Some questions

hayat84

I'm not what you believe
SO you speak Arabic language?How little is the world...I like writing poetries too...About my anger,I haven't found this root yet,it comes to me without advertiseing me,so that while I'm thinking to help someone,I get angry in general...It's complicated,it was denied me my childhood and do you know what I do now that I am 25 years old?I play with my daughters' toys!!!I'm angry because everyone has a mum to kiss and a dad to embrace,but me,I feel sad and angry to those persons who didn't give me the love I needed,so I search this feeling In helping someone or reading Quran,but I still feel empty because I miss the love of my parents:I will pray for you and all muslims,ok?subhana rabbika rabba l 'izzati 'amma yasifun wa salamun 'ala lmursalin wa lhamdu lillahi rabbi l 'alamin
 

a_stranger

Junior Member
:salam2:

Dear sister : now you are doing a great job by being a good wife and caring mother ...you should avoid the mistakes of your parents and give plenty of love to your children ....if you don`t have money to feed others no blame on you ....Allah sobhanahu wa taala is giving you the opporunity in a most perfect way by being a mother and a wife ;this is not a simple job ...i pray that you can get a very high place in Janna if you do your job perfectly ( as much as you can) with an intention to please your Lord ........ sometimes Allah give us a very good chance but we are blind to see and think far away while the hasanat are very close to our hands .......I pray that Allah open the gates of good deeds for us all AAmen
 

hayat84

I'm not what you believe
this is it I will do,thank you dear sister,now I know what I have to do,I'll continue to pray,take care of my children,listen to my husband and be patient.I hope to contribute in this forum too,because there is so much to learn...bye bye
 

iloveislam78

Junior Member
salam sis hayat

sister i understand, but remember many have past lifes in which they have experienced trauma greater then yourself, your not the only one remember that sister no one leads a perfect life this is dunya!!!

Thanks for your dua sis *!*!*!xx
 

hayat84

I'm not what you believe
:salam2:now everything is cleare than before.thanks to all the brothers and sisters who shared wiht me this experience and I hope you will continue to give me more informations,so that I'll be able to help the others:hijabi:
 

hayat84

I'm not what you believe
:salam2:
hallo there...I am going to pose another question:What about writing and eating with the left hand?I read some hadith about this argument,and I wish to know if left hand is really the hand of Shaytan.I saw lots of muslims writing with this hand...And what about having bad,dirty dreams,must a muslim woman purificate if she made a dream in which she is considered in status of Junuba,even if it was a dream?I wish to be perfect in each action,so I hope to full myself of right informations.
I considered that in the last times I'm feeling "out of place".I maybe understood that my place far from people and among my brothers and sisters in Islam.I feel good only thinking to Allah.Now I'm ennoied even to go out and buy what I need for the house.I miss mosque and adhan;i miss all my sisters in Morocco.Thank you for helping me to be better:tti_sister:
 

Aapa

Mirajmom
Assalaam walaikum,

You are only 25 years old. You need to slow down. You can not isolate yourself from life. We are encouraged to enjoy life. The Prophet, may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, sent emissaries. We gain knowledge from the world. Go to the store. Sister a husband is a companion. However, you have to have a little life of your own. If marriage is a garden you need to tend to it. You need to plant flowers so he and your children can enjoy them. Think of the good things in life. There are many good people out there. Do not drive yourself crazy by being perfect..try to be good.
 

ShyHijabi

Junior Member
Asalaam aleakum,

Sister, you are permitted to write with your left hand. However we are instructed to eat with our right hand and we also cleanse outselves after using the restroom with our left. In the end it is a matter of good hygeine to use seperate hands for eating and cleaning oneself.

If one has an arousing dream here's a fatwa that gives instruction:
http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/9208/wet%20dream Having theses dreams does not make you bad or dirty, rather it's just a natural occurance.
 

hayat84

I'm not what you believe
yes,you are right,but think that in the day of Judgment,nor family neither money will help us to be saved.it will rest only our actions.I love my family,but I'm keeping awareness of the fact that one day they will leave me alone,So I'm not trying to isolate myself,instead I'm searching for more quietness and that's why even if I'm only 25 years old I'm feeling higher than my age.In my past I tried every experience,but now that I'm muslima,if Malak al Maut arrives to me and asks me to choose the day I wish to die,I'd like to die instantly.I feel like the prophet(SAWS)felt when it was showed him the death.
 

Aapa

Mirajmom
Assalaam walaikum,


Sister when we enter Islam we begin a new life. We pray that Allah grant us the faith and courage to not go back to the a lifeless life. We step forward. We all have made mistakes and had experiences that make us more understanding of the need for Allah subhana talla.
 

4mMadara2Amina

Junior Member
...Salam alykom Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu....

:salam2::astag:.I'm shocked,I really was blind not to think about Fitna.So I always had bad thoughts even if they were made in my mind and with my husband.You are right!What about liking some actors or singers?are they bad thoughts?My husband knows I like the songs of Michael Jackson and he gave me his dvd,I use to listen his songs,but nothing more.I like romantic films.Even if I'm in privacy with my partner is it hara to watch a film in which there are kisses scenes?:tti_sister:Football players of saudi arabia are they also font of Fitna because they play?I went one time to a chinese restaurant wearing hijab:I was a little ashamed,not because of hijab,but because none had invited me in that place but my husband.I'm a true sinner,but thanks to ypur words I understood more:ma:

What exactly is Fitna?:blackhijab:
 

shichemlydia

Junior Member
salam alikoum sister;
this life is the paradise of non believers and the jail of believers. good repentence to allah swt means that you do not wish to go back to your sins as you do not want allah swt to throw you in the hell fire. your husband should not ask you whether you want to go ti disco or cinema, he should show more care about you, try to devote your life to islam; and enjoy what is halal in islam.....
may allah swt keep you away from haram things and make you satisfied with what he made halal to his people, ameen
salam alikoum
 

hayat84

I'm not what you believe
salam 'alik,Fitna,as I learnt,is everything that could give oppression,and far away a muslim from his Siratu-l-mustaqim.Fitna is illegacity,hurting someone is Fitna and looking or listening anything wrong to our eyes,is temptation to do mistakes,it is Fitna.I read in this thread some' brother's answer about this argument,and it may clear your doubts.
 

hayat84

I'm not what you believe
sister,I arrived till today,thank to Allah and to each one of you,I saw my direction in this life.I was only tempted to go to disco,because shaytan closed my eyes with the pleasures of that place,but there is nothing good in a place like that.What you're saying me it has been written some days ago.Now I am another Hayat.now I feel free,that's why I'm doing lots of questions about Islam and the behaviour toward its.Since the day I have the chanche to have internet I'm learning more than I studied in 13 years of school.
 

hayat84

I'm not what you believe
:salam2:
I make you some other questions:is it halal for muslis donate their organs after the death and during life?It was asked to me if I would do so when I'll die,but I gave no answer,first of all because I thought to my dearest relatives who may need one of my organ one day;and in second time,I wish to preserve all my body,when my day will arrive.Allah gave me a complete body,what will I say when He will ask me<Where are your body parts?>.I'm mixed with egoysm too,because even if my body will be lifeless,I don't want that some doctor touches it to donate something mine to another one.I don't want to die in Italy and I don't want to share my dead organs.What do you answer me?
Another questio:is it right to make birhtday party and make gifts?:ma:
 
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