salam
I get this question all the time and I always say "Im a believer of God"... I wanna say im Muslim BUT I dont think its right to tell people my religion when my own famly doesnt know yet... anyone else here agree? Why should I tell friends and strangers when my family should be the first to know... its not fair to them.
Dear,
Al-salamu Alaikum,
This is a fcat that you have some friends that know almost everything about you while your faimly do not know everything about you. If those friends of you know that you are a muslim now, it does not hurt. Apart from this limited number of friends, your family should be the first one who know about your new faith.
How to tell your famly:
Try to hange your behaviour at home positively. Love them more than you did before, respect them more than you did before, help them more than you did before. Then you will be notable at home and they ask you why you have become someone else, of course better than before? Explain to them that you want to be a good man and to be a good one, it requires you be helpful, respectful, etc. Choose your mum the first one to tell about your new faith. Of course when the others are absent. Do not tell her:"Mum! I have become a Muslim!" But rather gently explain to her that in Islam mums are very much respected. Tell a hadith like:"The paradise laid beneath the feet of the mothers." Then you can open her heart to accept you with your new faith, since you have changed positively, you are talking about what is good for her, for everybody. This is really a critical moment, get ready for this moment. It will be a part of your history; the time you announce your convert to the most lovable member of your famiy. It is really wonderful! Please be kind and patient, expect any kind of reaction, whatever reaction they may have lasts for one hour, after that you will successfully pass this test, inshaAllah. Do not be afraid at all, you converted to Islam that gives you dignity, you should be proud of it. On the other hand none is worth fearing, but Allah.
I will be extremly happy if I hear from you that now you've announced your being a muslima.
Wish you all the best
Rawa, UK