sweetshaama
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Assalaamu Alaikum, Dear Brothers and Sisters,
Here I am facing another dilemma with regards to my marriage. A brother brought in a marriage proposal to my parents for me, through his parents. he is already a friend of mine and I know him averagely well, he is a person who practices Quran and Sunnah and has a very good upbringing, has a good education and a job. I like him so I said okay to the proposal. His parents came over to see me and they like me. But apparently his grandfather is having second thoughts as he has some other girl in mind. But the brother likes me and he has assured me that. Now the proposal is processing and his family is trying to convince the grandfather, whether it would happen or not it's all in Allah's hands. This brother has told me that he would carefully deal with his family and to have faith in Allah, and to be positive, whatever happens would happen according to the will of Allah. I have placed my trust in Allah and hoping for the best.
Meanwhile my parents got another proposal for me from a different family, who wills to come and see me. Since the former proposal has not been confirmed, my parents does not want to just depend on it hence they have agreed to for them to come and see me. Their opinion is whatever comes through they will go with that. I know nothing about this bro's level of Deen except that his parents has told my parents that he is religious.
Both these brothers are equally qualified, having good jobs and coming from good families.
Now my situation is that I honestly like the first proposal as I know the brother already, and about his character. I have faith in Allah that he would do what's best for me. So I have prayed Isthkara and left the rest to Allah. I have told this to my parents too, but they are saying since the other party has not given their consent yet we have to consider others. My only concern is that, is it right for me to go and see this other brother when we are still waiting for a reply from the other party ?
Please help me with this, as I am extremely confused, and I don't want to get emotional and make wrong decisions.
Jazakallah Khair
Here I am facing another dilemma with regards to my marriage. A brother brought in a marriage proposal to my parents for me, through his parents. he is already a friend of mine and I know him averagely well, he is a person who practices Quran and Sunnah and has a very good upbringing, has a good education and a job. I like him so I said okay to the proposal. His parents came over to see me and they like me. But apparently his grandfather is having second thoughts as he has some other girl in mind. But the brother likes me and he has assured me that. Now the proposal is processing and his family is trying to convince the grandfather, whether it would happen or not it's all in Allah's hands. This brother has told me that he would carefully deal with his family and to have faith in Allah, and to be positive, whatever happens would happen according to the will of Allah. I have placed my trust in Allah and hoping for the best.
Meanwhile my parents got another proposal for me from a different family, who wills to come and see me. Since the former proposal has not been confirmed, my parents does not want to just depend on it hence they have agreed to for them to come and see me. Their opinion is whatever comes through they will go with that. I know nothing about this bro's level of Deen except that his parents has told my parents that he is religious.
Both these brothers are equally qualified, having good jobs and coming from good families.
Now my situation is that I honestly like the first proposal as I know the brother already, and about his character. I have faith in Allah that he would do what's best for me. So I have prayed Isthkara and left the rest to Allah. I have told this to my parents too, but they are saying since the other party has not given their consent yet we have to consider others. My only concern is that, is it right for me to go and see this other brother when we are still waiting for a reply from the other party ?
Please help me with this, as I am extremely confused, and I don't want to get emotional and make wrong decisions.
Jazakallah Khair