Umm Aysha
*Strive for Jannah*
Asalaamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatahu
I wanted to share this with everyone. I hope it helps many others who are suffering and feeling pain and sadness, it helped me alot Alhamdulillah......
Please do :tti_sister: Dua for me and all muslims.......I pray to You, O Allah, to make me stronger and give me strength and patience during my tough
times.....ameen..
Meeting Pain with Patience
Sadness, anguish and even anger in times of trials are natural. The danger is that if we do not exercise sufficient self-control, these feelings may take over us and cause us to lose perspective. This trait is not restricted to the fairer sex of course, but we do have a tendency to become emotional and overwrought. We forget that there are others who are afflicted with much worse. We lament and moan about our difficulties, forgetting that they are blessings in themselves.
One may find it odd to say that trials are a boon, but we need to only look at the Qur`an and Sunnah to know that trials refine our character and fortify our faith. Allah tests His slaves with calamities in order to raise them in status and to expiate for their sins, as the Prophet sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam said in another hadeeth: "No misfortune or disease befalls a Muslim, no worry or grief or harm or distress - not even a thorn that pricks him - but Allah will expiate for some of his sins because of that." (Agreed upon, narrated by al-Bukhari)
It is part of the mercy of Allah that disasters befall sinners in this world, so that their souls might be purified and they might come back to Allah before they die: "And verily, We will make them taste of the near torment (i.e. the torment in the life of this world, i.e. disasters, calamities) prior to the supreme torment (in the Hereafter), in order that they may (repent and) return (i.e. accept Islam)." [al-Sajdah:21]
The Prophet sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam was asked: "Who from mankind suffers the greatest afflictions?" He replied: "The Prophets, then those most like them, then those most like them. A person is afflicted with calamities in comparisons to his Deen, so if he is firm in his Deen, then his afflictions are strong and if he is weak in his Deen, then his afflictions are lighter. A person is afflicted with calamities until he is left walking upon the face of this earth without any sins." [Ahmad & at-Tirmidhi]
I was struck by the lessons in this hadeeth. However hard our trials, we should remember that the prophets and messengers of Allah `alayhimus salaam who were the closest to Allah were the MOST tested among mankind. The Messenger of Allah sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam was maligned, taunted, beaten till he bled, boycotted and driven to hunger on many occasions ... he bore all this with courage and fortitude. In fact, severe trials used to make him stronger and even more resolute. How can we then complain of our hardships which pale in comparison?
How to Remain Steadfast
We are told that, "On no soul does Allah Place a burden greater than it can bear." How can we then remain stoic and patient in times of hardship?
Place your trust in Allah
Allah reminds us time and again in the Qur`an to rely on Him: "So rely upon Allah; indeed, you are upon the clear truth" (An-Naml: 79). Also: "And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah. Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him]" (Aal-Imraan: 159) and "And rely upon Allah. And sufficient is Allah as Disposer of affairs" (An-Nisaa 81)
Seek help in prayer
Whenever the Messenger of Allah sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam was afflicted with problem, he would initiate a prayer. He said, "The light of my eye is in prayer." [Ahmad & An-Nisa`i]
We should keep our tongues moist with dhikr for indeed, the remembrance of Allah would fill us with tranquility. There are also various du`aa that help to remove distress. The story of Abu Umaamah radhiallahu `anhu illustrates this. The Messenger sallallahu`alayhi wa sallam met him and asked, "Abu Umaamah, why do I see you sitting in the Masjid when it is not time for prayer?" He said: "Grief and debts on me, O Messenger of Allah." He said: "Shall I teach you words that if you should say, Allah will release you from your grief, and pay off your debts." I said: "Yes, O Messenger of Allah." He said: "Every morning and in the evening say, 'O Allah I ask refuge in you from grief and sorrow and I ask refuge in you in disability and laziness, and ask refuge in Allah from cowardliness and stinginess, and I ask refuge in you to be overwhelmed by debts and over the control of men.'" Abu Umaamah said: "I did that and Allah Subhanahu Wa Taala relieved me from my grief and paid off my debts." [Abu Dawood]
Accept the decree of Allah
The Messenger sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam said: "From the happiness of the son of Adam is that he accepts what Allah decrees, and the misery of the son of Adam is that he rejects, and rebels against what Allah decrees." [at-Tirmidhi]
Dawood Ibn Sulaiman said, "Three things indicate the piety of a believer; his trust in Allah in what he has not attained; his satisfaction with whatever he has attained and his patience over what he has missed."
Remember also the hadeeth that says, "If Allah wants to do good to somebody, He afflicts him with trials." (Al-Bukhari)
Appreciate the rewards behind hardship
Surely we cannot refuse this gift from Allah! Shurayh said, "A slave will not be afflicted by a trial except that he finds three blessings therein, (1) that the trial has nothing to do with his religion, (2) that the trial was not bigger than it is, and (3) that Allah gives him patience to bear it."
In a hadith narrated by Bukhari and Muslim from Abu Hurayrah, the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, said: "Hell has been veiled with desires, and Paradise has been veiled with hardships."
Trials, however difficult, are opportunities... stepping stones to Jannah. Can we refuse this gift of Allah?
May Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala give us strength and steadfastness, ameen.
wa alaykum salaam
I wanted to share this with everyone. I hope it helps many others who are suffering and feeling pain and sadness, it helped me alot Alhamdulillah......
Please do :tti_sister: Dua for me and all muslims.......I pray to You, O Allah, to make me stronger and give me strength and patience during my tough
times.....ameen..
Meeting Pain with Patience
Sadness, anguish and even anger in times of trials are natural. The danger is that if we do not exercise sufficient self-control, these feelings may take over us and cause us to lose perspective. This trait is not restricted to the fairer sex of course, but we do have a tendency to become emotional and overwrought. We forget that there are others who are afflicted with much worse. We lament and moan about our difficulties, forgetting that they are blessings in themselves.
One may find it odd to say that trials are a boon, but we need to only look at the Qur`an and Sunnah to know that trials refine our character and fortify our faith. Allah tests His slaves with calamities in order to raise them in status and to expiate for their sins, as the Prophet sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam said in another hadeeth: "No misfortune or disease befalls a Muslim, no worry or grief or harm or distress - not even a thorn that pricks him - but Allah will expiate for some of his sins because of that." (Agreed upon, narrated by al-Bukhari)
It is part of the mercy of Allah that disasters befall sinners in this world, so that their souls might be purified and they might come back to Allah before they die: "And verily, We will make them taste of the near torment (i.e. the torment in the life of this world, i.e. disasters, calamities) prior to the supreme torment (in the Hereafter), in order that they may (repent and) return (i.e. accept Islam)." [al-Sajdah:21]
The Prophet sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam was asked: "Who from mankind suffers the greatest afflictions?" He replied: "The Prophets, then those most like them, then those most like them. A person is afflicted with calamities in comparisons to his Deen, so if he is firm in his Deen, then his afflictions are strong and if he is weak in his Deen, then his afflictions are lighter. A person is afflicted with calamities until he is left walking upon the face of this earth without any sins." [Ahmad & at-Tirmidhi]
I was struck by the lessons in this hadeeth. However hard our trials, we should remember that the prophets and messengers of Allah `alayhimus salaam who were the closest to Allah were the MOST tested among mankind. The Messenger of Allah sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam was maligned, taunted, beaten till he bled, boycotted and driven to hunger on many occasions ... he bore all this with courage and fortitude. In fact, severe trials used to make him stronger and even more resolute. How can we then complain of our hardships which pale in comparison?
How to Remain Steadfast
We are told that, "On no soul does Allah Place a burden greater than it can bear." How can we then remain stoic and patient in times of hardship?
Place your trust in Allah
Allah reminds us time and again in the Qur`an to rely on Him: "So rely upon Allah; indeed, you are upon the clear truth" (An-Naml: 79). Also: "And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah. Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him]" (Aal-Imraan: 159) and "And rely upon Allah. And sufficient is Allah as Disposer of affairs" (An-Nisaa 81)
Seek help in prayer
Whenever the Messenger of Allah sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam was afflicted with problem, he would initiate a prayer. He said, "The light of my eye is in prayer." [Ahmad & An-Nisa`i]
We should keep our tongues moist with dhikr for indeed, the remembrance of Allah would fill us with tranquility. There are also various du`aa that help to remove distress. The story of Abu Umaamah radhiallahu `anhu illustrates this. The Messenger sallallahu`alayhi wa sallam met him and asked, "Abu Umaamah, why do I see you sitting in the Masjid when it is not time for prayer?" He said: "Grief and debts on me, O Messenger of Allah." He said: "Shall I teach you words that if you should say, Allah will release you from your grief, and pay off your debts." I said: "Yes, O Messenger of Allah." He said: "Every morning and in the evening say, 'O Allah I ask refuge in you from grief and sorrow and I ask refuge in you in disability and laziness, and ask refuge in Allah from cowardliness and stinginess, and I ask refuge in you to be overwhelmed by debts and over the control of men.'" Abu Umaamah said: "I did that and Allah Subhanahu Wa Taala relieved me from my grief and paid off my debts." [Abu Dawood]
Accept the decree of Allah
The Messenger sallallahu `alayhi wa sallam said: "From the happiness of the son of Adam is that he accepts what Allah decrees, and the misery of the son of Adam is that he rejects, and rebels against what Allah decrees." [at-Tirmidhi]
Dawood Ibn Sulaiman said, "Three things indicate the piety of a believer; his trust in Allah in what he has not attained; his satisfaction with whatever he has attained and his patience over what he has missed."
Remember also the hadeeth that says, "If Allah wants to do good to somebody, He afflicts him with trials." (Al-Bukhari)
Appreciate the rewards behind hardship
Surely we cannot refuse this gift from Allah! Shurayh said, "A slave will not be afflicted by a trial except that he finds three blessings therein, (1) that the trial has nothing to do with his religion, (2) that the trial was not bigger than it is, and (3) that Allah gives him patience to bear it."
In a hadith narrated by Bukhari and Muslim from Abu Hurayrah, the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, said: "Hell has been veiled with desires, and Paradise has been veiled with hardships."
Trials, however difficult, are opportunities... stepping stones to Jannah. Can we refuse this gift of Allah?
May Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala give us strength and steadfastness, ameen.
wa alaykum salaam
) with hardships and it 's true, every human is happy at good times but only hard times can differenciate the sincere followers and slaves from the ones who are not that sincere ; May Allah SWT Enable us to be in the right group on the day of Judgment; 
