should i live as hypocrite (double-faced) :(

[ahmed_indian]

:salam2:

here in saudi arabia its easy for me to support sharia law, no music, polygamy is allowed, women cover their face, etc.

but if i say all this back home in india where majority are non-muslims and many muslims also dont understand islam properly, they'll run off frm me and call me fanatic. they might then not listen to me even in other matters like tauheed, salah, no alcohol,etc.

so wht should i do? nod my head "yes" with their false ideas or just keep my mouth shut like a mute shaitan?

 

[BinKhadija]

Do none of above akhi, I would say. Neither agree completely when you are asked about your opinoins and nor keep complete silent. Do one thing: EDUCATE THEM! Yes, I think we need to spread actual teachings the best we can. I believe you are asking this cos of family members back there, so to deal on this small level just speak to them about it and let them know what actual Islamic Law is all about. What is Shariah and its implications. If we do our best, we'll be clear on the Day of Judgment. Insha'Allah.

I've same problems myself actually; and would like to hear if someone has a better advice and/or tips on it.

 

[a_muslimah86]

:salam2:

You shouldn't akhi...

In our Eastern societies people have *egos*..often they believe that they are correct in everything they believe and/or do...so when someone comes and tells them *you're wrong*...it's like a *defensiveness* button is pushed on..and then you either get lectured..or worst..get flat-out insulted...

The best things to do are...

1. Do not budge on your stand against things that are haram or even makrooh...for example if you're in the car with a friend..and they turn on music..ask that they please turn it off because you do not listen to music..don't say why do you listen to music..don't comment on music..or anything..just ask him to turn it off as if you're doing it *for yourself*...when you show a strong stand against these things..it will get people thinking and perhaps even *acting* the way you do because they might seen an example in you...a lot of times people do feel guilty and start to *think to themselves* about how they behave as Muslims when they see people like that about what's haram and such...

2. If the issues are major..or you feel that you need to *talk* to people..talk *privately* to them..yes it might sound strenuous to do because that would require a lot of time..but if you're doing it for the sake of Allah..then a lifetime dedicated to this matter wouldn't be enough!..the reason why I say privately is because..a lot of times people misunderstand and think you're trying to "embarrass" them..so to "save face" they lash-out on you (you know the deal with this too akhi..it's an "Eastern" thing)..when you do it in private and gently..then they might realize that you're only giving naseeha..and open their hearts and minds to your words

Point is though...do not remain silent on anything that is haram or makrooh..even if people walk away or think you're fanatic...one day they might *in-fact* think about your words..so don't keep them to yourself..and your ajer is with Allah (sobhanaho wa ta'ala)

 

[ahmed_indian]

jazaak Allah khair....

bro BinKhadija for advice.

and sis a_muslimah86. it was really helpful piece of knowledge.

but sometimes i wonder how to explain niqab to a muslim girl who wears knee length uniform. i think she'll go mad on me.

 

[Al-Kashmiri]

jazaak Allah khair....

bro BinKhadija for advice.

and sis a_muslimah86. it was really helpful piece of knowledge.

but sometimes i wonder how to explain niqab to a muslim girl who wears knee length uniform. i think she'll go mad on me.

As-salaamu `alaykum

Well, you have to think realistically. Lecturing such a girl about the niqaab woildn't make much sense, as such a change would be a big one. Change takes time. It takes days, months and even years. It wouldn't be proper to tell a Muslimah who dresses in such a way that she must observe a niqaab, because if it is done without extreme care, it will have a wrong and imposing effect. First you should warn her and Allaah knows best, about the hadeeth wherein the Prophet, sall-Allaahu `alayhi wasallam, mentioned that women who where tight-fitted clothing will be 500 years from the fragrance of jannah, etc. And before that, address any of the twisted ideas that may lead her to believe such a thing is ok, be it desires or doubts.

Allaah knows best.

 

[BinKhadija]

but sometimes i wonder how to explain niqab to a muslim girl who wears knee length uniform. i think she'll go mad on me.

Through a respected woman whom you know e.g. your mother or an elder sister? (I have assumed that the girl in the question is your some cousin.)

With the exception of blood sisters, I won't talk to anyone on such a sensitive topic myself. It's not appropriate in many ways.

Barak Allah feekum, akhi.

 

[Al-Kashmiri]

Through a respected woman whom you know e.g. your mother or an elder sister? (I have assumed that the girl in the question is your some cousin.)

With the exception of blood sisters, I won't talk to anyone on such a sensitive topic myself. It's not appropriate in many ways.

Barak Allah feekum, akhi.

As-salaamu `alaykum

That's definitely true. The most that should probably done in terms of da`wah, is to conduct ourselves as a Muslims should, when around them. It's very disheartening to see our sisters dress in such a manner.