could result in a divorce. This is what happens in most marriages, the partners themself break it. Post divorce, one would feel still more lonely, and want back some love definitely... Its not easy for a old divorcee to find a second better option, the complications are more. Its not difficult to rekindle love, the daily grind of life can at times, take the focus away from what really matters and divert it on the materialistic nature.
On other hand, if the marriage is really shaky and the partner is having very serious differences that cannot be reconciled at all, then yes, breaking that marriage contract, by divorce makes sense.
We are in a time where ME is overshadowing, everything else and threatening the social fabric. A sign of the times. The institution of marriage has been made to sink by irrelevant dogmas. Marriage is a simple effective social binding to prevent radical extreme.
But in doing all this we need to remind each other Faith and Submission to Will of Almighty Allah is primary!
