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currently trying to not get "frustrated" about my process of getting married... last sunday... me and my family went to see a sister and her family that we don't know nor they know us!!!!... we were told that this sister wants to get married, so we had the "meeting" this last sunday.... anyways, we went there, they were very generous and welcoming... the sister was in her room... most likely saw us coming from her window to the apartment building, so she saw me before i did... took her about 8 minutes to come out of her room... when she came out, she sat with females where i can see her and see saw me... each one of us took a pick at each other indirectly, never talked to each other... as i said they were very generous, prepared tea and large meal afterward in which we were not expecting nor did we want them to do all that... at the whole time, there was very nice conversation between men and between women... i had a good talk with her sister's husband (she doesn't have a father), and my sister had a good talk with her and her sister and mother... at all the time they were very nice and (as i saw) they accepted me....
she is "acceptable" as in beauty part (my sister said that she's beautiful)... however, I liked the way they treated us and the next day i told my sister to call them and tell them that i like that sister and see what they think... her sister's response was that they didn't have time to sit and talk about me!!!???... she told my sister that she would get back to her at the end of the day (yesterday) with her (sister i liked) response... till now no response!!! i guess this means NO....
now, what "frustrate" me is the no response with the "all okay situation we had on sunday".... haaaaaaaaaa, i don't get it... this is my first experience of this "refusal" situation
when i try to think of any reason why she would say/think NO... we are same height, may be she wants someone taller!!!... i am 24 she's 23 yrs old, may be she wants older person???? but she knew that i was 24 before i went there!!!! i couldn't think of any other reason really... i usually get attention from other females of my age as ALHAMDULILAH i am "built/athletic" even though i have a beard and look like a muslim... customers (females) likes my attitude/funny and some try to push it and tries to have a relationship but alhamdulilah, i always back off and don't start anything... big fitnah ... that's one of the reasons i want to get married....
now, my question... how do you sisters THINK?!!!! (i know that not all sisters are the same...)
i been told that females usually have "dreams" that can't be real except by lies ... a prince/rich/charming person, a perfect person that they dream of!!!!?
is marring a younger sister (less than 20 yrs old) more successful than an older sister since the older sister have her own plans planned already while a younger sister is in the process of doing so and would be easier to adjust to her husband's plans????... the brothers i know who got married with younger sisters (16,17,18 yrs old) have no problems AT ALL!!!!
are most of the sisters in the west have this mentality of "independence" and the no need for a husband to "tell me what to do"???? instead of "obeying" her husband as long as his not requesting of something haram????
i am trying to understand how females in general think ...
currently trying to not get "frustrated" about my process of getting married... last sunday... me and my family went to see a sister and her family that we don't know nor they know us!!!!... we were told that this sister wants to get married, so we had the "meeting" this last sunday.... anyways, we went there, they were very generous and welcoming... the sister was in her room... most likely saw us coming from her window to the apartment building, so she saw me before i did... took her about 8 minutes to come out of her room... when she came out, she sat with females where i can see her and see saw me... each one of us took a pick at each other indirectly, never talked to each other... as i said they were very generous, prepared tea and large meal afterward in which we were not expecting nor did we want them to do all that... at the whole time, there was very nice conversation between men and between women... i had a good talk with her sister's husband (she doesn't have a father), and my sister had a good talk with her and her sister and mother... at all the time they were very nice and (as i saw) they accepted me....
she is "acceptable" as in beauty part (my sister said that she's beautiful)... however, I liked the way they treated us and the next day i told my sister to call them and tell them that i like that sister and see what they think... her sister's response was that they didn't have time to sit and talk about me!!!???... she told my sister that she would get back to her at the end of the day (yesterday) with her (sister i liked) response... till now no response!!! i guess this means NO....
now, what "frustrate" me is the no response with the "all okay situation we had on sunday".... haaaaaaaaaa, i don't get it... this is my first experience of this "refusal" situation
when i try to think of any reason why she would say/think NO... we are same height, may be she wants someone taller!!!... i am 24 she's 23 yrs old, may be she wants older person???? but she knew that i was 24 before i went there!!!! i couldn't think of any other reason really... i usually get attention from other females of my age as ALHAMDULILAH i am "built/athletic" even though i have a beard and look like a muslim... customers (females) likes my attitude/funny and some try to push it and tries to have a relationship but alhamdulilah, i always back off and don't start anything... big fitnah ... that's one of the reasons i want to get married....
now, my question... how do you sisters THINK?!!!! (i know that not all sisters are the same...)
i been told that females usually have "dreams" that can't be real except by lies ... a prince/rich/charming person, a perfect person that they dream of!!!!?
is marring a younger sister (less than 20 yrs old) more successful than an older sister since the older sister have her own plans planned already while a younger sister is in the process of doing so and would be easier to adjust to her husband's plans????... the brothers i know who got married with younger sisters (16,17,18 yrs old) have no problems AT ALL!!!!
are most of the sisters in the west have this mentality of "independence" and the no need for a husband to "tell me what to do"???? instead of "obeying" her husband as long as his not requesting of something haram????
i am trying to understand how females in general think ...