NEED HELP ...................

faaraa

faaraa

Nothing but Muslimah
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I have a friend who got married very recently.. she is soo Islaimic Alhamdulillah. But the one to whom she is married, is too very good but not Islamic like her..

She does not feel comfortable with him, even though he is good in every thing, as he watches cinema and listen to music, which she hates the most..

Basically, there are so many more things which she finds hard to be digested..
Her biggest problem is that..

Even though he is not sooo Islamic, he orders her to be more Islamic than what she is.. (Strange ..right??)

Ex.. He wants her to stop using internet facilities (In his view point, this is Islamic..)
He wants her to stop what she is studying now a days, and start doing another degree.. (very strange..)
he wants her to be under his control and he does not like her parents' some attitudes and he says, in future, if that continues, she will have to go away from her family, and live with him alone..(My poor friend..)

So basically..she is asking me, how to do Dawah to him???

I am not married.. and I dont know to advise her.. I undersatnd that this type of Dawah is not easy just like u do it to ur friend...

HELP ME TO REPLY HER PLZZZ

I will give her this thread's link.. and she will read ur replies Insha Allah :)

Hope u would help Insha Allah

FEE AMANILLAH
 
hayat84

hayat84

I'm not what you believe
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what a husband could forbid all this?this is really strange,above all because the friend you're talking about has got married recently...so she was engaged and maybe she knew what she was going to do.so why is she so surprised?if she didn't like his behaviour,she absolutely shouldn't marry him.I hope this man will be not too oppressive to his wife:astag:
 
ahmed_indian

ahmed_indian

to Allah we belong
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sister, let both of them do salah istikhara first and ask Allah for what is good for them in both the worlds.
 
A

Ahsen

Junior Member
If he is good to her then she can try talking to him in a calm manner that what he is doing is stressing her life and she needs to be herself.Show him where he is doing wrong and he must review his actions.
 
samiha

samiha

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Since you say he is not so "Islamic" this seems more 'oppressive' than Islamic minded.

I am forced to ask... why did she marry him?

Islaam is one of the most important things in our life, and the glue of many marriages, I cannot see how this wasn't taken into consideration before marriage? Please clarify for me ukhti....
 
faaraa

faaraa

Nothing but Muslimah
:wasalam:

JAZAKALLAHU KAHIR for all your replies..

I am sure my friend is reading you all. :)

Thank you soo much every one..

If she asks me more.. I iwll update her questions Insha Allah

Take care my brothers and sisters

Fee Amanillah :)
 
Tabassum07

Tabassum07

Smile for Allah
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SubhanAllah, I feel sad for your friend - she should have known what kind of person she was marrying, and whether or not deen was his first priority. But alas, such things are prevalent in the subcontinent. :(

But what's done is done, and now she needs to think what to do in the future. I really feel bad for her - if I were in her position, I would have felt completely crushed. I will pray Allah eases her situation and brings her comfort.

But I really don't have any advice for her - just that she should try and talk it out with her husband. How can she be subject to all the Islamic rules, and he can't be?
 
MohammedMaksudul

MohammedMaksudul

May Allah Forgive us
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One thing for sure, the husband is not Islamic at all. Well firstly it is a high risk for a practicing sister to marry a non-practicing man. You should always look for that the person is willing to learn and has at least the minimum criteria such as praying at the mosque 5 times, Fasting, halal income, etc. I was today talking to a brother about this and he was telling me how Zaynab (May Allah be pleased with her) and Zaid (May Allah be pleased with him) did not suit each other even though both are very high in level of piety and eventually resulted in the divorce. So pray to Allah that Allah pairs you up with someone compatible.
 
faaraa

faaraa

Nothing but Muslimah
:wasalam:

Im here once again..

My friend is reading this thread :) Alhamdulillah..

She is passing thanks and Duas on all of you :)
She says she loves you all for the sake of Allah Azzawajal..and she requests you to make Dua for her..to build up a wonderful Islamic life Insha Allah.

From my part, Jazakallahu Khair for spending time for her :)

Fee amanilah
 
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