[Poem] The Sorrow Of Growing Old Yet Still A Single Woman

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Assalaamu 'alaykum!
It is said that a woman wrote the following poem from al-Baahah Mountain. It was written because she was forbidden from marriage until she became so old that few were interested in marrying her. She said:

When my fingertips wrote my letter, tears were flowing from my eyes.
I sent it to my affluent father who embraced me with protection and affection.

I sent it, and it contained that which I could not say; but what my heart and soul desires.

I sent it and tears fell upon its ink and I wrote it from a puzzling situation.

I kept it hidden from the most important one, but it did not prevent me from breaking from this concealment.

When I think of my drowning indeed my gray hair ignites as if my gray hair was luminous.

O you who are put off due to my old age.

Indeed, years of sadness have already passed.

When I see children, my tears flow, my heart burns from the fire of my deprivation.

When I see another woman living with her husband and her child sleeping in the nursery.

When I see her and her love with her child.

Your hand afflicts my heart with something.

O you who have not been killed by sorrow killed without a bow and arrow?

O you who make the Laws of my Lord like this.

Isn't it a requirement to have a husband and a child?

This is the fair and wise judgement of Allaah.

Indeed my Lord required it of mankind.

If you desire my salary and my profession then take what you like without any sin.

But if you seek to sell your daughter to whoever will pay a large sum, which is a different matter.

This, by the Lord of the House, is a terrible sale.

Like the sale of a sheep and two lambs.

By flaunting your gain do not waste my future or what time is sufficiently wasted.

If you do not stop and do not heed my letter, know that Allaah will never forget me.

The Day of Judgement we will be called to hold account by the one God, Ad-Dayyaan.

And Hell will come with the angels around it, and you will see tongues from fire.

There you will know the rights of every daughter that you jailed without right under your authority!​

[Taken from "Supporting The Rights Of Believing Women" by Umm Salamah, Pp. 48-50]
 

Aapa

Mirajmom
Assalaam walaikum,

This is culture and not Islam. The families are so bigoted and money hungry they do not care about the daughters but need to save face. This is an area that women need to reinvestigate. This is oppression as it is not Islamic.

Why reduce a woman to tears because the ignorant father chooses his culture of Islam.

Where are the sisters who could talk sense to men who refuse to marry the females. They enjoyed their lives and were not in servitude to their parents. Why not just get a slave.

And sister do not cry. Life is to be lived and there is a lot of life outside of marriage. If men are not going to marry the Muslim woman..do not worry. Live your life but not under the servitude of ignorant men. Move on.

There is no shame in being unmarried. The shame is cultural.
 

Asja

Pearl of Islaam
Assalamu allaicum wa raahmatullah wa baarkatuhu

Jazzak Allah khair dear brother for sharing with us this sad story. Allah is teaching us that we should always fear of Him, in every situacion of our life and in every matter,and it is not just and good infront of Allah, that father or girl Wali does not marry his daughter Astagfirullah. May Allah protect all Muslims sisters from that as marriage is very importante part of Islaam and protector from Fitnah.Ameen summa ameen

Allah The Almighty says: “Among His signs is that He created for you spouses from yourselves so that you might find repose with them. And He has placed between you affection and mercy. In that there are certainly signs for people who reflect.” (Surah ar Rum: Ayah 22).

May Allah guide us all.

:wasalam:
 
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