HELLO I HAVE A SITUATION AND NEED SOME ADVICE:
I want to tell everyone that I was never satisfied with other religions, and not cause they aren’t comfortable to me, but for its flaws and weaknesses, I have always believe God is the only one you should pray to and love, I don’t believe in images either, many times I wished for woman wearing different because guys always made me feel bad just looking at me like a trophy or even harassment which is very shameful and bad for a little girl to go thru, I want for me a man that loves and worships God the way I do or even more, a guy that will be in the good path, unlike non religious man who blame God for their misfortune or even others that believe only when they need help, i have read an article on this society now where feminism is not working as woman expected, men are comfortable and don’t work cause they know woman will help them pay bills and labors are supposed to be divided but non of this happens putting the woman on a hard situation that wont ever change, im a working woman but I really wish that I can enjoy my time with my babies if God s gives me the opportunity and raise them myself to make them love God as I do and to grow as good persons.
Back on time while studying my career we read about cultures and religions, that s when I found out about Islam but they weren’t deep and they said what all of us westerns are told, no human rights, no treating woman right, biting, killing by honor, but my teacher was always respective to religion and said it was different from what people do and that had nothing to do with it, I though back then that maybe this was it, my option, the truth, after a long time I traveled to Canada and met a guy who was from an Arab country, I immediately told my mom cause here in Mexico we are very close to our mothers, and so she was afraid and she told me don’t fall in love with him, don’t , for sure he is Muslim, go ask him and so I did, but I was not afraid and I loved the fact that this man actually believed in God the way I did, but as I ve said u hear daily many stories about Muslims killing, bombing, especially in usa about guy s not defending their wives from their families abuses, so everyone in my family is afraid of me marrying this man and him biting me up, not respecting me, not letting me out of the country, etc, so as I know more about Islam I feel I belong more to it, except for the questions posted on that link 4 wives thing, and I already have an answer, a logical answer which I expect to hear from someone, not the answers that are always given….
And still I am afraid, afraid because first of all I am not accepted in his family, he told them he wants to marry me and they had someone for him already so they come with many excuses, with no sense: one of them is cause I am not a Muslim but I feel this like racist and they don’t even give me the chance to show them how much I respect God and fear him, and how much I have help their son to grow in his own religion, they just say NO she is not Muslim and we have someone for you already, but he knew from the beginning I was going to love Islam for our past conversations about God and religion, and he was right, I feel this a bit insulting cause I m a girl from a good family, I have my career and even studied before that I have work, I have travel, I have no addictions at all, I speak 3 languages, almost 4, I have family values, and I even tell him to be patient to them and love them, I understand family is very important cause it is for me as well so I keep on telling him to love them and not judge them, and I am here willing to know a religion that I believe it was meant for me since ever, with this man or without him, but still I am in love and sometimes think is going to be very hard in this environment which is 0 Islamic to even follow or know it deeply and also I believe they won’t ever accept me and love me or respect me as their children, in Mexico when u marry a man he becomes part of the family and you as his wife you become part of his family and they treat you as one of them and help you and love you.
And they found very important that I am older than him, he lied to me when we met because he knew about a guy a rejected cause he was younger than me , so he lied and said he was my age, and after a long time when we got serious in our relationship he told me the truth, he is 4 years younger, and so I am here to ask all of you what do you think???? Should I keep on fighting for him, should I let him go, he insist on staying with me and he loves me a lot, he s facing his parents but they were going to spend on his wedding if it was with that other girl, and when it comes to me, they say he s not prepare or then they say she s not Muslim, or you haven’t finish your career, but when it came to the girl they chosen non of this matters, so many from this web site are from the same culture as him, I am asking you for your opinion,
Any comments on this will help, as Muslims you can talk and maybe tell me I shouldn’t be with him or he shouldn’t be with me for any reason, or on the contrary u can advice me on how to proceed,
MERCI, Blessings to you all
Que Dios los llene de gracia y bendiciones.
I want to tell everyone that I was never satisfied with other religions, and not cause they aren’t comfortable to me, but for its flaws and weaknesses, I have always believe God is the only one you should pray to and love, I don’t believe in images either, many times I wished for woman wearing different because guys always made me feel bad just looking at me like a trophy or even harassment which is very shameful and bad for a little girl to go thru, I want for me a man that loves and worships God the way I do or even more, a guy that will be in the good path, unlike non religious man who blame God for their misfortune or even others that believe only when they need help, i have read an article on this society now where feminism is not working as woman expected, men are comfortable and don’t work cause they know woman will help them pay bills and labors are supposed to be divided but non of this happens putting the woman on a hard situation that wont ever change, im a working woman but I really wish that I can enjoy my time with my babies if God s gives me the opportunity and raise them myself to make them love God as I do and to grow as good persons.
Back on time while studying my career we read about cultures and religions, that s when I found out about Islam but they weren’t deep and they said what all of us westerns are told, no human rights, no treating woman right, biting, killing by honor, but my teacher was always respective to religion and said it was different from what people do and that had nothing to do with it, I though back then that maybe this was it, my option, the truth, after a long time I traveled to Canada and met a guy who was from an Arab country, I immediately told my mom cause here in Mexico we are very close to our mothers, and so she was afraid and she told me don’t fall in love with him, don’t , for sure he is Muslim, go ask him and so I did, but I was not afraid and I loved the fact that this man actually believed in God the way I did, but as I ve said u hear daily many stories about Muslims killing, bombing, especially in usa about guy s not defending their wives from their families abuses, so everyone in my family is afraid of me marrying this man and him biting me up, not respecting me, not letting me out of the country, etc, so as I know more about Islam I feel I belong more to it, except for the questions posted on that link 4 wives thing, and I already have an answer, a logical answer which I expect to hear from someone, not the answers that are always given….
And still I am afraid, afraid because first of all I am not accepted in his family, he told them he wants to marry me and they had someone for him already so they come with many excuses, with no sense: one of them is cause I am not a Muslim but I feel this like racist and they don’t even give me the chance to show them how much I respect God and fear him, and how much I have help their son to grow in his own religion, they just say NO she is not Muslim and we have someone for you already, but he knew from the beginning I was going to love Islam for our past conversations about God and religion, and he was right, I feel this a bit insulting cause I m a girl from a good family, I have my career and even studied before that I have work, I have travel, I have no addictions at all, I speak 3 languages, almost 4, I have family values, and I even tell him to be patient to them and love them, I understand family is very important cause it is for me as well so I keep on telling him to love them and not judge them, and I am here willing to know a religion that I believe it was meant for me since ever, with this man or without him, but still I am in love and sometimes think is going to be very hard in this environment which is 0 Islamic to even follow or know it deeply and also I believe they won’t ever accept me and love me or respect me as their children, in Mexico when u marry a man he becomes part of the family and you as his wife you become part of his family and they treat you as one of them and help you and love you.
And they found very important that I am older than him, he lied to me when we met because he knew about a guy a rejected cause he was younger than me , so he lied and said he was my age, and after a long time when we got serious in our relationship he told me the truth, he is 4 years younger, and so I am here to ask all of you what do you think???? Should I keep on fighting for him, should I let him go, he insist on staying with me and he loves me a lot, he s facing his parents but they were going to spend on his wedding if it was with that other girl, and when it comes to me, they say he s not prepare or then they say she s not Muslim, or you haven’t finish your career, but when it came to the girl they chosen non of this matters, so many from this web site are from the same culture as him, I am asking you for your opinion,
Any comments on this will help, as Muslims you can talk and maybe tell me I shouldn’t be with him or he shouldn’t be with me for any reason, or on the contrary u can advice me on how to proceed,
MERCI, Blessings to you all
Que Dios los llene de gracia y bendiciones.