SIsters know your rights!!

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I think it's important for us, sisters to know our rights, so here are few rights :

The first right of the wife is to receive mahr (dowry) from her husband. Islam has made it legally obligatory on the husband to pay her a reasonable amount of mahr, the amount of which is determined by an agreement between the two of them. No marriage can be regarded as legally valid unless the mahr has been agreed upon.

Receiving maintenance is the second right of the wife. The Qur'an says:

'Let the man of means spend according to his means, and the man whose ressources are restricted spend according to what Allah has given him. Allah puts no burden on any person beyond whant He has given him. After difficulty, Allah will grant relief' Surah Talaq, verse 7.

The wife should never demand more than what the husband can afford and must live cheerfully within his means without complaint if possible! He must provide shelter, clothing and food for her, even if she is wealthy and he is poor.

The third right of the wife is to have a residence according to her husband's means where both can live freely.

The wife's fourth right is to receive kind treatement form the husband and in a good manner. If there is more than one wife, he must treat them equally. Allah tells us in Surah an-Nisa, verse 19: 'Live with them (wives) on a footing of kindness and equity. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing while Allah has placed abundant good in it'.

It is narrated by Aisha (May Allah be please with her) that she heard the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon Him) SAY: 'The best among you is the one who is best to his wives.' (Tirmidhi).

 

[najbc]

i am to sorry to ask thsi but why does the guy who is marry the girl have to pay pay or something. If you go to the store you buy a product and I am not a product, so why is money been pay by me.

 

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From Islam Questions and Answers:

I would like to know the Islamic view point of Dowry. Is it permisible or is it a sin? If it is wrong, what should a person do who has taken dowry?

Praise be to Allaah.

In Islam the mahr (dowry) is one of the rights of the wife, which is hers to take in total and is lawful for her, in contrast to the widespread practice in some countries, where the wife is given no dowry. Evidence that the wife must be given her dowry is found in many places, for example the aayah (interpretation of the meaning): “And give to the women (whom you marry) their mahr (obligatory bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart…” [al-Nisaa’ 4:4]

Ibn ‘Abbaas said: “This refers to the mahr (dowry).”

Ibn Katheer, may Allaah have mercy on him, said, summarizing the comments of the mufassireen on this aayah: “The man must definitely pay the dowry to the woman, and he should not resent it.”

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “But if you intend to replace a wife by another and you have given one of them a cantar (of gold, i.e., a great amount) as mahr, take not the least bit of it back; would you take it wrongfully without a right and (with) a manifest sin? And how could you take it (back) when you have gone in unto each other, and they have taken from you a firm and strong covenant?” [al-Nisaa’ 4:20-21]

Ibn Katheer, may Allaah have mercy on him, said: “This means: if any one of you wants to divorce his wife and replace her with another, you should not take anything from what you have already given the first wife, even if it was a huge amount of wealth. The mahr is given in exchange for the right to enjoy marital relations. For this reason Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And how could you take it (back) when you have gone in unto each other…?” The “firm and strong covenant” is the marriage contract.

Anas ibn Maalik, may Allaah be pleased with him, reported that ‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn ‘Awf came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and there were traces of yellow (perfume) on him. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asked him about it, and he told him that he had just married a woman of the Ansaar. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asked him, “How much did you give her?” He said: “Gold equal to the weight of one date stone.” The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Give a waleemah (wedding feast) even if only with one sheep.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4756).

The mahr is the right of the wife, and it is not permitted for her father or anyone else to take it except with her approval. Abu Saalih said: “When a man married off his daughter, he would take her mahr away from her, but Allaah forbade them to do that, and gave women the right to the mahr they received.” (Tafseer Ibn Katheer).

Similarly, if the wife foregoes any part of the mahr, the husband is permitted to take it, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “… but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm (as Allaah has made it lawful).” [al-Nisaa’ 4:4]

And Allaah knows best