muslimah sister
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what should one do is spouse is taking drugs (cocaine)?:angryred::angryred:
spouse is taking drugs
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SALAMALAKIUM SISTER, ALL DRUGS ARE BAD BUT COCAINE IS A VERY DANGEROUS DRUG IT TENDS TO MAKE THE USER MORE VIOLENT AND ANGRY ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY CAN'T GET IT, IT IS ADDICTIVE AND ALL I CAN GIVE FOR ADVICE TO THE PERSON LIVING WITH SOMEONE ON COCAINE IS TO FIRST PRAY TO ALLAH (SWT) AND THEN SEE IF THIS PERSON WANTS TO SEEK HELP TO GET AWAY FROM THE DRUGS, IF THEY DON'T AND HAVE BEEN USING FOR SOME TIME I SUGGEST TO GET SOME SUPPORT FOR YOURSELF SO YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE IN THAT SITUATION, IT'S NOT GOOD FOR YOUR DEEN.OHH SISTER I WILL PRAY FOR HIM,I HATE THE DRUGS THAT ARE DESTROYING SO MANY GOOD PEOPLE,BUT DON'T TRY TO CHANGE THIS PERSON YOU MAY GET HURT IN THE LLONG RUN,IF THEY WANT HELP THEY WILL REACH OUT FOR IT BUT IN THE MEANTIME TRUST ALLAH(SWT)AND MAKE DUA THAT HE WILL HELP WHOEVER IS IN THIS SITUATION.SALAM SISTER I HOPE MY WORDS HELPED.:tti_sister:
Mumin01
Junior Member
O You who believe! Intoxicants and gambling, (dedication of) stones and (divination by) arrows are an abomination of Satan’s handiwork. Avoid (such abominations) that you may prosper. ( Quran 5:90)
["O ye who believe! Persevere in patience and constancy; vie in such perseverance; strengthen each other; and fear Allah. that ye may prosper."(Quran 3:200)
“Oh! You who believe Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allãah, but do that which they are commanded.”
At-Tahrim: 6
["O ye who believe! Persevere in patience and constancy; vie in such perseverance; strengthen each other; and fear Allah. that ye may prosper."(Quran 3:200)
“Oh! You who believe Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allãah, but do that which they are commanded.”
At-Tahrim: 6
salam aleikum
Its really difficult situation .Sister I think the first thing u need to do is to let the family members know ,his parents and your parents ,there should be a solution for this ,like a treatment or something ,if he cant stop on his own,but somebody has to get involved before its too late .
And of course keep making a dua to Allah SWT to help u both,its a test that u and him have to go thru ,may Allah make it easy on you both ...
waaleikum salam
Its really difficult situation .Sister I think the first thing u need to do is to let the family members know ,his parents and your parents ,there should be a solution for this ,like a treatment or something ,if he cant stop on his own,but somebody has to get involved before its too late .
And of course keep making a dua to Allah SWT to help u both,its a test that u and him have to go thru ,may Allah make it easy on you both ...
waaleikum salam
I have had family members with this problem. They get verbally and physically abusive and their sense of reality gets warped. Try to help, but if the spouse refuses to get help and just gets worse, seperate yourself from the person (i am not saying divorce)- especially if you have children. My dad did drugs and he put his meth in his coffee one morning, then gave my mother the wrong coffee cup. She was really sick for days. BE CAREFUL.
jabba
Salafi Dawah is the best
:salam2:
My Quran teach taught me that if a spouse is doing something very wrong then the first thing you should do as a MUslim women is confront the person about what they are doing, if after some time they continue with the same behaviour then as the women you should seek divorce. I was told that this is to be done in situations that are serious, which yours definately is. Drugs only split famlies apart and it's no way to have an Islamic life
muslimah sister
New Member
I do not want to divorce him as we have been married for 10 years and have 3 lovely children. I cannot see my children without a father, it will totally destroy them. It will be very difficult to bring them up on my own, as I believe children should be brought up by both parents. I pray everyday and read all sorts of different dua's and wazeefa's, and I have faith that Allah will make everything better for me. :tti_sister: I ask if every reader could remember me in their dua's and also do dua for my husband. 
Almeftah
Junior Member
a shaihk once said:"when a man attempts to commit a sin, while keeping in mind what punishment he's expected to get, then he won't do it. Just like when a man is brought into some room with a woman in it, and he's been told that he's free to do whatever he wants with her, except that when he finishes with her, he'll have to enter the room next door, where there's fire set just for him, or he can do nothing and walk out".
Steps to help:
1- first thing to do is to advice him with patience, by someone very close to him. and remind him of the consequences, and how its gonna effect his life and the lives of others around him.
2- if that doesnt work, or if his addiction cannot be treated easily, try AAA, or take him to some addiction treatment facility.(by force if necessary)
3- when he becomes clean, stay with him so he wont get the feeling that he needs it agian, treat him with love and kindness.
NOTE: when advising, always praise him.
i hope that works insha Allah.
Steps to help:
1- first thing to do is to advice him with patience, by someone very close to him. and remind him of the consequences, and how its gonna effect his life and the lives of others around him.
2- if that doesnt work, or if his addiction cannot be treated easily, try AAA, or take him to some addiction treatment facility.(by force if necessary)
3- when he becomes clean, stay with him so he wont get the feeling that he needs it agian, treat him with love and kindness.
NOTE: when advising, always praise him.
i hope that works insha Allah.
jabba
Salafi Dawah is the best
:salam2:
I was brought up with just my mom and I can tell you kids get over it....of course that is depending on how you handle the situation, the fact is your husband does cocaine, a very addictive drug, your kids will see this (kids see a lot more of what's going on than you may think) and might end up copying his behaviour esp when they are teenagers. This is 100%b unIslamic and you putting up with this and the situation you've enable your children to be around is something you will have to answer to on the day of judgement
aishah_2304m
peace lover
asalamualikyum wr wb muslimah sister.....i understand w8 ur goin thru but Allah says in da quran dat 4 evry hardship der s a relief...sister i jus found dis q&a article n i feel it ll b helpful 4 u insha Allah.....jazaaq Allah khair sis!...Allah s watchin over u n v sisters r all der 4 u!!..
u ll b n ma prayer n duas!:blackhijab:
Question:
MY BROTHER IS TAKING ECSTASY DRUGS AND I MADE HIM UNDERSTAND IT IS HARAAM. hE IS SAYING IT IS WRONG BUIT IT IS DIFFERENT TO WINE AND HE IS PERSISTING IN IT.
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
No doubt your brother is in a state of major crisis, and we ask Allaah to help you to deal with this crisis.
1-We advise you to be kind and gentle when you deal with him and advise him, because attention must be paid to his condition, just as with all other sick people – whether they are suffering from a disease of the mind or of the body.
2-You have to do everything you can to stop him from having the drugs and to stop him from meeting the bad friends who are giving or selling him the stuff and thus helping him to do wrong.
3-You should not give him anything he wants, if you can withhold it from him, until he gives up what he is doing.
4-We advise you to consult with a specialist doctor who can treat him properly until he gets better and gives up this habit.
5-If he has young sons or daughters, or brothers and sisters, we suggest that they should also advise him and denounce what he is doing. Perhaps then he will give up because he feels ashamed in front of his children or siblings.
6-You could describe to him, with the support of other people’s testimonials, how he looks and behaves when he is in an intoxicated state and is out of his mind, so that when he comes back to his senses he will see the evil sin that he has committed.
7-Do not forget to pray to Allaah to help him to get rid of this habit. Try to make du’aa’ during the last third of the night, and may Allaah show you the way out. We ask Allaah to guide him and to give you patience. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.
u ll b n ma prayer n duas!:blackhijab:
Question:
MY BROTHER IS TAKING ECSTASY DRUGS AND I MADE HIM UNDERSTAND IT IS HARAAM. hE IS SAYING IT IS WRONG BUIT IT IS DIFFERENT TO WINE AND HE IS PERSISTING IN IT.
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
No doubt your brother is in a state of major crisis, and we ask Allaah to help you to deal with this crisis.
1-We advise you to be kind and gentle when you deal with him and advise him, because attention must be paid to his condition, just as with all other sick people – whether they are suffering from a disease of the mind or of the body.
2-You have to do everything you can to stop him from having the drugs and to stop him from meeting the bad friends who are giving or selling him the stuff and thus helping him to do wrong.
3-You should not give him anything he wants, if you can withhold it from him, until he gives up what he is doing.
4-We advise you to consult with a specialist doctor who can treat him properly until he gets better and gives up this habit.
5-If he has young sons or daughters, or brothers and sisters, we suggest that they should also advise him and denounce what he is doing. Perhaps then he will give up because he feels ashamed in front of his children or siblings.
6-You could describe to him, with the support of other people’s testimonials, how he looks and behaves when he is in an intoxicated state and is out of his mind, so that when he comes back to his senses he will see the evil sin that he has committed.
7-Do not forget to pray to Allaah to help him to get rid of this habit. Try to make du’aa’ during the last third of the night, and may Allaah show you the way out. We ask Allaah to guide him and to give you patience. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.
gazkour
Junior Member
assalamo alikom wa rahmato Allah wa barato
I completely agree with Jabba.
:salam2:
I was brought up with just my mom and I can tell you kids get over it....of course that is depending on how you handle the situation, the fact is your husband does cocaine, a very addictive drug, your kids will see this (kids see a lot more of what's going on than you may think) and might end up copying his behaviour esp when they are teenagers. This is 100%b unIslamic and you putting up with this and the situation you've enable your children to be around is something you will have to answer to on the day of judgement
I completely agree with Jabba.