scoobykilla
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Please could someone help me.
My name is Shazia and I have 3 older brothers, I started work at 16 and to give my wages to my parents. At this point my parents did not buy anything for me and if I needed anything I would have to buy with my own money. My mum took me to Pakistan to get married and everything was paid for with my money. Two weeks before I was due to get married my mother cancelled everything. We then returned to the UK, I started work again and had to give all my wages to my parents. They used most of my money to have a new kitchen and bathroom fitted and various things for the house. At this point I didn’t mind giving to them because I thought they were going to get me married. My mum got me engaged to a guy in Pakistan for 4 years and we went to Pakistan again to get me married. I bought a lot of electrical items, my own clothes and my gold which I paid for with my own money. My mum called the wedding off again for no reason at all.
We again returned to the UK, a few years later my dad arranged my marriage to my cousin in the UK. My mum did it again and cancelled the wedding by ringing my cousins dad up and swearing at him. I passed my driving test and bought a car for myself for £3000 on finance because my parents wouldn’t buy me one. They took my car off me and started using it themselves. At this point my mum told me that the money they were taking off me was for providing a roof over my head and for food. I would leave for work at 7am and return home at 8pm when I’d finish work. I couldn’t eat at home as there was never any food left for me when I’d finish work forcing me to eat out all the time. My parents carried on taking money from me until the age of 25. They’d started when I was 16 and 9 years later they were happy to take my money but not get me married and make my future.
At the age of 25 in 2001 I got married to a fellow Muslim and moved out of my parents house taking my cash card with me. My parents gave me nothing towards my wedding, no clothes, no gifts, nothing. We bought a house which needed a lot of work doing on it. 1 year later we moved into rented accommodation so we could get work done on our own house because I was heavily pregnant. Shortly afterwards my daughter was born and my mother came to visit 1 year later. She went to my husband when he was on his own and told him that my dad was going to throw her out and she needed the keys for our house so that she could stay there. My husband gave her the keys to our house because he believed her. My mum went home and told my dad that my house was going to auction because I couldn’t afford it and I had given her the keys. She had lied to my husband and to my dad, she kept the keys to my house for around 18 months in which time she had rented the house out to and English couple and was using the rental income to pay the mortgage. My mum decided to go on holiday for 4 weeks to Pakistan and we wanted our house back, my husband climbed in through the window of our house and had the locks changed. We also told the couple who were renting it to leave. When my mum returned she was very angry and demanded us to pay her £2000 claiming that she had spent it on the house. We gave her the £2000 and now she wants another £1800 claiming that she spent that on the house also.
I am writing to ask you, do I have to pay her even though she took money off me for 9 years and didn’t get me married or give me anything for my wedding?
None of the money that I gave to them was ever spent on me, even all the electrical items and other items I had taken to Pakistan when I was supposed to get married my mother gave everything to my younger sister for her wedding.
I have asked various people and they have said that in Islam you don’t take from daughters, if anything parents are supposed to give.
Please could you advise me on this matter?
Jazakallah
Please could someone help me.
My name is Shazia and I have 3 older brothers, I started work at 16 and to give my wages to my parents. At this point my parents did not buy anything for me and if I needed anything I would have to buy with my own money. My mum took me to Pakistan to get married and everything was paid for with my money. Two weeks before I was due to get married my mother cancelled everything. We then returned to the UK, I started work again and had to give all my wages to my parents. They used most of my money to have a new kitchen and bathroom fitted and various things for the house. At this point I didn’t mind giving to them because I thought they were going to get me married. My mum got me engaged to a guy in Pakistan for 4 years and we went to Pakistan again to get me married. I bought a lot of electrical items, my own clothes and my gold which I paid for with my own money. My mum called the wedding off again for no reason at all.
We again returned to the UK, a few years later my dad arranged my marriage to my cousin in the UK. My mum did it again and cancelled the wedding by ringing my cousins dad up and swearing at him. I passed my driving test and bought a car for myself for £3000 on finance because my parents wouldn’t buy me one. They took my car off me and started using it themselves. At this point my mum told me that the money they were taking off me was for providing a roof over my head and for food. I would leave for work at 7am and return home at 8pm when I’d finish work. I couldn’t eat at home as there was never any food left for me when I’d finish work forcing me to eat out all the time. My parents carried on taking money from me until the age of 25. They’d started when I was 16 and 9 years later they were happy to take my money but not get me married and make my future.
At the age of 25 in 2001 I got married to a fellow Muslim and moved out of my parents house taking my cash card with me. My parents gave me nothing towards my wedding, no clothes, no gifts, nothing. We bought a house which needed a lot of work doing on it. 1 year later we moved into rented accommodation so we could get work done on our own house because I was heavily pregnant. Shortly afterwards my daughter was born and my mother came to visit 1 year later. She went to my husband when he was on his own and told him that my dad was going to throw her out and she needed the keys for our house so that she could stay there. My husband gave her the keys to our house because he believed her. My mum went home and told my dad that my house was going to auction because I couldn’t afford it and I had given her the keys. She had lied to my husband and to my dad, she kept the keys to my house for around 18 months in which time she had rented the house out to and English couple and was using the rental income to pay the mortgage. My mum decided to go on holiday for 4 weeks to Pakistan and we wanted our house back, my husband climbed in through the window of our house and had the locks changed. We also told the couple who were renting it to leave. When my mum returned she was very angry and demanded us to pay her £2000 claiming that she had spent it on the house. We gave her the £2000 and now she wants another £1800 claiming that she spent that on the house also.
I am writing to ask you, do I have to pay her even though she took money off me for 9 years and didn’t get me married or give me anything for my wedding?
None of the money that I gave to them was ever spent on me, even all the electrical items and other items I had taken to Pakistan when I was supposed to get married my mother gave everything to my younger sister for her wedding.
I have asked various people and they have said that in Islam you don’t take from daughters, if anything parents are supposed to give.
Please could you advise me on this matter?
Jazakallah
