Isra
aka Tree2008
As salamo alaikome
Inshallah the health and iman of all my brothers and sisters at TTI is good!
I feel shy to post this and Im not really even sure that I should but I am really worried about the survival of my marriage so I desperately need some strong advice!!!
I have been married for a little over 3 months now and I pray EVERYDAY for Allah to bless me with patience towards my husband. You see I have a STRONG desire to be a really GOOD Muslim wife. My desire has become even stronger since we have been married and he has proven to be a VERY good Muslim husband! He provides for me yet goes beyond that by being very kind towards me and patient with me even when I get crazy sometimes!!! He deserves a good Muslim wife which I really want to be!
Ok so my problem is that first of all I came to his country from the United States so I am doing my best to adjust to life here which is VERY different from the place I have lived all of my life! Slowly I am adjusting to the difference in culture but there are many hardships here that we just dont deal with in the USA!!! Such as the house we live at when he works during the week usually has no running water and sometimes no electricity!!! I have NEVER had to deal with that in the USA!!!! I have been praying for patience with all of these things and for the most part I believe Allah has helped me through Alhamdulillah!!!! I am getting much better at handling the situation when the water or the electricity goes out!
There is one last hurdle that I just cant seem to get over - at least not yet anyway! My new husband has the most annoying habit of constantly bothering me until I give in and do whatever it is he is asking me to do!!!! I swear half the time I just do what he wants to shut him up and because I dont want to yell at him which I know is haram BUT I am almost at my wits end with this thing he does!!!! I have talked to him, fought with him and even BEGGED him to please STOP doing it!!!! I told him if he asks me once he should respect my answer and not keep hounding me until I give in!!!!
I have been sick since we married with a pretty bad lung infection that will not seem to go away and he has been so worried about me. I am very thankful that he loves me enough to care but honestly he just wont leave me in peace until I do what he wants!!!! For example......one of the doctors (I have seen 4 so far altogether) suggested that I shouldnt be in a cross draft...........OK well anytime he finds the window and the door open at the same time he starts his rant!!!!! Most of the time its not even me who did it but he starts saying things like "You dont care about your health, you wont follow the doctors advice" even before he knows who left the window or the door open!!!!
Seriously I dont want to fight with him and I dont want to yell and I know its shaitan who is making me resent his constant "mothering" of me because really if he didnt care at all I would be devastated so Im not complaining just to complain about him! I just need to know HOW CAN I DEAL WITH THIS SITUATION WITHOUT GOING INSANE????
I dont want to hurt him and I dont want to lose him so please for the sake of my marriage to this otherwise BEAUTIFUL human being please HELP ME!!!!! I am desperate!!!!
Wa salam
Inshallah the health and iman of all my brothers and sisters at TTI is good!
I feel shy to post this and Im not really even sure that I should but I am really worried about the survival of my marriage so I desperately need some strong advice!!!
I have been married for a little over 3 months now and I pray EVERYDAY for Allah to bless me with patience towards my husband. You see I have a STRONG desire to be a really GOOD Muslim wife. My desire has become even stronger since we have been married and he has proven to be a VERY good Muslim husband! He provides for me yet goes beyond that by being very kind towards me and patient with me even when I get crazy sometimes!!! He deserves a good Muslim wife which I really want to be!
Ok so my problem is that first of all I came to his country from the United States so I am doing my best to adjust to life here which is VERY different from the place I have lived all of my life! Slowly I am adjusting to the difference in culture but there are many hardships here that we just dont deal with in the USA!!! Such as the house we live at when he works during the week usually has no running water and sometimes no electricity!!! I have NEVER had to deal with that in the USA!!!! I have been praying for patience with all of these things and for the most part I believe Allah has helped me through Alhamdulillah!!!! I am getting much better at handling the situation when the water or the electricity goes out!
There is one last hurdle that I just cant seem to get over - at least not yet anyway! My new husband has the most annoying habit of constantly bothering me until I give in and do whatever it is he is asking me to do!!!! I swear half the time I just do what he wants to shut him up and because I dont want to yell at him which I know is haram BUT I am almost at my wits end with this thing he does!!!! I have talked to him, fought with him and even BEGGED him to please STOP doing it!!!! I told him if he asks me once he should respect my answer and not keep hounding me until I give in!!!!
I have been sick since we married with a pretty bad lung infection that will not seem to go away and he has been so worried about me. I am very thankful that he loves me enough to care but honestly he just wont leave me in peace until I do what he wants!!!! For example......one of the doctors (I have seen 4 so far altogether) suggested that I shouldnt be in a cross draft...........OK well anytime he finds the window and the door open at the same time he starts his rant!!!!! Most of the time its not even me who did it but he starts saying things like "You dont care about your health, you wont follow the doctors advice" even before he knows who left the window or the door open!!!!
Seriously I dont want to fight with him and I dont want to yell and I know its shaitan who is making me resent his constant "mothering" of me because really if he didnt care at all I would be devastated so Im not complaining just to complain about him! I just need to know HOW CAN I DEAL WITH THIS SITUATION WITHOUT GOING INSANE????
I dont want to hurt him and I dont want to lose him so please for the sake of my marriage to this otherwise BEAUTIFUL human being please HELP ME!!!!! I am desperate!!!!
Wa salam