Hello. The question I'm going to ask is really important to me and i really wish that somebody could come up with the good answer. I'm planning to get married. The things is that there was a physical contact between me and my future husband earlier. We regretted truly after that and decided to start all over again without touching. It's been a year since we are not having any physical contact(not even handshaking). We want everything to be pure before marriage is that is possible anyhow. However, we are tormented by the guilty conscience of our earlier mistakes. The worst thing is that there were some people that saw us hugging or even kissing in public. My reputation is ruined. They will always think that i am not responsible of my body and consider me impure. My future husband tried to convince those people that now we are different people, we changed. Moreover, he tried to 'fix' my reputation that was labelled 'bad' from the very beginning (because I am a Christian, so even if i didnt 'touch' him, i would be considered 'easy girl'; Europe=bad) It was all in vain. He said they would always think the other way. He is extremely tortured by this, too. We are really going through a hard period. He lives in the Middle East, me in Europe. But we have feelings for each other. And we do understand each other very good I'm planning to covert into Islam. This is my decision. We will probably live in the Middle East. The 'problem' may sound 'stupid' but it is very important for us. By gossiping, my reputation will probably get worse and worse. I know how things function in the Arab world. If we don't get over this, we will probably not be married. Is there anything that we can do to make those people 'shut up'? I know it is me and my future husband that are to blame. It's our fault that we let them see us being intimate in public. But, if we repented sincerely and if we are trying to be better people day after day, can we make things better, too?
thank you for your reading and possible reply
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